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Lately, I had an interesting conversation with a friend here on WordPress about how to avoid disappointment. It made me think of a former co-worker of mine.
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When I had my blogging break after Christmas, I used the time too for going through old posts and “renovate” them. I came across this one I posted in 2016. When I went through it, I got that feeling that it needs to be shared again. I hope the person(s) it is meant for will find some inspiration:
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This post is highly inspired by a discussion between Gail, Mark, and myself. The topic of fear never ceases to affect our lives in some way. Be it our own fears or those of people we encounter or are close to.
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While I’m still deleting and revising older posts, from time to time, I came across this one. It is a simple one of my very early blogging days. But right that made me think about how many times I have fallen into this trap since I wrote it. Not only does it apply to how I handle my little world, but also to the difficulties the whole world has been facing for the past few years. Starting with climate change, to a pandemic, to the war in Ukraine. All this affects everyone in one way or another. But we must not lose ourselves in the crisis we are facing. Only by keeping in mind how many blessings we still are granted, do we gain the strength to make it through and bring about the change that this world so desperately needs.
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When I let my thoughts fly free
Nothing holds me down
When I hold my limits high
Only my feet do touch the ground
Recently, I talked to a neighbor, and she told me about her little daughter being diagnosed with diabetes. She said that she is working on solely thinking of her daughter as healthy, avoiding any negative thoughts, and believing that all will be well again while this is only a temporary condition. It reminded me of a post I published more than four years ago:
Your life is going well. You are not bothering too much with tasks of occasional challenges. You are easy-going that makes you face any task just as something that needs to be done. You are not in need to keep yourself positive because you simply are.
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I don’t know about you, but I am one of those who tend to push themselves to always have a solution at hand. It may have to do with the desire to help others and to be in control of life. It may also have to do with trained pressure to perform if you were constantly under the expectation to deliver the best results.
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Because it is a reflex. Have you noticed that some people ask about how someone is doing, and then they say: “I am glad to hear because then I don’t need to worry.” When I hear that, I promptly say: “Exactly, you never need to.” It appears that some show their compassion by the grade they worry about something or someone. But what’s that for? It only adds negative vibes to someone that already tries to stay as positive as possible.
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On Instagram, I saw posts about #NoFilterDay. That got me thinking. Does this mean that a lot of people post pictures of themselves with filters, basically? I am not talking about the funny filters with dog tongues, cat ears, and distorted faces but filters that make them look “better” (whatever that means). I never paid attention to this until now because I don’t use such things myself. Is it because these people want to impress others by looking a certain way that they think will get them more followers, or don’t they simply like the way they look? When I think about our “selfie” society, where people focus on themselves and the importance of what they do and eat all day, this would make sense.
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I am happy for all of my American friends that they will once again be able to celebrate this day under an administration that represents the importance and meaning of this day in its actions.
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Every other week, I am publishing an audio meditation on my website erikakind.com. Usually, I am doing group meditations in person, but due to the Corona situation, I switch to the audio option. However, the topic of this week is bringing clarity, balance, and steadfastness into life. To achieve that, we need to let go of illusions or self-imposed pressure due to the requirements we set ourselves.
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We are talking a lot about unveiling the ego and letting go of its destructive grip. It is much easier said than done. For years, the ego has grown as part of our own development. Of course, it depends a lot on the inner steadfastness we had in our younger years and on how much influence we let happen. Also, it depends on how long we got influenced, and at the time, the ego has gotten to grow from us feeding it with our convictions and experiences which were created through the eyes of the ego again… a pretty vicious circle, isn’t it?
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As the years go by we are making so many experiences. Sometimes we don’t even notice how the experiences shape us unconsciously. Happenings in childhood, the way we were raised, the circle of our friends, opinions we create, decisions we make, and the consequences of it all which we put together individually in the mind… which actually forms how we experience what we experience and how we move on.
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First thoughts may be doing what I want, no obligations, no duties, only taking care of myself and my needs. Perhaps this comes to mind first because barely someone can do this. But let’s pretend to go for this. It would lead to isolation pretty soon because it would mean to lock everyone out. In thinking we’d free ourselves we’d send ourselves in a home-made prison.
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I think there is no one who looks back at life and can say that there has never been a time when they were hurt by someone. Perhaps from the outside, it may have looked like a trifle but inside that particular person, it reached a very weak point. When more of such trifle episodes happen it becomes a wound growing wound which even becomes infected. Each tiny thing that adds to it can hurt so much more than if it had fallen on healthy ground. Even years or decades later, a single thought can trigger the memory and those hurtings can feel as if they just happened.
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A lot of people came to my mind who gave their last for someone who took that all for granted or who used them deliberately. Read more ›
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Last week I was talking about ignoring the bad behavior of other people in order to free ourselves from their power over us and for preventing us from dimming our precious light. But there is another point where ignorance can act as a supportive tool of development: Fear Read more ›
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Due to the current situation regarding my job, I want to reblog a post from a couple years ago. Sometimes you are chances offered and since you won’t let them pass you take them. You are supported and learn a lot but after a while, it can happen that it doesn’t turn out what you expected it to be. You don’t feel comfortable and actually, it becomes a pain in the neck more and more. Maybe you even get sick from the expectations you cannot fulfill since everything inside you starts rebelling against what you are supposed to do. Instead of getting better over time, it gets worse and worse. You know that a change is inevitable. The tricky point then is to disappoint those who gave you the chances and supported you. Can you let them behind only that you feel better? Can you be so selfish since you know how they rely on you? Sometimes we have to be selfish to move on. Isn’t it actually selfish, too to stay where you are only because you can avoid a conflict with others or with yourself? Perhaps we are taught to make everybody happy but we can’t because there is always this one person being left unhappy: You!
