This post was inspired by a post of a friend I read last week. It was about the problem of accepting compliments. I had a lot of problems accepting compliments until I was 39. I was convinced I wasn’t worth nice words. Yes, everybody is worth nice words… but not me.
That is right the problem. We don’t feel worth it. At the same time, we are so focused on ourselves that we miss the motivation of the other person who wanted to be nice and show appreciation for what they see in us. But we kill their lovely gesture and even show them that we don’t appreciate it. Feels not nice for the other one. As a result, we might get fewer compliments. In the end, we feel confirmed that we are not worth nice words. But it is only the result of our behavior. The funny thing is that we start striving for appreciation, recognition, and approval. We are fishing for compliments in a very arduous and stressful way. We might even start doing things we don’t even want to only to impress others and get our approval.
But since we don’t do those things because it comes from ourselves we still don’t feel worth it. What we do is not part of ourselves, but a desperate try to be seen.
Lacking self-love! The mother of addictions, crimes, depression, anxieties, victimhood … and so much more.
Self-love doesn’t mean being selfish. Absolutely not! Self-love means being happy about this individual being I am. Being grateful for the opportunity to BE. Being curious about myself and checking out what there is inside of me in order to fill and feel this life. Self-love is being one with the power of creation.
When we love ourselves we are good to ourselves – to our bodies. We start caring for it because we want to feel good within and not in order to fit into a picture of society. When we love ourselves we don’t need any plastic surgeries. We see every wrinkle in our faces as a visible sign of our journey through this lifetime. The funny thing is: When we love ourselves we will even have fewer wrinkles. Our face is relaxed, our body healthy from within and we look younger, fresher, and happier. This all brings our body in balance again – in a healthy balance. Spaces get cleared and in the same way, as diseases are created by disharmony we heal ourselves through this inner harmony.
When we love ourselves, we know that happiness is not an emotion but a state of being. Happiness is an aspect of love and goes along with it inseparably. Happiness is the carpet we are walking on when we go through our challenges. It keeps our head over water and is the fluorescent strip on the floor that leads us safely through the dark cloud.
When we love ourselves we are tolerant towards others. We don’t take ourselves too seriously anymore. We know that we are not perfect and right that makes us kind of perfect. We accept mistakes as part of our growth and therefore we forgive everyone their mistakes. We don’t even need to forgive anything because we don’t see them as mistakes anymore. It is everybody’s personal path. We even don’t take things personally anymore.
When we love ourselves we liberate a creative and unlimited power in ourselves that only love is able to. Only then we can spread tolerance, acceptance, happiness, motivation, charisma, zest for life, encouragement, … LOVE… and we will get it all back.
When we love ourselves we are able to love from our heart and not from a need to be loved. What we give will flow back because we always align with the same energy we send out. Therefore we will receive appreciation, respect, approval, and compliments (and the compliments we make are getting different energy as well)! The interesting thing is, that we will kindly accept what we get. But not because we need the confirmation in order to feel better… no, because we get a sign that we really seem to love ourselves.
In Love and Light!