This post is inspired by a discussion I had going with Carisa of Sometimes Silver Linings Are Blue about the rabbit hole. Actually, it was more about the positive effects of that rabbit hole experience. Carisa thought it would make a topic for a post. I always love to discuss things with her. Carisa is a treasure box of experience and I honor and appreciate her a lot.
When we are falling down that proverbial rabbit hole we feel lost and helpless. It seems we cannot do anything about what happens in a particular situation. No control to keep things together or let them develop in the direction we wished. There are situations when we try desperately to keep the crumbling walls together. We try to glue together what we can but the crumbling happens much faster than we are gluing and what is meant to fall apart or to not happen will definitely fall apart. The only thing we can do is watch things happen.
I don’t say, we shall give up on something we believe in. But there comes the point when we simply accept that something is not meant to work out or to persist. That is the moment when we realize that we have no power over the happening. Maybe desperation or fear set in and…. we are falling down the rabbit hole.
But that rabbit hole is actually only the tunnel of awareness we have to cross. While we are falling deeper and deeper we are also sinking deeper into ourselves – finally! We sink deeper into our own feelings. We are bathing within our sadness and just letting it flow. It is dark down there. We feel lost and forgotten, misunderstood, or as I said, helpless. We gave up trying to glue the ruins but sit crying between them. We are getting still.
In this state, we are more receptive to listening and seeing what we were blind and deaf before. We see helping hands which are reached out to us and we take them. Pride disappears and we appreciate it to be consoled. We experience compassion and that we matter. We hear words we did not hear before. Only in the darkness of that hole, do we see the lights, which we did not realize before. Those are the moments when our perception changes and our horizon gets wider. Sometimes we even need to fall into the hole in order to meet and recognize people (or certain facets of them) we would not have met or recognized otherwise.
Those compassionate hands we meet might have experienced the same or similar things before. That’s why they understand. That’s why they reach out. That’s why they can give us the feeling of being not alone which mostly already stops our fall. We see that we are not the only ones struggling. We see that others made it through and that brings the belief back that we can make it too.
In such situations, we often find kindred spirits and make special friendships, connected through life’s magical paths. Mostly those encounters have a much deeper meaning and a greater purpose than we would expect in the beginning.
Think back on your life. The worst situations, the saddest time in your life, whom did you meet, and what has arisen from it? When you feel yourself falling down that rabbit hole then try to be curious and aware. Whom will you meet? What solution will you find down there? What will you be given? For sure something profound will happen. There are no accidents in this perfectly organized universe!
Sometimes the cause for falling down that rabbit hole is only the crucial moment to making the fateful encounters or developments in our lives.
In Love and Light