When we are going through life we can find ourselves in situations and circumstances which require our actions. It just happens due to the way we live and also in order to learn and develop from what we experience. Sometimes certain situations not only hold new elements but are simply new and scary all over. We are asked to decide whether staying in the old which we don’t want anymore for a long time already or taking that step into the new completely unknown which feels liberating and deeply scary at the same time. We are aware that we are standing in front of the point of no return.
It can likely happen that we give in again since feeling guilty and perhaps selfish and taking the responsibility for breaking down everything and affecting the lives of others with it can be overwhelming. It is the moment when we need to step aside and reflect. As long as we are in the midst of the emotional stream we will break down physically and mentally at one point. Maybe we really resign because we cannot take it anymore. But that is exactly that point we need to look closer: Do I want to look back and say “I already made it so far but I did not take that last step only because I was too afraid”?
We need to get into an observing and more objective position. We need to remember what brought us so close to that moment of changing our lives. Was it a mood? No, it was an inner conviction. We headed towards that point of no return because of a reason and we need to recall everything. If this recalling fills you again with determination and the knowing that the difficult way again/still feels as the right one then go! Life is more than what was! If we let us direct by our fears or insecurities we will always look at our dreams like at clouds which are blown away by the wind. If we want to live the life we feel as ours inside of us then we need to step up for it. Then we need to take the journey through the thorn bush and risk some scratches. The scratches will heal again but not going through will keep us from ever experiencing the side we already see in our hearts as the life we are supposed to experience.
When a change needs to be made it is normal and actually a good sign that we feel emotional because it shows that what was has a place in our hearts and will always have. Life is change. Life is risking something. If we never risk a change how shall we ever know how it feels to really live? What makes us grow is not the security of our comfort zone but the inspiring fresh air of the world that is waiting behind. Our comfort zone is a small limited space within a universe of possibilities. Yes, it needs a bit courage to step over the limit line but you feel it in your heart when it is time to do it. Reflect, remember why you got at this point and motivate yourself for not backing out again! You don’t need to explain it to anyone. It is enough when you feel it deep inside that it is time to leave for more!
Remember that all you do will lead you towards the destinations you are meant to arrive. The reason you are standing at a turning point is that you have either grown too big or that you learned what you needed and now can continue on the main street again. So, don’t be afraid and take action. Yes, we might disappoint others but as long as we don’t act in deliberately hurting others it is simply life. We are disappointed too and have to learn how to deal with it. Taking responsibility, making that step consciously, and following that path determined will empower you even more because you know that YOU did it. You stepped up for yourself and dared to take action!
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Lately, I was talking to one of my best friends on the phone. We live about 6000 miles apart but that doesn’t matter since we are friends for 37 years. We haven’t talked to each other for at least 2 1/2 years and only barely texted since both of our lives have become crazily busy. But what is most important in this world? What do we need if we lose everything? Friends! That’s what we both realized when we had some days off over the change of the year. We managed to have a 3 1/2 hour talk. But it was necessary since so much happened in both of our lives and we both needed to update each other.
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We all are products of our habits and our thoughts. Over the years we have come into routines in our lives. Experiences which we stored in our minds have become labeled and whenever a similar experience shows up we open the folder with the fitting label and add it to our collection. We are acting more and more like robots instead of human beings. Read more ›
I dare to say that fear is the origin of most or even all of our problems and troubles. Fear is a blocking filter built by the mind and it keeps us from connecting with the source of power inside of us. Peace, understanding, development, happiness – to sum it up – love, comes from within. Only if we open up the pipeline to that source, which is the origin of our being, we are able to live the life we are supposed to. We need to identify fear as a lie. Fear is a thought, an imagination and nothing else. It never tells the truth and is a big cheater. Read more ›
We are talking a lot about unveiling the ego and letting go of its destructive grip. It is much easier said than done. The ego has grown over years as part of our own development. Of course, it depends a lot on the inner steadfastness we had in our younger years and on how much influence we let happen. Also, it depends on how long we got influenced and on the time the ego has had to grow from us feeding it with our convictions and experiences which were created through the eyes of the ego again… a pretty vicious circle, isn’t it? Read more ›
Before my break, I wrote about being entitled to be selfish and to put things at rest when life developed and changed. Last week I wrote how feelings of guilt can make a situation more complicated than necessary for everybody. Since I did not have much time to write a post on the weekend I dug into my archive and found this one which I wrote more than 2 years ago. When I read through it I was amazed, how perfectly it combines both topics and adds even more perspectives on both.
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We don’t know how other people feel about certain circumstances. Even if we do it for the best we can still be completely wrong. The way I experience something is unique and no matter how challenging it is for me can be handled even easier by others. Feeling sorry for someone who goes through a time which seems difficult for me can cause me to suppose it is difficult for the other one too. But is it really? And if it is, is it the same difficult? If I believe so then I make that other person’s problem my problem and I may care in a way which can become uncomfortable for them. Perhaps that difficult situation that person is in was caused by a decision I made and feeling guilty about it makes me overcaring. I may try to make something up which is not even desired. Read more ›
Imagine sitting on the top of a mountain and looking down into the valley. High up above, you see everything from a distance, the bigger picture. You see how streets are leading to each other, how small creeks are leading into a river, how the river flows into a lake. From up there, you understand how everything works together in order to make it all a complete and how necessary every little thing is. Read more ›
Do you know how healthy you are? No, that is not turning out as a post about healthy food. What I mean is, do you know how long you will be healthy, strong, able to approach your plans, visions, dreams? Do you know how much time you are given in this lifetime?
