Life isn’t about controlling but about unfolding!

During the past weeks, I often posted, read, and experienced what a blessing and relief it is to stop controlling life. Some things we can but some things just happen. The most beautiful things in life only unfold when we stop forcing and controlling out of fear it wouldn’t turn out the way we want or out of fear we could lose something. But that’s not true. Things that are about to unfold are meant to unfold. But in believing, we might keep control over the unfolding and the way how things are supposed to unfold we simply scrunch the fragile flower that just started to open up.

The most beautiful unfolding happens when we let go. The most beautiful unfolding gets to our highest good when we step out of the way, cherish it, be grateful for it, stand in awe, and simply watch the flower grow. Isn’t it wonderful? The way we went through life in the first place spread the seeds. In letting go of the need to water the seed until we drown it we give life the opportunity to surprise us with miracles. Life has its own way of getting things done. Although we might think that we know better we could never ever know life’s wisdom and creativity. I love this life with everything in it.

“Whatever I went through made me who I am – I would do it again” is part of the chorus of my song I would do it again.

When I sat down at my laptop in order to write this post I saw that Amanda just posted something. When I read it I was astonished by what she wrote about. It was as if we had similar thoughts and feelings. This amazed me since it confirmed my feelings as well. Please read her post. She found the most wonderful and heartfelt words about life.  I quote a sentence that touched me a lot: We only have so much control over our destinies, but the beauty lies very much in watching it unfold.

I am coming to an end now with a poem I remembered. I read it in a book that had become the last puzzle piece in order to start changing my life. It was Wayne Dyer’s Your Sacred Self. I recently did a post about the miracle around that book. Now here is the poem about getting your fingers off of life’s perfect organization in order to make your life the most fulfilling experience ever!

Broken Dreams – Lauretta Burns

As children bring their broken toys
with tears for us to mend
I brought my broken dreams to God
because He is my friend.
But then, instead of leaving Him
in peace to work alone
I hung around and tried to help
with ways that were my own.
At last, I snatched them back and cried,
“How can you be so slow?”
“My child,” He said, “What could I do…
you never did let go.”

In Love and Light!

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The purpose of my blog is to inspire and shine a light on the beauty and power of the wonderful being inside your body. You came into this world to share what only you can give. Remember who you really are, conquer the world the way you always wanted to, and become the blessing to us all that you were meant to be.


Yes, yes, and another YES! Exactly, Nick! There are reasons why things don’t work out (yet). But we need to start walking towards their direction in order to find out where the real path leads.
Btw. I am sorry, that you were put under moderation. I don’t why that happened. You are already approved after your very first comment. WP annoys me!


My dear friend…these days have been rough…pain has been constant but oh how blessed I am to know each moment of each day. In these days there is magical blessings and truthfully I know that everything happens for a reason. Today, the reason is clear to me that in my quest for relief, I came here and found peace. Thank you. Much love. ~M

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Erika, I too am glad you are in my life and you always touch the heart of my being. Your healing love is humbly received my friend. And please know, no matter the outcome of my life, everything already is “alright” for I have been blessed in this life each and every day. My gosh, just one moment to share a smile and a word with a friend makes it alright! Peace be yours sweet friend. If there is ever a time you need a far away friend, never forget that I am here for you. 😉

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As I wrote: As soon as we let go of the need to control miracles unfold. You are definitely such a miracle to me that just fell into place. Your way of looking at life is the greatest blessing I could have been gifted with. You are definitely right that everything is alright. Thank you, I will always know where to find you, Matthew, since you own a place in my heart. And I hope you know that I will be there for you as well – no matter what. Just let me know. 🌻


An amazing and beautiful truth. How blessed we are when we can see that in letting go holds a most beautiful truth waiting to be embraced.
I miss you my cherished friend and am so thankful for the moments I had this day to read your post. Much love and abundant light to you. ~Matthew

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Hi Matthew! Thank you for taking the time to visit my blog. What could I say what you couldn’t teach me about letting go, accepting and unfolding? Thank you for your words. I hope you are recovering well. I too miss you a lot. Thank you for this heartfelt embrace with your words. Feel embraced too. Love and light to you, dear Matthew!

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Oh, Erika, what a beautiful metaphor you use to describe the beauty of watching/letting life unfold.

These words really hit me; “In letting go of the need to water the seed until we drown it gives life the opportunity to surprise us with miracles. Life has its own way of getting things done.” <- This is so true. Half the time, we are preventing ourselves from achieving our own true potentials and happiness. If only we took a step back to watch the beautiful petals of life unfold in the way destiny hoped they would.

A beautiful post which really struck a chord. We are sooo on the same page!

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We definitely are. Really I was astonished when I read your post right before I wanted to write mine. It filled my heart. I love how you say: “If only we took a step back to watch the beautiful petals of life unfold in the way destiny hoped they would.” At times there are conditions around us that seem so transparent. We see them and think that this is it, but it is not clear enough and we try to catch it which is not possible since it is so transparent… oh well, so many occasions in life in which we should pause for a moment, get still, step back and simply let things happen. I hope that one day I don’t need to remind myself anymore and I just flow with life. Haha, I guess that’s the moment I die… lol

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Although that thought sounds a little morbid, it’s probably true – we won’t stop pondering our existence until we are gone, but at least we are half-way there – we are now aware that we need to take a couple of steps back and embrace life as it comes 🙂

Thank you again for your inspiring post. It fills my heart, too, to know we are so in-tune with each others thoughts and feelings 🙂

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I’ve recently read Amanda’s post. It was life affirming. I think that we go through life, looking for a destination, when there really isn’t one. It truly is in the journey…

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That’s well said, Rob! Although we need a goal in order to move it is what we experience on our journey. The problem is when we are too focused on the goal we miss the unfoldings on our journey. And the journey actually is the present moment. That means that we would miss the blessings of the present moment.


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