We Can Change!

We all are products of our habits and our thoughts. Over the years we have come into routines in our lives. Experiences that we stored in our minds have become labeled and whenever a similar experience shows up we open the folder with the fitting label and add it to our collection. We are acting more and more like robots instead of human beings.

There may come moments when we feel that this robotic existence is not fulfilling. We get discontent within our thinking structure. The feelings we get from it are becoming a prison. We start dreaming “It would be so wonderful if I could only… but…”. We are so convinced that what we built up within our minds – no matter what made us build it up – is an unchangeable truth that keeps us from going for what we feel inside. We put all our dreams aside. We put joy aside. We put happiness aside.

What we forgot is that it was we who built up this thinking structure. It was our decision to repeat a thought in our heads until we believed it. It was we who believed what others told us about life and about ourselves. It was us who agreed. It is understandable that we take over thought patterns most of all when we heard things from people we trusted or when we were little and simply did not know it any better. But that doesn’t matter: WE agreed!

We trained ourselves in negative beliefs. Whatever happened in our life we automatically linked to the destructive “truth” we believed in: “Life is hard. Life is mean. Life is a competition. I am wrong. I am not smart enough. I am shy. I am too scared. I will fail.” What pressure. And of course, after a while, many give in because it all feels much too overwhelming.

But remember, as I said, we trained ourselves to believe what we believe today. If we could train ourselves this way, we can train ourselves in every way! What we believe is not a rule we have to follow. It is a decision. Why else would there be so many opinions in this world? Why would there be leaders, inventors, role models, and pioneers who successfully prove the opposite? Not because they are different but because they believe differently. If you are not happy with what you believe about yourself, about life, and about the world then there must be something wrong with that belief. Don’t accept it only because you were told so or because you have believed it for 20 years. None of it is proof that this belief is a truth. The truth is what you make your truth!

I have not always been like this. I was shy, I was insecure, and I was full of self-doubts and fears. Until the moment when I was facing the decision to either break down or break out. I chose the second one. I realized that what I think is my decision and I started practicing thinking what I want to think. To think about what makes me stronger instead of weaker. To think about what brings me closer to my dreams. It was not easy in the beginning. But only after a few weeks, I noticed that many changed thoughts already showed up reflexively. I kept it going and my changed perspective changed my inner world. I got happier, and I started believing in myself (not talking me into anything but really believing), I faced my fears and noticed that they simply disappeared the closer I got to them.

Whatever you believe in today you can change. It is your life and your decision what you want to believe. Don’t let anybody tell you what your world is supposed to look like. It is your world and your home for the lifetime of your body. Decorate it,  paint it, travel it, explore it, enjoy it! It is yours to create and the creation starts with a single thought!

In Love and Light


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The purpose of my blog is to inspire and shine a light on the beauty and power of the wonderful being inside your body. You came into this world to share what only you can give. Remember who you really are, conquer the world the way you always wanted to, and become the blessing to us all that you were meant to be.

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Oh yes Sis. I can relate perfectly to this, though maybe i have more ups and downs rather than keeping it going. One day i will make that breakthrough😘

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It is a process – an important process. All that you experience leads you to that point in order to experience it to the fullest. Once you went beyond that point you will never be even able to go back 😊

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Erika, great post and very pertinent and impactful quotes. This theme dates back to Aristotle who said we are creatures of habit. There is a great book on this subject by Charles DuHigg, simply called “The Power of Habit.” In it, he supports what you say above. We have good habits and bad habits.

He notes the key is to see what initiates the bad habit – such as walking past the break room during work. This may lead to unhealthy snacking. So, the habit is the snack, but the initiation is the afternoon break. So, if we replace a bad habit with a good one, we can eliminate the bad habit. In this case, take a quick walk around the block, hit the water fountain and back to work.

He goes into greater detail around worse habits such as smoking, drinking, binge eating, drug use, etc.
Take care my friend, Keith

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Hi, Keith, thank you so much for leaving this great comment. It is so true what you (or he) wrote about habits. I experience it with chocolate. I used to have a bit of chocolate after each meal. It got a habit and almost an addiction. I stopped it and after only 3 days the craving was gone. It is amazing how we are able to change our programming. Thanks a lot again, Keith and have a great day 😊

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Thanks Erika. The book is an easy read and uses many examples – AA, Starbucks, etc. As for your chocolate, with Thanksgiving behind us, we have all these leftover desserts. Yikes.

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Starbucks has an excellent training routine, that helps in life as well as work. There is an example therein about a former drug addict changing his life around – he substituted good habits for bad ones. He became more organized, could deal with people and even difficult people better, etc.

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Are you kidding me? I’d feel more than honored. It is my greatest happiness when I can inspire. Feel free to print and share whatever you feel worth it. Thank you so much for sopping by and treading. Big hugs and have a lovely day 😊

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Such a fabulous post Erika.. I am pleased your broke out and did not break down.. 🙂 knowing how the other perspective feels lol.
I so agree with you.. We are so often told what to believe.. We listen to gossip, and believe, we read the news and believe.. We are so indoctrinated we for the most part have forgotten how to think for ourselves.. For often to stand up and be the one who is for change is often ridiculed for going against the herd mentality.
Even our education systems are out of date and full of flaws… Yet we keep on going along with it .. Knowing instead there are greater values to be taught on the curriculum

“”Don’t accept it only because you were told so or because you have believed it for 20 years.”””

You said it all there within that sentence Erika..
We are Changing and thank you for being one of the ones who is helping educate more of us to Change..

Love and Light, and loads of Blessings your way
love Sue xx ❤

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I think the insight that we are allowed and able… yet even demanded to create our life through the way we decide to think is THE breakthrough experience. It is what changes your life and what eventually leads you to all to all the experiences you were meant to experience – done with stagnation and circling around the same place.
I thank you so very much for your so sensitive and thoughtful comment. I always appreciate your words and what you feel about those subjects so much. Thank you for taking the time for reading and commenting. I know those posts can turn out long. Huge hugs, Sue 💖

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🙂 Enjoy your weekend Erika.. I may well be quite for a time.. A post to be published soon will explain.. Much love in your direction and keep Singing, and sharing your precious thoughts through your heart my friend xx

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Wow, I just said that to a friend today. That there is such a difference between living and existing. Yes, we need some healthy self-esteem. Everybody is important and precious… not only the others. Thank you for adding this, Colin 😊

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Absolutely not, Erika. Then I would have been dead or something worse, I think…
Much happens through life, and we just need to realize, that only WE are able to change our life, no matter how bad it looks 🙂

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