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I believe that the ego is not only the bad guy who needs to be fought. I rather think that it is a very helpful part we created over time. On one hand, it can support the path of the soul with its strong will. On the other hand, the ego can help to find out who you are and who you are not. It is a creation of the mind – your mind and your creation. That means that you have the power and can create it in each moment. It is created by thoughts and can, therefore, be controlled by the choice of your thoughts. The further away we are drifting from the true self the more power the ego has. It can show up unexpectedly although we think we already know that guy and its tricks. But in a certain situation, it appears reflexively before we even notice that we are already in its claws again. It is then to step back and see where we would end up if following its direction and what if we chose the direction of the self. Read more ›
About 10 days ago I posted the quote above. The truth and wide message it holds went deep. Although I wrote some lines in Just A Thought… I feel like going a bit deeper into the subject. Read more ›
A couple weeks ago, a friend replied to one of my tweets with “Wrap Your Fears In Love”. I know, I already mentioned this and posted a haiku about it. But the effect of embracing our fears with love is so life-changing that I want to write a Monday post about it. Read more ›
Leave the chains behind
Spread your wings and fly away
Land when you’re tired
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Don’t worry, this is not going to be a post in which I ask everyone to have their heads up in the clouds and blindly love everything and everyone whether you feel like it or not. Perhaps it would prevent a lot of conflicts but I am not that type of person who offers the right cheek when I was just slapped on the left one. Read more ›
The past weeks and months have not been easy. Not only for me but I noticed that there must have been a general change in the air affecting so many people around me. It appears like a big clearing to me. So many felt challenged in the way things developed, in decisions to make, in things falling apart, in happenings which opened up old gaps and let past memories and feelings rise again, in instantly changing life situations, and in much more. There were states of shock, desperations, breakdowns, and … the rise after the fall. Read more ›
Do you remember Chiara? In August 2016 I wrote The Healing Power Within about her overcoming anorexia. Chiara is my son’s girlfriend which gives me lots of opportunities to talk to her. She is often to find in newspapers talking about her story or sharing healthy recipes. Lately, she has been invited to talk at TEDx (Europe) about “choices” later this year. Isn’t that amazing? You can imagine that I got highly inspired and this post is a result of it. Read more ›
We all have them. We all have an opinion about everything. Sometimes it is a spontaneous impression, a reflex through something we already knew or a feeling. We even have an opinion although we try to convince ourselves not to have one or when we are insecure we listen to others first and decide if we go with their opinion. Read more ›
Yesterday I shared Neha’s new collaboration invitation:
Calling all Creative Minds/Poets/Artists to a Poetic Collaboration – “Letting Go”
When I saw the topic I thought immediately of an older post in which I shared a poem about Letting Go. Letting Go is not only releasing something that weighed heavily and kept you from living. The process itself is a progress in your own development and growth. It means you have already grown bigger than the suffocating cocoon. That’s why you are ready to break its shell. Letting Go is a process of becoming! Read more ›
Have you experienced that too? You carry something inside of you and more and more you notice hints around you which relate to what you are pondering. You never read the newspaper but for some reason, you get to see a specific headline when you see someone else reading it – and it speaks to you. You start your car and the first song the radio plays (perhaps just a part of the lyrics) speaks to you. You listen to a conversation of two people and a particular phrase or context speaks to you. You read the posts of the blogs you follow and more posts than ever seem to relate to what you are dealing with. Read more ›
Last week I was talking about ignoring the bad behavior of other people in order to free ourselves from their power over us and for preventing us from dimming our precious light. But there is another point where ignorance can act as a supportive tool of development: Fear
Read more ›It is clear to me that being serious is important to stay focused on your target and not lose concentration most of all in difficult situations. But it has also become clear to me for many years that this can be exhausting and draw all your energy from you when it lasts too long. Most of all when it is not about temporary situations but for a period of difficult times.
Read more ›Lately, I came across this topic several times and thought it would make sense to repost an article I wrote almost 2 years ago:
Life isn’t about being someone we think we should be only because it sounds good because others want us to be, or in order to fit into a certain image of society. A faked personality only confuses the people around you and yourself over time more and more because the real identity gets lost.
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This is not a title that came to my mind just so. I had no plan for what to write for today so I took my deck of Gateway Oracle Cards. I bought them for my seminars which are meant to lead the participants toward solutions and to connect with themselves and their inner wisdom. I picked a card but did not turn it around yet. Then I put the rest of the cards together and the card that showed up on the bottom was this one:
Read more ›When I posted a quote about forgiving two weeks ago there was a suggestion to write a post about it because the subject is really big! I knew I already had posted about it. Since I am pretty consumed by life at the moment, I thought why not repost one? It also makes a nice sequel to last week’s Monday post:
Were you ever in a great and happy mood and then out of the blue you were flushed by feelings that caused a deep sadness? And you don’t even know why? That happened to me last Friday. We had great weather, I was happy and cheerful, and all of a sudden I had a song in mind that I did not hear for years. I love that song a lot but while I started singing it heavy desperation kicked in and I didn’t know why.
Read more ›Last week I posted Suffering Part 1 – The Torture In Our Head . I wrote that this kind of suffering has its origin in the way we think, that we interpret things in our own way, and hurt ourselves with truths which only exist in our heads. I also talked about the magic tool […]
Read more ›When we are suffering we feel bad. Depending on the reason we feel sadness, pain, fearful, torn apart, helpless, lost, ignored, dependent, punished, frustrated, depressed, physically ill,… the list could go on and on and on… There are so many reasons why we suffer from something that happened in our lives. The biggest problem is […]
Read more ›This post was inspired by a person I got to know during my 9 months at work who is suffering from being neglected, used, oppressed, or simply unappreciated by her own parents. I think it is difficult to imagine how it must feel when you see your sister or brother supported in any possible way and you even have to hang in and support them too because it is expected and demanded. At the same time, you never got that support or attention but it was taken for granted that you cooperate and stand back.
