In my workshops I ask the question: If you had a magic wand, what would you change in your life? Where would you position yourself? Who would you be? That is the moment when the buried dreams are surfacing. My next question is? And what keeps you from realizing them?

Sometimes it is the financial situation, responsibility, or obligations. But very often it is just used as excuses in order to keep everything as it has been (Comfort Zone). Mostly it is the fear of breaking out of habits. It can be the fear of doing something which wasn’t done before, perhaps some uncomfortable experiences were made in the past, or it simply is the fear of failing.There are many reasons.

Very often it is because of negative experiences in the past. Someone who went through a bad relationship perhaps swears to never ever get into a relationship again in order to not get hurt anymore. Of course, they cannot get hurt but they will also not get another chance on love. Some people perhaps wanted to learn a certain profession but failed their exam and never tried again. Perhaps because they were ashamed of not passing it or told themselves that it was too difficult for them.

I guess everybody once choked on a drink. But I think no one decided to never drink anymore. The lesson was to be more attentive in the future. Why not being that with everything we once “chocked” on? A negative experience tells us what we should avoid or change. There is no knock out system that says you only have one try. Perhaps sometimes you do only have one try. For example when the parachute doesn’t open while gravity kicks in. Ok, that was a little morbid 😜

I know people who were not privileged to go to college or to university. But they made their way differently through schools, seminars, and hard work. They did it because they wanted it. Perhaps it took them some years longer but they made it. Only because in the past they did not jump on that intercity train did not mean they can take the bus instead. As unique as we are as unique are our ways to our achievements. Don’t believe you fail only because you don’t go the “regular” way. There is no regular way – there is YOUR way!

Never believe that whatever happened in the past is a direction for the future. In my post Control is an Illusion I mentioned many examples of people with disabilities who achieved goals which many, not disabled people, never reached. And why? Because they did not look back but forward.

We all leave footsteps on our journey through life. When we look back we can see where we went, where we stopped, where we ran, even where we laid down. But when we look forward there are no footsteps. What lies behind is only the written story which brought you to this very point. But what lies ahead is an unwritten page. There may be difficult territory, it may be slippery, or it may be a smooth and soft meadow. But only when you look forward you see where it is best to put your foot next. As long as you look back you will stumble again. The past can only define your future when you hold on to it. Don’t worry. The tail is not wagging the dog. The trace a boat leaves on the water is not directing it. Whatever experience you made in the past is not the experience that lies in the future.

Whatever you needed to learn from any experience ever made is in your backpack – it is with you. The wisdom you need is written in your storybook. Now turn that page around, take a pen and start a new chapter. Don’t copy and paste anymore! The past is there to limit us but to prepare us for more. Every step on our journey is a scoop of wisdom and you are the only one to taste it! It is your book, your path!

The future is unwritten and you are its author! If you had a magic wand…

In Love and Light