I was talking about the comfort zone, about making decisions of going towards a new direction or going back, and about those decisions within a bigger decision process. I was talking about that in the end, every decision teaches us something necessary which makes detours or “trips” so important!
I want to continue here with one of the crucial points that hold us back from going toward something new. The “What if…?” question is in our minds as soon as we don’t see the path in front of us! A new education, a new love, moving, a new job, starting a new business, simply doing something we haven’t done before and don’t know how it may work out.
You know what? Nobody knows how something works out they never did before. There is no experience only a vision, an idea, a feeling! The more unfamiliar something appears the bigger that “What if…?” can become. What if I get hurt again, what if I make a fool of myself, what if I have to confess I cannot make it, what if nobody likes me… What did all the great inventors and explorers do? If they had asked themselves that question we would still live in caves.
The difference lies in the point of view! When there is something new coming up why is the first reflex to find reasons why it won’t work? We may have no confirmation for the desired outcome but we don’t have it for the opposite either! But there is one thing we always have: our intention! My intention is the most important part of anything. Even though I already see that things are going to be difficult as long as my intention is directed to the outcome I want to achieve, it is possible or I will find ways to make it happen!
We get influenced all day by the news, people around us, commercials, … and much more. Mostly this happens unconsciously and we find ourselves inside of thinking patterns that are more limiting than supporting. But we don’t realize it. We believe that we are thinking reasonably in trying to limit “risks”! But what we forget is that even staying in the old can be a risk because nothing down here was created for eternity. Things change, people change, life changes, we change…! If we don’t push our circumstances then we are pushed by our circumstances. We mustn’t let our thoughts become the master over us. We need to be the master of our thoughts. I am that being that thinks my thoughts that way I can choose what thoughts to think!
Again, if I have no experience with something new, why should I start collecting all possible thoughts on why it won’t work out? Why shouldn’t I start finding thoughts about why it can work out? Why don’t we make the question: What if it works out? What if I find the most wonderful friends? What if I make a lot of money? What if I can start a successful new career? Now, what if both ways to ask generates more power, more curiosity, more joy, more enthusiasm, more excitement, more innovation, and more engagement? Which one of the two questions is the one that opens doors? Which one makes things possible? Which one inspires and intrigues others? Which one will be supported by others?
Yes, we may not know the path ahead and we don’t even need to. It is a new adventure and we can only find out as soon as we are on it. That’s the challenge and the learning experience. The more open you are the more you will know where to put your next step. Ask yourself the “What if…?” question and while asking yourself all the possible positive outcomes you burn the doubt and raise a passionate determination. That should be the only focus when we take that first step!
In Love and Light