Read more ›What is the greatest motivator you can imagine? The joy of making your life more than it is now. This has nothing to do with being discontented or even unhappy. It is actually the other way around. It is the knowledge that each step we take in life leads us to another platform. From there we see new things which trigger something which was lying dormant within us waiting for the moment when we are ready to wake it up.
Read more ›It is really funny! Sunday is usually the day when I prepare my Monday post (not the one for the next day but for the following week later 😁). So on that Sunday when I was pondering what I could write about nothing was already on my mind. Hmm… so I was sitting there staring at my laptop, fingers on the keyboard, and ready to type but…
Read more ›We all are products of our habits and our thoughts. Over the years we have come into routines in our lives. Experiences that we stored in our minds have become labeled and whenever a similar experience shows up we open the folder with the fitting label and add it to our collection. We are acting more and more like robots instead of human beings.
Read more ›Whatever I write about are basically situations from the life we all experience in our own ways. I take them and try to look beyond and around them. Finding out more about backgrounds, contexts, and consequences, and seeing more in a situation than only how it may appear at first sight. Understanding that there is a reason behind all that happens may not solve the problem but it can lead to a solution or give important insights which make us see it all from a different perspective and helps to deal with what happens in a more constructive way.
Read more ›Due to some really busy days, I hope you don’t mind that I repost something from August last year. I know that a huge number of my followers don’t know this post yet and perhaps it is a nice reminder for the ones you did read it already.
Whatever it is you are feeling is a perfect reflection of what you are in the process of becoming – Abraham/Ester Hicks
Read more ›The topic for today’s post developed from a conversation with Ann of Grubbs n Critters. We were talking about how it can be that other people are able to annoy us even with things that have nothing to do with ourselves. It took me some time before I wrote that post because it is a big topic. There are so many origins, reasons, and causes which are merging. I touched some and hope I could bring it all into context. That would definitely be food for a book!
Let’s start with the soul – what a complex thing. I won’t ever grasp it completely. I hope this is understandable: There is a pool of soul aspects. When an incarnation comes up the soul takes a scoop of itself with more aspects of this and less of that. At the same time, many scoops with different aspects can incarnate. Those scoops feel the connection of the soul family – soul mates. That is when you meet someone and they feel familiar or you feel a connection and cannot explain it. Don’t mix that up with that one true love. A soul mate is not necessarily the love of your life. Soul mates are there to support each other in their development. Often times that support is not on the funny side. The goal is the development and the soul mates have it in their plans to stick to that goal. They can be your worst enemy but of course also your best friends and even the love of your life. How the support will happen was agreed upon before the incarnation.
The reason we want to incarnate is first and foremost in order to feel and experience things we cannot feel and experience without a physical body. The insight is so much more profound. There is not only so much to experience for us but there are also numberless ways of experiencing the same feeling. There are new things to experience or issues to dissolve (what we call karma). We cannot experience it all in one incarnation. Therefore too we select particular lessons, encounters, and happenings before we come here. Some things are meant for a specific time, and some are when we are ready. But all is well coordinated and linked with the life plans of others. Each life plan affects another one. What a gigantic organization!! That’s why there can be so many causes for the things we experience here. But that is only the way to the event. In the end, it is about the resulting challenge. That’s why at some point we need to stop finding an explanation and learn to trust that it happened for a reason. When something or someone challenges us then we can be sure that it is meant for us to look closer. There is something in it for us – not because we did something wrong but to learn something!
Let’s get to another point: Why is it that one person can get terribly annoyed about something which someone else doesn’t even notice? Or the other way around: I don’t care but others go nuts. It can also be annoying that some get annoyed about things others don’t care…. lol! If something is not part of our incarnation program then we don’t care or we are having a natural way of dealing with such things. It can also be that we are not at the place yet to deal with certain issues and that’s why we don’t “hear” it because it has not our frequency. But when it has then we hear it loud and clear. Whether it is a soul mate, someone else, circumstances, or a particular situation, if we feel reflected in it then it has always something to do with us too. People can mirror something which we don’t like about ourselves. Or we are provoked to step out of our comfort zone in order to progress our evolution. Whatever it is – it is time to work ourselves through the next lesson (fate). Only when we notice that something feels not right do we even consider a closer look. That’s why lessons to learn can be so painful. We can pull back and turn away but the issue will only be solved when we faced it. We will get confronted with it over and over again. Each time gives us another gaze on the subject and helps working it out.
In the end, it is always about how I deal with what comes to me. Sometimes there are people whose intention is to bother me. Perhaps I mirror something they don’t like about themselves. Some people are not able to deal with what is going on inside of them. They need that illusion to throw it on others. The problem is that this doesn’t work. At one point we need to understand that it is not about us but about ourselves. A huge and liberating lesson to learn because it is not our responsibility. It is something they need to dissolve. That insight can give so much strength that we are gaining the power and nerves to even deal with them on a daily base (which is important when it is about family or work). It is not going deeper anymore because we realize that it is not our war. Whatever may strike a chord within you look inside yourself first. If you cannot find something right now then the lesson for you may be to not let others make you something you are not. Send them love but it is not up to you to join them in their fight. If you don’t align with their energy they have no grip. Either they will leave you alone or they may change their attitude toward you. What defines your life is not what others do to you but how you react to what they do.
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God, how I cannot stand to hear that when I am in the middle of difficult circumstances or situations. Then my ego slips into its diva part: “You can talk easily because you are not in that situation. You have no idea how that really feels.” The tricky thing is that my ego cannot convince me anymore. I simply have no excuses. I know exactly that when I dig into the mud I will only find more mud. But sometimes mud is what I need…
Read more ›August 13th was the fourth day of the death of my father. That day was not only the day of my father’s death but also my grandpa’s birthday. No, this is not going to be a memorial post. But it reminded me of something very important regarding living in peace after someone left.
