Recently, Colin of MeAndRay.com shared a wonderful link with me. It is a Ted Talk with the conductor Benjamin Zander. He is talking about the transformative power of classical music. No, this won’t become a post about classical music. What went so deep were Zander’s profound insights about life and beyond which he incorporated in his talk.“I will never say anything that couldn’t stand as the last thing I ever say.” This was the vow of a woman who survived Auschwitz. Zander told the story of that woman at the end of his talk. It is the inspiration for this post. I will try keeping this post shorter than my usual Monday posts because I want you to listen to that talk. Something wonderful will happen inside of you.
Whatever may be the trigger but at times particular situations or happenings come to my mind which makes me wish I could change something I had said. Or which makes me wish I had said something. In one case it was the last time I talked to someone dear not expecting it was the last time ever I talked to that person. In other cases, I said things e.g. to my children out of stress. Often it was only a release of accumulated emotions from too much swallowing in general. They just dropped the straw which broke the camel’s back. Although I did not mean it and saw it all from a distance some hours later… it was said.
It is anything but easy to always have control over what we say. Also, only in order to not feel guilty about what we say mustn’t be the reason we avoid to speak up and clarify what needs to be clarified. But if we want to do ourselves a favor then we should be more conscious about what we say. An emotional release can hit back like a boomerang. Perhaps not right away but maybe years later when a certain incident is coming up in our memories and starts haunting us.
As I said, I don’t think we can avoid it and for sure, it holds its lessons for all parties. So we need to learn from it, implant the insight and make it better. If there is a realization about something that cannot be changed anymore then we can make something wonderful from that insight from now on. Something we could not have developed without that painful insight. What was said, was said. What was done, was done and cannot be undone anymore. But at least we can grow into a better person from it. Whoever we were is not as important as who we are today!
Please reserve 20 minutes and listen to that amazing talk full of passion, zest for life, and life-changing insights. I am sure, something in that talk will strike a chord inside of you too!
A big thank you to Colin again for making me aware of this talk!
In Love and Light