A couple of weeks ago, I discussed the negative feelings about Mondays with a friend. We were talking about why Monday is connected to something negative. My friend said it was because the relaxing stress-free weekend was over and people had to return to a job they really don’t enjoy. Of course, hanging around without appointments, sleeping long, meeting friends, or enjoying a trip somewhere is fun. But doing it for weeks, months, or years without having a task to fulfill, would that be fulfilling? We all have a purpose to fulfill. Sooner or later we would become discontent.

But why do people become unhappy with a situation? It is simple: They want to be somewhere else. Let’s look at the bigger picture. The job is not the problem. It is only another symptom of a general attitude. People who complain about their jobs probably complain about other things, too. They feel helpless about what happens around them and often feel like the victims of fate. It is not easy to show them that they have it in their hands to change something about their lives. The belief is buried too deeply. It often needs several experiences that make them wake up from that misunderstanding. I speak from experience.

There are two ways to bring a change about unwanted circumstances:

• Change something about the situation: For example: If you want to change your job, it needs some effort. It needs time, and it can be burdening. But the current situation seems to be burdening, too, so what’s the point, right? Maybe an extra education is needed to get where you would like to see yourself. Of course, even more effort and less spare time. But you can’t fly before you grow wings. Sometimes it appears overwhelming yet for one to make the big leap right away. Still, taking small steps is possible.

• Change your attitude: If someone can’t find a way out instantly, they should start by identifying things to appreciate. This acts as a first aid measure. If you only dig into the darkness you can’t find any light. Look for things in your job that you are grateful for. You will start to feel more appreciative about it. Even if it’s only that you have a secured salary every month, which is more than many people have. The current, not-so-desired job can work as a springboard for a beginning career. If you constantly think about how much you dislike your job, you will only find more reasons to dislike it. Once you start finding reasons to like it, your view will suddenly open up to its positive aspects. In the follows you will see chances where there were only obstacles before. You get ideas about what you want to do and the process begins. An open mind and positive character are more likely to attract positive attention than a grumpy one. That alone can open doors.

This is the case with everything in our lives. It includes our jobs, relationships, or any other situations we face while walking through this lifetime. I don’t say I am a happy Buddha. I don’t walk around all the time with a silly smile on my face. I have quite a lot in my life’s backpack. But right because of that, I learned an important lesson: If I don’t like what I find in my life, then I have to change it. I did make dramatic changes in my life without knowing where they led. It happened that some people could not follow, which showed me that ways were ready to part. Others only joined me right because of my changed direction. I would not have come so far if I had remained sitting at a table, turning my thumbs, and waiting for the circumstances to change. I would love to remind you of a post I shared in January. In that post, my son told us that he decided to like November. He did not like to not like something. Since he can’t remove November from the calendar, he decided to change his mind. One thing less that bothers him unnecessarily.

Leaving the comfort zone is scary. It is every time. Although undesired, the comfort zone is often the preferred choice because people know what they are dealing with. Plus, they think they can give up responsibility when blaming the world, their job, their partner, or whatever. It’s the same with the current situation on our planet – politics, environment, poverty, equality, and more. It is not the others! It is up to each individual how the world looks in general and how their own world unfolds in particular. Complaining about how bad the world is serves no purpose. Neither does waiting for others to change it. If everyone thinks like this, nothing will ever change. No excuses!

Again, change requires effort and courage.
Taking a step out of your comfort zone depends on
how strongly you want that change.
Always remember:
The more enthusiastic and convinced you do what you do,
the more successful it will be.
Ultimately, it is a personal choice!
At least, I wholeheartedly think so.

In Love and Light