Read more ›The past two weeks were most inspiring regarding this topic. I encountered several examples both in my private and in my work life in many ways.
There is a natural need within us that we want to be understood. We want to feel accepted for who we are and that means that people need to be able to see who we are. Oh, how can we be misunderstood when we are doing something out of a reflex due to our experiences of our past? As we ourselves do, others look out of their own eyes too with their own experiences in their mind storage. What they see, they put in relation to their own mindset. If a particular person means a lot to us or they play an important role in our lives, of course, we should let them know in order that misunderstandings cannot build a wall. If there is one misunderstanding that is not clarified many others can accumulate until one day that wall separates both totally.
Read more ›How important, inspiring, insightful, and so valuable the conversations to a post are was proved again through my Monday post of last week. I wrote about The Fear to Succeed. The interaction which followed made me look even deeper into the subject and lead me to a sequel of that topic.
Read more ›Most of you know that I had the exciting opportunity to be at the Blogger Bash 2016 in London last weekend. But due to the fact that I lost a whole weekend and had some stressful days before I wasn’t able to write a new Monday Post. I decided to pick a fitting one from March 2015 and modified it a bit.
We are more than what we experience and in order to recognize and feel that, we need to pause. Please don’t miss to watch the inspiring slideshow at the end of this post. I watch it from time to time and it always has this amazing calming and centering effect.
I got inspired by Simon of SFarnell for this post as we talked about this quote:
Read more ›When I had my blogging break after Christmas, I used the time too for going through old posts and “renovate” them. I came across this one I posted in 2016. When I went through it, I got that feeling that it needs to be shared again. I hope the person(s) it is meant for will find some inspiration:
Read more ›It might have happened to some of you that there were/are people who suddenly behaved peculiarly, turned away from you, or even started to act against you. Maybe even old friends you share so many memories with, friends for whom you were there without asking. Sometimes we know the reason but sometimes we don’t and only assume what the reason could have been. We try to find out and ask what we might have done wrong. We apologize. Sometimes they don’t even react to our questions or any apology dies away seemingly unheard. I think it is some of the hardest things to experience when you are left alone with uncertainty and feelings of guilt, or you be simply ignored.
Read more ›We all carry our backpacks. We filled it with a variety of things. From all that we experience, we take something along and put it in our backpacks. When we are in a situation that feels like something we already experienced, we check our backpacks and take out the insight we once gained in order to deal with that situation in a better way.
Sadly we collect so many painful memories, bitterness, and resentments in that backpack. That is what makes it heavy and what makes us walk slower under its weight. Often we cannot move the way we want because the weight of the backpack limits our mobility. It can even cause physical disorders like back pain, muscle tension, short breath, joint issues, and much more.
When we look at it that way we see how little use it is to carry around pain or disappointments from the past. It doesn’t change the past but therefore, it destroys the present. Easier said than done, right? Really?
Who you really are is a divine being born into a human body in order to experience your existence with more senses. Only in that physical body, you can touch, breathe, smell, and feel a variety of emotions. It is like the suit of Iron Man. It has more functions than the person who directs that iron suit. And so it is with your spirit who needs a body to have more possibilities to experience itself. But the suit is not the person and the spirit is not the body. That iron suit can become a prison instead of a tool if we don’t see the misunderstanding. Who you really are is that spirit who simply identifies so doubtless with its body. Over time, it believes that it is the body, the pain it experienced, and the emotions it feels. But who you are is not the suit that houses you.
Being aware that you are nothing that is part of this physical world makes it so clear that all the pain you experience and the heavy weight you carry around is only an illusion you started to build up in your mind. You are spirit, you are divine, you are pure wisdom. But you want to remember that you are all that. That is the reason why you came into this world. You want to remember your light.
When you realize that your experiences, insights, and also scars are part of your backpack but not of yourself then you can simply take this backpack off your shoulders. Open it up and look into it. Throw out the heavy load or take the backpack completely off. You cannot accidentally throw away a beautiful memory. The insights learned lessons, and joyful experiences are never in a backpack. They have the same energy as your divine being. All the beautiful things which cause feelings of joy and enthusiasm are of the same energy as you are. That is, why it feels so good. It is like you. That’s why they simply strike a chord within you but they don’t burden you. Such experiences merge with you and make you stronger. You gain energy. What is a pain for? Actually only to show you the darkness in order to see your light even better.
You are not what you carry along. You are not, what you experience, you are not what you think, and most of all you are not what you see. But what you experience, think, and see is the blessing you are gifted with in order to feel alive and in order to fulfill your purpose. You are a shining being full of love and perfect in its composition. Because you have the same composition as the source that created you. You are part of that source, a drop of the ocean we call God. God is spotless – and so are you!
In Love and Light
Do you know how healthy you are? No, that is not turning out as a post about healthy food. I am the wrong one for that. That’s Colleen’s realm. What I mean is, do you know how long you will be healthy, strong, and able to approach your plans, visions, and dreams? Do you know how much time you are given in this particular lifetime?
There is this touching story about that man who caresses the beautiful silky nightgown of his wife which he just found in a drawer. She kept it untouched for special occasions to surprise him. In the end, she never wore them and he never saw them on her … We don’t know what happens in one year, heck, we don’t even know what happens in the next moment. That doesn’t mean that we need to panic and start hectically to accomplish everything at once. It shall simply say that we need to stop postponing things.
Yes, sometimes there are different priorities. But what I am talking about here are the things we could do but don’t. It is more convenient to find an excuse instead of making the effort to get something started. It can be out of laziness. Very often it is out of a lack of self-esteem – the fear of failing, the fear of being questioned, the fear of being criticized. We use excuses like I am not smart enough, I am too old, I don’t have the time, I never did it before.
