Recently, I talked to a neighbor, and she told me about her little daughter being diagnosed with diabetes. She said that she is working on solely thinking of her daughter as healthy, avoiding any negative thoughts, and believing that all will be well again while this is only a temporary condition. It reminded me of a post I published more than four years ago:
Your life is going well. You are not bothering too much with tasks of occasional challenges. You are easy-going that makes you face any task just as something that needs to be done. You are not in need to keep yourself positive because you simply are.
All of a sudden something happens that turns that easy-going attitude upside down. Something, that you thought you had control over, like your health or an outcome you never questioned. Have you lived a misunderstanding by now? Is life more complicated? Now you start pondering in general… and thus start making it complicated. You are finding things to worry about you never thought of before, and after a while, life seems overwhelming. You want to be that easy-going person again who just moved forward step by step and did wonderfully in going with the flow.
One day, a friend was sitting in a course together with other people, and for no appearant reason he got dizzy and lost consciousness for a moment. It was embarrassing, of course, and also shocking because his body acted in an unusual way and caught him off guard. He got it checked and whatever it was, it was a one-time occurrence. All was well with him. But it shattered his former steadfastness and confidence. Since then, he experiences that physical feeling more often, and, in turns, he feels sick in his stomach. It happens more likely when he is in a closed room with a lot of people, in a bus, or anywhere he cannot just leave. He is afraid that it could happen right then again, although there is no reason to think so. Those fearful thoughts already create a sense of weakness. And once he feels the slightest signs, his focus and fear of “it starts again” intensify the “symptoms”. The more his body confirms his expectations, the more concerned he is. Although he knows it is all in his head, he gets caught in a vicious circle. Now how to break that spell?
A thought becomes an emotion, an emotion leads to an action, and an action causes events. The experience we create from it is what we store in our minds. The next time in a similar situation, the mind will open that file again and sends the former experience that feeds our thoughts and emotions… Repeated thoughts and experiences feed the belief system. Whatever we believe is an imagination. Whatever we imagine as our truth is what we experience. We direct and control our body’s functions that way – in which way ever. We can heal it, and we can also make it sick. The more we are convinced about that ability, the more we can control the direction. It starts with a thought, continues in an emotion, and results in a reaction of the body. It is all connected. But still, that knowledge alone may not help. We need to detach from the grip of fear and look at the situation from a higher perspective. As soon as we experience detachment, we understand something essential: When we can detach from something, it can impossibly be part of ourselves. That means holding on to it is a choice.
How to detach is the more difficult question because it is so individual. Meditation can help. Talking to someone can also bring relief and insight. A very good way to distance yourself from these destructive, reflexive thought patterns is to exercise. It helps to release inner tensions, focus on something completely different, oxygenate the body, and to simply dive into a world apart from everyday life. What supports the effect even more is doing sports in a group. There you have people with whom you can talk about different topics than you are used to. If not sports, then making music or a new hobby will do. All this fills your life with different content, makes you discover more about life, and doesn’t leave as much room for the old topic. It simply becomes less of a priority. But there is more!
We need to get the false program out of the system and replace it with the one we feel better about. It doesn’t help to tell yourself not to think of it and that you will be fine. Because right then, you focus on it even more. We need to ask ourselves how it would need to be that I don’t bother anymore. Then we can create an environment – a picture, a conviction – which makes us feel safe. Like our brain links a bad experience with something in our daily life, we need to find a link to something that gives us a good feeling. That way, we can reprogram our subconsciousness. When we have to be in a small room every day, and it feels oppressing to feel the wideness coming through the window. If there is no window, imagine a hole in the ceiling or the wall next to you, or even imagine the wall transparent. Just a spontaneous idea… the possibilities of imagination are endless and are individual. For the beginning, you can also use a talisman, take along a bottle of water, a snack, herbal essences, “emergency” medication, or whatever along. Not necessarily to take it but to feel safer by having it with you.
Perhaps we cannot control everything around us, but, for sure, a lot about us!
We are who we think we are and are free to think what we want to think.
We are not the victims of our thoughts but their creators.
Once we are able to control our thoughts, we have a life filled with unlimited possibilities.
In Love and Light
On a side note: I don’t say that when someone has health problems they only got them because they focused on getting them. But it is one of the factors that can influence the health condition big way. I know some people in my surroundings who were afraid of particular diseases or believed to get them one day… and after a while, their bodies replied.