The Freedom to be Me

A week ago I gave a lecture in Germany with this title. It was such a fulfilling and joyful experience which totally gave me the freedom to be me. Or actually, the decision to speak about what I want to share is the freedom I give myself to be me. That is what I want to do: Sharing the beauty of life and possible ways that others find their own beauty in life. The pre-condition for finding into the life you want to live is to get to feel who you actually are!


When we are born our being is so pure and clear. A little child simply is. When I think back I remember it so well that I often did not understand what others wanted from me. I just was. I loved to find out what is around me, getting lost in watching a butterfly or a bee, a flower or just getting lost in daydreams. I couldn’t understand why that was wrong but over time I was taught to be more concentrated on “reality”, not to dream but to get something achieved. And of course, that had to be things which others thought I had to achieve. Over time, I lost the sense of my inner light more and more but instead took over a personality I thought I had to have in order to fit into this system and in order to fulfill the high expectations of the people around me.


The voice within spoke to me again and again. It reminded me of the feeling I had and which I actually wanted to have. But I pushed it aside because it was in the way in order to fulfill my daily tasks. Following that voice would have meant to break out of that all. But I did not consider that I was allowed or even able to change something. I hoped for conditions to change or for people to change in order to be allowed to live the life I want. I was the slave of my surrounding. Waiting for others to change means waiting forever. Because as long as you are fulfilling their expectations all is well for them. You need to change something.


But then there are the explanations why it is not possible: I have a job, I have a family, I have obligations, I have responsibility… Yes, you have! But that is not compulsorily in opposition to what you change. Freedom doesn’t mean not to have any responsibility. In fact, it means taking responsibility for your life and not giving the responsibility for your life in other people’s hands. Because as soon as we say: “I cannot, because….” or “I have to, because….” then we shift the responsibility on to that “because”.

But we can change everything. We can! Perhaps we don’t want to or we don’t feel well in doing so, but we basically can! It is about finding ways to change something. Therefore, we need to get this power and confidence about ourselves back. The flame is still there. We only couldn’t see it because we closed the door but the flame has been there all the time.


You may be scared to open that door because you know exactly that getting that power back could mean dramatic changes all over. What we fear more than the gray fog we got stuck in for so long is the brightness and variety of colors we don’t know how to deal with. It is beautiful, something we actually yearn for, that breeze of fresh air but it scares us because it is new and unknown. That is the reason why it is even more important to feel that flame again. Because once you feel it all doubts disappear. Once you feel it you are filled with a power that makes you feel unbreakable, unstoppable, unlimited. That power of who you really are is the being that has come into this world in order to experience itself. It is that being which wanted to make itself visible in this physical world in order to expand itself. It is that being that wanted to share something of itself for the benefit of all. This being which wanted to give in first the place and grow from the experience about the things that come back. This being that was watching a butterfly in awe!


I know that you feel it! You feel it right now but you also feel it when you are relaxed and get some distance to your daily life. You can feel it when you sit at the ocean, on a mountain, watching a sunset and your thoughts start to fade away while the flame grows higher.

This flame, that inner strong feeling has a creative and healing power. Whatever feeling you radiate has a creative power. We are creating constantly through what we radiate. It is not the thoughts which create, it is the feeling. That is why all the positive thinking has no effect as long as we don’t believe what we think. Because we feel what we believe. But with our thoughts, we can direct our feelings. A thought long enough thought becomes a belief. A belief often enough practiced and confirmed gets stored in our belief system. Whenever something happens in our life that fits that first thought triggers a reflexive feeling. The energy of the feeling we radiate connects with the same energy in the outside world. That is why there needs to happen a conscious change inside in order to provoke constant changes in the outside world, the circumstances, life situations, relationships, …. Change is a decision!


In order to change something, you need to feel who you want to be. You don’t need to know the whole story or the whole path. Just allow your dreams to surface again and go with it piece by piece, change by change and you will reveal your true self constantly. The more you reveal of yourself the more developments will happen, the more motivated you become to stick to your being, the more opportunities you get to see, the more you get encouraged to grab them, the more convinced you become about your self, and the more and the faster that revealing progresses which again shows more in your life of who you are. The better it gets, the better it gets. Once you made that first step into that colorful world you won’t ever go back anymore.


But you know what? Once you feel that power of  yourself pulsing within you, you don’t need to bother about thoughts anymore. Because with every layer you take off of who you are not you radiate more of who you are and all that equals that You will connect in the outside world. It is a constant change according to your development which unveils the most beautiful secrets about yourself and life. Again: The pre-condition for finding into the life you want to live is to get to feel who you actually are!

The only person who can take or grant your freedom…………. is you!

In Love and Light

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The great philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche argued that our sense of self is not our own, but is something that is constructed, primarily by the people in our lives. The reason being is because we are social animals so when we conform to other people, this benefits society as a whole, but this doesn’t always benefit the individual. In the book “Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired To Connect,” Matthew Lieberman says that the social world imparts onto us a collection of beliefs about ourselves. And because of how the ‘self’ functions, we often cling to these beliefs as though they are unique ideas we came up with for ourselves. It is very hard to be an individual, but if we can, it is truly remarkable. thanks for helping people become individuals. I agree we can’t wait for others to change to make it okay for us to change, we have to make choices true to ourselves, not to others. great post!

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Wow, Vincent! That is an awesome comment. Thank you so very much for taking the time and sharing these amazing thoughts and insights. Yes, it is exactly how you say. Society provides one way and you need to fit in if you want to be part of it. We are made believe that we need to be part of it so we try to conform…. and we lose ourselves. Once again, thank you very much, I appreciate your words a lot, Vincent!

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You are so right Erika 🙂
Never stop dreaming about our wishes for life, this is so important and no matter, how busy a life we are living, we can find time for dreaming. Only one is able to change our life and it is ourselves. Everything is possible, just we believe so 😀

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Those are the key words: Everything is possible, just believe so! What we believe in is what we see in life and what we align with. The more aware we are of it the more conscious we will choose what we believe it. That was the comment of a well experienced woman. Thank you so much for sharing it with us, Irene! 😊

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Great post, Erika! I think I’m going through some changes in my life right now. To be honest, I think my blog has helped a lot. Meeting lots of inspiring bloggers like yourself has also helped! I’ve always been a dreamer. I think you’re also talking about the Law of Attraction throughout this post?

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Of course, Lisa! Whatever we feel or what we believe in aligns with an energy. As long as we are not aware about this enormous instrument of creative power it just happens unconsciously and we are encountering situations and persons in a way we don’t understand… and blame it on them instead of realizing that we can change it in changing our attitude and therefore our feeling! It is as simple as difficult! But it is possible! The more aware we are of the power we have inside the better we can create our own life in simply being us! Thank you for wonderful comment, Lisa! Yes, there are some dramatic changes in your life which are a proof that things are getting into a new order! Enjoy the ride 😉

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I’m enjoying it very much! I just felt like I was stuck for so long. Now it seems like life is moving so fast! It’s almost like I can’t catch up with it!

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