So what? If we never do something we never did before, then we never do anything! What is progress? It is evolving into something that wasn’t there before. We are here to evolve. That is the meaning of life. During life our bodies are developing, our minds are developing, our personalities are developing, and so shall develop the life we live!
We all have skills, talents, abilities, and dreams. The combination of it all is what waits for you to be brought into the world or developed within you. You are 70 and always dreamed of learning Mandarin? Do it!!! Don’t say, I am too old. What do you have to lose?
One of those excuses which makes the least sense to me is to resign from something out of respect for others. For example, parents who cannot let go of their children: “I cannot travel the world for one year because it would break my mother’s heart when I am gone for so long.” “I cannot accept that job because I had to move to another city which would hurt my parents.” I can get mad when I hear something like that. No parents must make their children feel guilty when for living their own life. From day one on parents needs to be aware of the fact that they raise their children in order to prepare them for life. A child has to be supported in finding its own way in this world. Of course, it is different when parents are sick and in need of help.
It is your life. Don’t wait until you look back and realize that you don’t need excuses anymore because the opportunities have already gone. It is the worst thing I can imagine I could do to myself. Because in the end there is no one to blame but myself.
Don’t be afraid of leaving your comfort zone and breaking out of your old life. You can never fail. I repeat: YOU CAN NEVER FAIL!!! Because whatever you do today brings you further than you were yesterday. Every insight is a step up the stairs of your personal evolution.
Wear those silky nightgowns and enjoy them. Make others smile with who you are. Enjoy your life by filling it with who you are and expanding that person you are. You don’t know what the next day brings. Use the time you are given. Make this education, join this class, do something that you always wanted to do, and take the first steps towards it. Even if you don’t know how to accomplish it. There are people to ask, there are books to read, and there is the internet. Rome wasn’t built in a day. There is no deadline. You only need to start and move forward step by step. Some steps are happening faster and easier, and some need more time.
Entering this new world within your life will open up new options too. You will find even more fulfillment than you had ever imagined. All the new things you encounter leave something that inspires and shows you more things to explore. You will discover much more about yourself and you will feel as if life had just begun.
You have come into this world to live your purpose – in order to live a fulfilled life and in order to serve others with it at the same time. This life is a giving and receiving. Life is for a living! We only live when we feel ourselves. We feel ourselves the best when we dilate our inner world into the outer world.
Fill your life with meaning and start today!
In Love and Light
I inspired myself to this post when I had to set priorities in my current busy life. I learned that many years ago when I found myself surrounded by too many activities. It happened step by step unnoticed until it got too much. It is related a lot to the lesson of saying No:
You love what you do. You really love it. You are proud of what you are achieving every day. You are versatile, doing this and that. There are so many things you want to do in your life and you are not only talking about it, you are doing it. Things work out, and projects succeed and grow. That is wonderful but all of a sudden the many projects can get too much and I don’t even throw life in yet. When everything grows it can be overwhelming because you are still only one person. You still have only 24 hours a day. But you also still love all you started.
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Sometimes we find ourselves in front of a mountain. We know that we have to pass it. Walking back is no option. We are clear that once we made it behind that mountain a world is waiting in which the sun is shining.
Read more ›I guess you all agree that Christmas is the time of year when we are more receptive to sharing love and compassion, lending hands, and being more tolerant than at any other time of the year. Although the hectic of finding our way through overcrowded stores and getting the last Christmas gifts just in time can be very stressful. But let’s leave that out for a moment and just concentrate on the meaning of Christmas.
Read more ›Yes, I borrowed that title from a commercial slogan of a famous furniture designer…. 😁
Last week I was a guest on Kimberly Rinaldi’s live radio show Lessons in Joyful Living. It was a fantastic interview and I enjoyed it from the first until the last minute. It was my 3rd live radio interview. Was I still nervous? Yes, I was; throughout the day! But sometime before the show started this nervousness changed into excitement and anticipation.
Imagine sitting on the top of a mountain and looking down into the valley. High up above, you see everything from a distance, the bigger picture. You see how streets are leading to each other, how small creeks are leading into a river, how the river flows into a lake. From up there you understand how everything works together in order to make it all a complete and how necessary every little thing is. Read more ›
So dark and so lonely
My heart was for years
Ruled by my self-doubts
Controlled by my fears
For far too long
I thought there must be
A change in the world
or a savior for me
But nothing did happen
No one understood
No one did care
If only I could…
Being who I am
Or who I wanna be
Not caring if others
Did understand me
All of a sudden
I thought: Why not I?
No one can judge me
Cause no one is I
I started to rise
Started living my dream
Not afraid anymore
That someone could be mean
I respect and I love me –
The person I am
Enabled me greatly
To love everyone
The smile that I’m wearing
Is no fake anymore
It shines from my heart
As the light of my core
Today I am content
No more fears, I am free
With me, the world changed
And the savior has been me!
In Love and Light
Actually, I planned to post another article according to a request of a blogger friend for this Monday. I hope you don’t mind that I changed my mind. A lot of things happened during the past few days and it made me spontaneously write this post:
Read more ›The song I posted last Wednesday as my Song of the Day inspired me to this post. It made me think of the need for tolerance, acceptance, of compassion, respect, and empathy. When I prepared that post I did not expect the wonderful developments here in Europe.
Read more ›Everybody has dreams. There is no one who doesn’t dream about anything. May it be a different way of living, a different job, a new car, a vacation, an achievement, a project, an education, the love of a lifetime, or different neighbors (LOL)… there is so much we can dream of.
Read more ›You’re like a fresh new summer breeze,
Like the shade on a hot day.
You’re like a river I am soaring on
Which carries me away.
