There are times, circumstances, or even only moments when we struggle to see some light at the end of the tunnel. But exactly then, it is all the more important to have a lamp light at hand to find the way out and fill the heart again with joy. Here are some suggestions to set nervosity, anxiety, anger, disappointment, and worries aside and regain inner warmth and power to lift us above that struggle.

Motivation:
Think of something that makes you smile. Search for positive thoughts, like thinking of something you are looking forward to that lies behind the current situation. Repeat affirmations or remember times you have overcome previous struggles. Think about what advice you would have for another person in such a situation.

Forgive:
Close your eyes and feel a warmth and love grow in yourself for the situation and/or the people involved. Tell yourself that what you are going through right now helps you to grow past it. Send love to the situation and people. They have made themselves available to help you develop what you cannot achieve only by yourself.

Detachment:
Imagine it was a week, a month, or six months later, and how you look back at the current situation knowing you made it, which is a sure thing. That way, you show yourself that you are not the situation. You only deal with it.
You can also picture the situation or person opposite to you. Now try to feel where the cords, chains, rubber bands (or whatever kind of attachment you notice) are and cut them with a tool of your choice. It does not destroy anything. It only releases the unhealthy attachment.

Facing it:
At one point, you know you cannot avoid the confrontation with something that scares or bothers you. So, become aware of it, stand up, and take the challenge.

Go for a walk:
Take deep breaths and pay attention to what you see. Maybe sit at a favorite spot that empowers you. Let the thoughts come and go like the clouds in the sky. See that the world is bigger than the challenge you are dealing with. Life goes on and will always do.

Spoil yourself:
You deserve the best. No matter how you get treated or the sadness that has you in its grip, take care of yourself and treat yourself to a cup of your favorite tea, a hot bath, a simple break within the day, or a trip somewhere.

Sports:
Sometimes, too much piles up in ourselves. Then running, riding a bike, swimming, or any other physical exertion can release you from excessive energy.

Work in the garden:
Working with and in nature can have immense effects on our inner balance. It is grounding and helps you focus on the current moment. Like sports, this can be a physical exertion and releases excessive energy.

Clean the house:
When you are really angry, this can be such a constructive tool to get some work done that you postponed so far. You get it done faster because you have the pushing energy in you plus it is again a tool to release excessive energy.

Meditation:
If you are well-practiced at meditating, this is one of the most powerful tools. Maybe you can even smoke some calming herbs.
But when you are too nervous, it won’t center you. You might only get more nervous and restless because you cannot let go of a thought that grows to the size of a mountain.

Essential Oils:
Of course, don’t forget those! For example, you can use lavender, tangerine, honey, orange, ylang-ylang, marjoram, or geranium. You can evaporate them in a diffuser, drop them on a tissue and smell on it, put them in an aroma stick and breathe them in, take a steam bath, or vaporize some in a fragrance lamp. Just make sure you don’t overdose.

Reading:
You can either read about the issue to receive more background information. Or you can read something to distance yourself from the situation. May it be a novella, a thriller, or a self-help book, as long as it helps. Maybe you should check out The Secret, The Law of Attraction, The Power of Now, The Four Agreements, Your Sacred Self, … and maybe one of my books can give you a lift too…

These are just some suggestions and depend on you and the issue. Sometimes, you need comfort, sometimes a punching ball, and sometimes you need a combination. But whatever it is, there is a tool for everyone to feel grounded, calm, encouraged, and loved again. Do you have further suggestions?

In Love and Light