Within my important breakthrough year, I printed the 18 excuses from Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses BeGone we mostly use instead of just going for what we feel inside. In turns, I hung 6 of them which spoke most to me into my kitchen. I went for each of them and made enormous steps in growing myself.
We all are born with a free spirit within. A little child doesn’t know about limiting beliefs in order to fit into society. It looks at the world without any judgment but with the joy of discovering so much. It simply perceives and stands in awe in front of everything it discovers. May it be snow, an ant, a cat, rain, a dandelion,… That child just goes for what it feels in its young heart. But over time it might be taught many things it “has to learn in life in order to fit into the system”. I don’t talk about being respectful cherishing nature, being helpful, and being compassionate. I talk about “life is a constant struggle and you need to fight for your right and your luck”. Or for example humiliation like: “You are not worth this”, “You are unable”,” this is too difficult for you”, or “You will never make it”. It might be taught about moral beliefs although morality is something we all have a sense for. We all feel what’s right or wrong. But we can be influenced by the moral beliefs of others which can result in hatred against other people, cultures, and religions. It can result in even hating ourselves, our bodies, our opinions, and our being. The child might be taught that there is only one way this life can be managed, lived, and brought to “perfection”.
Over time it might be convinced about everything it was told all life long. But it might feel differently about many things. That’s the war that blusters inside. That’s the process when we grow up and have to decide what belongs to us and what doesn’t. The problem now is that this grown-up child mostly believes more what it was taught than what it feels as its inner truth, its conviction, calling, and path. They might be even afraid to follow this call because it would be against “the rules”. The child starts using excuses in order to free itself from the inner pressure and to confirm that it has to stick with the belief system it was raised with. It doesn’t even realize that it lives a life against its own nature. It thinks that this insistent voice has to be overcome because it blocks living a “normal” life. But that will never work. It cannot deny its own nature and the inner fight will become harder.
It is not always easy to step over our comfort zone but it is possible. Once we overcame only one of the false beliefs about ourselves, humanity, or life and its naturally given rules we realize that it all was just a big misunderstanding. When I started to apply my newly won insights in life I was scared in the beginning. But when things unfolded in the most beautiful way I made another step out of my prison and another step, and another one… I noticed that this fear was only an illusion. It was never true – I only believed it was true. I lived a truth against myself, against my purpose, against life! But living means loving what we do and doing what we love.
Here are the 18 excuses in Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses BeGone. I highly recommend it to all of you. I promise you will find yourself in some, many, or even all of them! Check if there is one excuse that spontaneously speaks to you. Print it and pin it onto your mirror in the bathroom, your computer, the dashboard of your car, just wherever you might see it. Repeat the affirmation as often as possible and you will see… something will change!
1. It will be difficult – I have the ability to accomplish any task I set my mind to with ease and comfort.
2. It’s going to be risky – Being myself involves no risks. It is my ultimate truth, and I live it fearlessly.
3. It will take a long time – I have infinite patience when it comes to fulfilling my destiny.
4. There will be family drama – I would rather be loathed for who I am than loved for who I am not.
5. I don’t deserve it – I am a Divine creation, a piece of God. Therefore, I cannot be undeserving.
6. It’s not my nature – My essential nature is perfect and faultless. It is to this nature that I return.
7. I can’t afford it – I am connected to an unlimited source of abundance.
8. No one will help me – The right circumstances and the right people are already here and will show up on time.
9. It has never happened before – I am willing to attract all that I desire, beginning here and now.
10. I’m not strong enough – I have access to unlimited assistance. My strength comes from my connection to my Source of being.
11. I’m not smart enough – I am a creation of the Divine mind; all is perfect, and I am a genius in my own right.
12. I’m too old (or not old enough) – I am an infinite being. The age of my body has no bearing on what I do or who I am.
13. The rules won’t let me – I live my life according to Divine rules.
14. It’s too big – I think only about what I can do now. By thinking small, I accomplish great things.
15. I don’t have the energy – I feel passionate about my life, and this passion fills me with excitement and energy.
16. It’s not my personal family history – I live in the present moment by being grateful for all of my life experiences as a child.
17. I’m too busy – As I unclutter my life, I free myself to answer the callings of my soul.
18. I’m too scared – I can accomplish anything I put my mind to because I know that I am never alone.
In Love and Light!