Letting go is a topic in everybody’s life at times. Yesterday I was talking to a friend and I realized that during the past weeks, more and more friends are posting about letting go or about their process of letting go. There are so many different reasons or stories behind it. May it be about love, about plans we made, about disappointments, or being hurt. But in the end, we can mostly sum it up to two points:
Read more ›I apologize for the short notice of the disappearance. There was some turmoil in my private life from one moment to another. The old story about letting go. I will tell you about my experience after A Big Thank You to all of you. I am so moved by how much you all cared. I had never ever expected that. Although I closed the comment section on my last post on Monday many of my wonderful friends sensed something and simply commented in the loveliest ways on a different post. Colleen, Ritu, Zee, and Michelle even stayed in touch with me via email. One year ago almost nobody knew me and today people say I was missed and they make the effort to get in touch with me in order to show me that I am loved… that was overwhelming! I am profoundly touched by so much love, compassion, and care. I don’t know how to thank you. I love you all from the deepest bottom of my heart! And believe me, I missed you all badly! My community rocks!!!
Read more ›I just finished writing my latest book which is about miracles. I thought I write a little about this today. What is a miracle? How and why do miracles happen? We all wished for a miracle at times and I know that some of my friends are doing it right now.
What is the definition of a miracle? I’d say it is a surprising, unexpected, sometimes strongly wished occurring happening, turn, encounter, or “coincidence”. Of course, we only talk about a miracle when it shows a positive result. If we experience a negative happening we talk about bad luck, karma… But in the end negative like positive has the same root with two different outcomes.
Read more ›This post was inspired by a post of a friend I read last week. It was about the problem of accepting compliments. I had a lot of problems accepting compliments until I was 39. I was convinced I wasn’t worth nice words. Yes, everybody is worth nice words… but not me.
Read more ›Last week I posted Suffering Part 1 – The Torture In Our Head . I wrote that this kind of suffering has its origin in the way we think, that we interpret things in our own way, and hurt ourselves with truths which only exist in our heads. I also talked about the magic tool of getting still, listening to the wisdom of our hearts, and then align our thoughts with this inner knowing.
Actually as children we were used to listen to our hearts first and our thoughts did not really play an important role in that game. We perceived without judging anything and stored it in our mind. But when time went on we were taught HOW we had to perceive things, persons, happenings, ourselves, our life, our future. We were taught to be this or that, behave this or that way, what is good or bad, and even what we prefer or dislike! But would have been within us already. Read more ›
What is it, what we fear the most,
Why do we avoid looking inside?
Is it the unknown or a ghost?
Is it the darkness of our night?
When we are suffering we feel bad. Depending on the reason we feel sadness, pain, fear, torn apart, helpless, lost, ignored, dependent, punished, frustrated, depressed, physically ill,… the list could go on and on and on…
Read more ›Within my important breakthrough year, I printed the 18 excuses from Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses BeGone we mostly use instead of just going for what we feel inside. In turns, I hung 6 of them which spoke most to me into my kitchen. I went for each of them and made enormous steps in growing myself.
Read more ›Has there ever been someone in your life who is bothering you and you don’t know why? There is something you need to know! It is not about you.
Read more ›Sitting here upon that rock
Watching the birds pass by.
With every flap something within
Has loosened, wants to fly.
My magic place
This is the place where I sit still,
Where I find peace and time to heal.
This is the place that made me find
Important answers when I was blind.
This is the place that makes me hope
to get a second chance to cope.
This is the place of growth and change
Which came down like an avalanche.
Is it important what has been?
Is it important what’s not yet seen?
No explanations more of need.
I see so clearly what I did.
Now I stand tall and feel the grace
While tears of joy run down my face.
With love in my heart, I look at the scene
And say goodbye to the one I’ve been.
In Love and Light!
I just came home after I spent an hour in the woods. I went to a beautiful place in the forest. The sun was shining and since the trees don’t carry leaves yet it was so light and sunny. I sat down next to a tree and simply enjoyed the peace, the silence but also the singing of the birds. No one was around. I started meditating and felt such liberation and lightness. It was a moment I made peace with everything. No past, no future – just now. What was doesn’t matter – what might be is a dream. And there was this poem that just flew to my mind with the warm Spring breeze.
Read more ›I recently posted a quote titled Who Am I? It said: Realizing who you are, does not mean finding out who you are!
We mostly notice that at times we are feeling something in certain situations which is not for our benefit. That can be anger, jealousy, greed, frustration, or resistance. And we don’t even know why we feel it. It is coming up like a reflex when a certain person calls or when we are confronted with repeating issues or happenings. Then these emotions show up and take over instantly and we feel helpless doing anything against them. But we know exactly that we don’t want it, that it is in our way, and that it would make our life so much easier without them. But how to get there?
Read more ›What is one of the most confusing situations for us? I’d say when we are left without information. When we don’t know about outcomes, decisions, what is going on in other people’s minds when they don’t tell us when there is a distance or no possibility to communicate…
Read more ›Did you ever think about if there is a difference between feelings and emotions? Feeling here is meant as a mental note as a physical perception. Feelings like emotions are affecting our actions in the end. Both are expressions from within.
Read more ›During the past weeks, I often posted, read, and experienced what a blessing and relief it is to stop controlling life. Some things we can but some things just happen. The most beautiful things in life only unfold when we stop forcing and controlling out of fear it wouldn’t turn out the way we want or out of fear we could lose something. But that’s not true. Things that are about to unfold are meant to unfold. But in believing, we might keep control over the unfolding and the way how things are supposed to unfold we simply scrunch the fragile flower that just started to open up.
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This is a post that I originally posted on June 2, 2014. I had a handful of followers at that time. I thought it would make sense to bring those posts up for all my wonderful friends in my meanwhile so big community. I hope you like it:
At times everybody is confronted with burdening memories of the past. I am very sure that there is no exception. It is not always a clear memory, but sometimes a behavior we cannot get rid of but which is in our way. Often we know that these attitudes, sadness, anger, feelings of guilt, frustrations, and sometimes helplessness originates in the past.
