Suffering Part 1 – The Torture In Our Heads

I am on WordPress for almost 3 years. Posting every Monday makes quite a collection of Monday posts. I thought you wouldn’t mind if I reposted a two-part series from April 2015. Since my followers are more than 4 times the number since then it might be new to most of you anyway.

When we are suffering we feel bad. Depending on the reason we feel sadness, pain, fear, torn apart, helpless, lost, ignored, dependent, punished, frustrated, depressed, physically ill,… the list could go on and on and on…

There are so many reasons why we suffer from something that happened in our lives. The biggest problem is that we are tending to search for answers and for explanations. At least I am a master in the need for understanding. If someone acts differently towards us and we don’t get an answer then the dangerous circle of thoughts starts twisting in our minds. We stop perceiving but start assuming – a killing virus. We start interpreting every little piece we find in order to put it together into a picture. We feel such a need to understand in order to find peace. That’s the breeding ground for misunderstandings, further interpretations, and ongoing misunderstandings. The picture we desperately try to complete is getting more and more distorted until we are completely confused and devastated. We don’t get the answers we hope for but lots of irritation. When we finally step back and let go of the need to analyze everything we all of a sudden see the misunderstanding. We only interpreted our own experiences and our own way of thinking. Why do we expect others may think the way we do? As long as we only look out of our own eyes how shall we ever understand another person, a situation, or a greater context? How shall we ever get steadfast when we don’t trust because we try to have everything under control? Whatever is meant to happen will happen. It will happen in the perfect way. But with our impatience, we can stretch the duration, make our life hell, and think ourselves to pieces only to find out that nothing of everything was ever true.

In order to unmask the big misunderstanding and fight within us, we need to understand how our mind handles happenings. Our mind has only the experience of its physical lifetime. There is no higher awareness coming from the mind. That’s why we need to bring it in alignment with our soul’s voice. I joined a workshop with the incredible Neale Donald Walsch five years ago. This is what I drew from it:

The mind:

  • An event happens and our mind calls up stored data from similar events in the past in less than the twinkle of an eye. These data might be factual data or even only judged (imagined) data.
  • We create our truth out of those data. This truth can be a fictional (distorted), appearing (observed), or actual (ultimate) truth.
  • This personal truth generates thoughts. Depending on our individual truth they can be constructive or destructive.
  • Our thoughts create our emotions.
  • The emotions we feel create the perception and are responsible for HOW we experience what happens.
  • The experience and how we think, speak and act out of it create our reality.

Now let’s switch to our soul:

  • There are no events for the soul it perceives it as a judgmental-free being.
  • From simply being, arises a new perspective of awareness and consciousness.
  • This leads to perception.
  • A simple perception again leads to a profound belief.
  • A belief generates a certain behavior out of the perspective and perception of the soul.
  • The experience is turning out soulful.
  • At the end stands a reality that arises out of the conscious connection with the soul.

Now which path feels better, lighter, effortless, simply flowing?

We came here to make a human experience and we need the mind in order to complete our experience here on earth. The secret lies in aligning mind and soul. Therefore we need to listen to our soul first, trust in its inexhaustible wisdom, and have faith. When we know what the soul wants we are at peace and act solely out of the loving being that wanted to walk on earth for some years. Now we can tell our mind what the soul decided and let it support the soul with its physical skills to make this physical lifetime a soulful, compassionate, joyful, and fulfilling experience.

When you find yourself twisting and turning, finding explanations and lacerating yourself with imagined truths (interpretations) then pause. Try to find the time to sit back, get still, and listen to the voice of the soul. Exchange a happening for the simple being and feel the relief. We have the tool to find peace within us. We have the tool to get rid of our thoughts’ chains. Our soul is not only always with us. We are this soul. Don’t ever let your mind tell you anything different.

In Love and Light!

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I thought, it would make sense to repost and your lovely commend confirms this. I think I posted it shortly before you followed me. I guessed that even many of my closer blogily don’t know it yet. I am happy it spoke to you, sis 💖

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Great post Erika and I love the sense of thinking here. I’m glad, that you decided to repost, I haven’t seen this post before. Over-thinking is a killer, both mood and mind killing. In this case we need to remember, that we are responsible for what we say, not what other souls choose to hear. What we can’t change, we just need to accept and everything will come in order again 🙂
Looking forward to next chapter.

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Yes, I think I posted it before we followed each other. Most of my closest blog buddies might not know it. I am glad you confirm that it made sense to repost.
It is a hard lesston to learn. Serenity is basically that basice attitude we need to develop in order to get out of our minds and let the heart rule. The mind can be our meanest enemy if we don’t realize it. In the end, it is again simply a conscious change of our thinking habit, stepping away, taking a break, and getting a different persepctive!
I am very happy you liked it 😊

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That’s true and very good point! I think with progressing age we distance automatically more and more and don’t take everything so serious anymore… most of all ourselves… lol! But a journey for sure to get there!!

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Thank you, Lynn! Basically what we call a problem is mind made. Because the soul only perceives and goes from there. But the mind is offende, scared, frustrated… but that’s the lessons to learn we are here for, aren’t we?

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I am so pleased you reposted this Erika.. So true.. and Lucky you to be at a workshop with Neale.. I have I think ALL of his books and they are mind altering in many ways, lol.. As we get to perceive and see things from our higher-selves..
So this sentence in particular resonated ..
” The secret lies in aligning mind and soul. Therefore we need to listen to our soul first,”…
Which when you think about it is our hearts… Once we have opened our hearts, and really listened within, its often the noise of our heads which we are doing battle with.
Looking forward to part Two..

I hope you had a peaceful weekend.. We did..
Love and Hugs my friend
Sue ❤ ❤ xxx

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Hi, Sue! That workshop was amazing! The peacefulness and loving energy Walsch radiates but still has this mischievous was… great! I am glad you enjoyed part one and I hope you are going to like part two as well.
Thank you, it was a good weekend and I hope you had a lovely one too, Sue. Thank you very much for reading and commenting. You know, I appreciate it very much!! 💖💖

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