Read more ›Last week I had an amazing live interview with Kimberly Rinaldy at Lessons in Joyful Living. We were talking about my book, my motivation to start it, my challenges, how I reached my breakthrough, and much more. Since there is so much more to say, Kimberly even invited me for another interview. I will keep you posted on the date.
We touched on one topic that is most important to me. Because it is one with which many of us are fighting during our lifetimes. I too did, because I thought I wasn’t meant for a purposeful life. I simply misunderstood that I am always fulfilling my purpose. But only when I rediscovered my value I started going for my dreams consciously. It was the time when I promised myself: “I will never ever look back and say that I had the chance, but didn’t take it because I was scared. And now it is too late.” Never!
Read more ›There are times, we feel left alone by all the world and his brother. We feel harried, disappointed and under massive pressure from all sides. Some people seem to have it in for giving us a hard time. There are problems in the job or it is a time of big stress. Perhaps your private life has reached a point and you question where your relationship shall lead to. Maybe your worry about someone you love or someone who said goodbye. Sometimes you come to a point when you ask yourself: Was that it? Was that my life? Is there nothing waiting for me anymore?
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I so often think back on how things have come together in order to unfold the way I find them in my life today. It is an exciting journey of exploring. It helps to understand the universal laws, gives lots of profound insights, and therefore strengthens my faith.
My most impressive string of unfolding in order to come to new unfolding is the story of how I came to write my book I’m Free and so much that followed. It is a huge story. When you read my book then you find lots of examples in it from my own life of how to break free. I am currently writing a new book which is about miracles. The story I want to tell you today is mentioned in that book and it is still a miracle to me. But at the same time, it is only a part of a far bigger miracle that still seems to unfold.
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I have to confess that when patience was distributed I definitely must have missed the event. When I have an idea I want to start it right away and I stick with it until it is done to my satisfaction. This impatience is part of my success, of my journey, and of the way I walk through my life. It is actually part of my zest for life. I live life to the fullest and I walk through it with an open heart. I am like a sponge soaking up all the inspirations I can get in order to expand myself. But life taught me also that in certain situations I am able to completely surrender to patience. That’s when something is of particular importance to me.
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How do you define miracles? I’d say that usually, we mean an unexpected happening of luck, right? But my personal definition is: Miracles are happenings, encounters, twists, or coincidences which we cause by the way we think, and act and by how we apply our experiences to our lives.
Yesterday I experienced such a miracle. The miracle of breaking free. Those are my favorite miracles. An experience I already had many times in my life. I was completely under the weather. I was thrown off the track! Yes, even Mrs. Positive has breakdowns at times. But they are OK. They always come when I am about to shake off an old chain.
Read more ›During the past weeks I read more and more posts and comments in which people write about their struggles with feeling different. Whatever different means. That can be because of a certain look, body shape, a medical condition, a point of view, the way they live, mental issues, their visions, … There is so much we can call difference. Read more ›
Recently I wrote an email to my best friend in which I told him that I am not planning to come to California for a while. I finally noticed that I was too attached to his support and attention.
Those of you who read my book also read about my friend. He was the one that made me facing my fears and believing in myself. The same happened to him. We already went to school together and a few years ago we got in touch again via email when both of us hit rock bottom. We developed a wonderful friendship and grew on sharing our thoughts, happenings in life, and how we dealt with it. But since he started a relationship with a very jealous woman, he began more and more to hide our friendship and keep me as a secret. I understood that it was not an easy situation. Therefore I kept myself in the background, did not show up but was there immediately when I was needed. I played this game for a few years and fought for this friendship this way. I should have noticed that fighting for a friendship already shows that something is wrong.
Meanwhile he even lies at his girlfriend and finds excuse to spend time with me and my husband. That was too much. It hurts that I have to shut my mouth and be hidden like a dark secret. I felt abused. Also honesty is very important to me. I don’t want anybody to lie because of me and I am not willing to make myself part of a lie anymore.
After four years the moment has arrived when I noticed that the origin of my breakthrough and transformation process had become a new chain in my life. I finally was courageous and frustrated enough to tell him that I won’t be part of a false game and that I am not willing to be made somebody I am not. Because this secretiveness only makes it something forbidden. I have to detach myself from a chain of disappointment in order to look at the situation with fresh eyes. I don’t quit the friendship but my part I played in it for the last four years. This decision made me build up a new strength and already loosens the first knot.
My friend and I have been going through similar situations and fought against similar inner ghosts. We understood each other in core which was responsible for our fast and straight development. I am endlessly thankful for this friendship, for what my friend has brought up inside of me, for every laughter and every tear, and also for the process I am in now. This way my friend (unconsciously and unknowing) helps me again to find into an independent life and so do I help him in taking action. Since I changed and everything around me has changed I have to change the way I embed this friendship into my life. I have to let go the old in order to let unfold something new.
One wonderful event in life can open doors and hearts. It can strengthen us and can give us insights about ourselves we had never seen without. But we have to be careful not to attach our new ability to an event, a person or a circumstance. Becoming attached means that there still is some fear or doubt left not to make it without the person or circumstance. But whatever we discover through that happening has always been there. The happening was only the entry to remind us. We will still keep everything inside of us with or without the cause of our awakening. It is another journey to find that out. Sometimes helpful circumstances become misunderstandings out of which we learn again.
We are always able to make the decision of detaching ourselves from everything that keeps us stuck. Often it doesn’t mean to break up with someone but to change the way we look at the situation, the person, or the relationship in order to be connected by heart not by a string.
In Love and Light!
