Mind And Soul – Buddies For A Lifetime

Lately, I read a post of Amanda’s. She wrote a letter to a close friend who is distancing from her while in serious struggles. Amanda reached a point where she needed to let her friend just go her way which is a big insight to accept. At times we simply have to let others find their way even when we see that they are hitting the wall again and again. What are words of use when they are not heard? And what is heard words of use when they are not felt?

Sure, we want to protect our loved ones and see them happy and smiling. But everybody stands in their own shoes and nobody knows about another one why they walk in this or that direction. Often we can simply be there, waiting in the background with open arms.

We all have a red line that leads us from birth to death. It leads us along all the experiences and encounters and is the program for our unique life. How we follow that red line is up to us. But life will always take care that we don’t leave that line. The more we struggle with something the more we are distancing ourselves from that red line. Our self, our heart, our soul – however you want to name it – is in tune with that life plan. It knows exactly where the path leads. It is that inner knowing or that gut feeling we cannot prove. Our minds will call us irrational. But some things in life are simply impossible for the mind to judge or to know because it only has its wisdom from past experiences in this lifetime. But the soul always sees the bigger picture.

One of the lessons to learn in this physical life is to understand that there are two forces at work: The mind and the soul. Feelings are the crucial factor that eventually defines the way we move through life and how we perceive it. As long as we just let the feelings flow without judging them we are in tune and in communication with our soul. But our feelings are influenced by the voice of our mind: The thoughts. Our thoughts are mostly reflexes of our belief system. It is nurtured from repeated thoughts in the past, put together with influences from outside, our experiences, and how we perceived them (based on a former belief system). So our belief system is uniquely subjective. It can impossibly see the bigger picture as long as it claims to be omniscient.

The soul alone is not able to make it through this physical lifetime without the mind either. Where would be the use of incarnating? We want to experience ourselves, we want to learn from the laws of duality. We want to feel life in its depth – at least we did want it before we came here. Now we need to let loose of clinging to the mind’s wisdom when it comes to our life plan, to major decisions. That is why it is often said that the right path is not always the easier one. The soul knows where we planned to arrive. Our own development and the changes in our personal and in our perception are necessary to keep up with that plan. That comes along with inevitable changes. We often don’t understand why because many changes happen out of the blue and feel not only confusing but heavily challenging. They can bring us to our limits but only in order to learn or develop something that keeps us on track or leads us back to the path.

Knowing about this we need to silence the mind in order to feel our soul, to hear the voice of our Self. It is the feeling that empowers and motivates me to hang in and move on. It is now to align our thoughts with this feeling. The power of our thoughts combined with the wisdom of our soul is an unstoppable team. It makes it through all the thorn bushes we might have gotten stuck when lost the path. It makes it through all the changes much quicker and smoother and with a higher perspective. It makes it through life with the power of love and the strength of a peaceful warrior. It is a step-by-step walk in a state of awareness. There is a word for that:

Of course, barely anyone is constantly in that state. When life happens we are often thrown into a black hole first. It is then to remember and to realign when noticed that we lost ground.

In Love and Light


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Wow! This is really deep Erika! I really like this post! It took me awhile to figure it but I’m finally doing it now. The only thing we can do is be in control of ourselves, nobody else. We hope our loved ones make good decisions. I have to admit it’s a little bit different with a child though.

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I think we all have experienced something similar already. So we can only tell them how we see it and be there for them. But they need to walk the path … in their shoes! Thank you so much, Van. I always appreciate your thoughtful comments and that you take the time reading those posts! 💖

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That is my intention! I always try to find situations from real life we all or at least many can relate to in order to understand better the message behind. We all live a real life not a theoretical! That was lovely, Lynn! 😘

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Even when we are clearly not being heard, we should express ourselves in whatever manner is appropriate. We must know, in our own mind, that we did everything we could. To hold back can cause a decision to be made out of ignorance, and the last thing any of us surely wants is to look in a mirror and say “I wish I had told her/him ……..”

Digressing slightly (my apologies Erika), but this concept was critical with both my children as they struggled through their teens. If they made some bad decisions out of stupidity, then they must accept the consequences. If however they made bad decisions out of ignorance, then I must accept the consequences for my own shortcomings as a parent.

i.e. We should give people “the tools to work with”. If they chose not to use those tools? We know that we did all we could.

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I see it exactly the same way! True learning happens through experience. We hear good advices but don’t know what to make of them at times because we don’t feel it. That’s exactly when we need to let them go to learn the lesson by themselves. It is definitely not easy when it comes to our children… but perhaps even more important! As you say, we can provide the tools but if and how they use them is up to them… Thanks for sharing this, Colin!

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Thank you, Erika. You have no idea how much I needed to read these wonderful words today. I’ve been struggling to “let go” recently. In fact, I was naughty and I went to visit my friend (even though I said I wouldn’t.) Again, I tried to talk some sense into her, but my feelings were greeted by deaf ears – ears that didn’t want to hear the truth. I hugged her, told her I care about her and I walked away. She knows I’ll be there if she needs me, but for now, I have to go my separate path. It breaks my heart to see her even worse off than the time I saw her previously. But this is something she needs to go through on her own.

You sum it well when you said;

“Sure, we want to protect our loved ones and see them happy and smiling. But everybody stands in their own shoes and nobody knows about another one why they walk this or that direction. Often we can simply be there, waiting in the background with open arms.”

It’s all I can do.

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Seems that we pretty often meet exactly our needs with our posts! 😉
I read your comment twice! It touched me deeply and I totally undestand that you went to see her again although you planned differently. It does not matter. Perhaphs that left more than you might think. Even when they seem to not listen something stays and works. You left your words, your love, your understand, and your open arms at her place. She knows for sure now that you mean it, that you care, and that you will be there no matter what direction she goes. That mostly is even more important than the best advice. She knows that she is not alone. You are a wonderful friend. Your big heart might be painful for you in such situations but probably the life jacket for the other person. You did all you could but the last decision is at hers.
Big hugs, dear tea buddy, and you know that I am there for you too 💖💖

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*big hugs* You just seem to know all the right things to say. It’s like our minds our connected, sometimes!

You’re right, I’ve said what I need to say. In a way, I got the closure I needed. I can sleep at night knowing that I have done everything I can to try to save my friend – it just so happens, that at this time, she doesn’t want to be saved 😦 maybe one day! (I hope!)

Thanks again, Erika. 🙂

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Yes, it looks like. Sometimes when I wrote my comment I think perhaps I should say it differently. But then I leave it and it is always exactly what was needd.
You are right, she doesn’t want to be saved for now or wants to safe herself. However, this is not in your responsibility anymore. Big hugs to you too, dear tea buddy 💖

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Well, I have some good news. Last night she text me out of the blue, saying that last Friday made her have a hard look at her life. It was almost like she wanted me to know that she knows she HAS to change. I simply told her that I was glad that she has realised this and I am HERE when she needs me.

Let’s hope she starts making changes. I have more hope than I did the day before. 🙂

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That is awesome!!!! That is all that was needed As we said, even if it looks she doesn’t listen… it does work inside! That sounds so good and I am happy for you to know that you did the right thing! 💖

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Erika, good thoughts. We can be there for our friends, but it is their ball to play. We can encourage them, root for them, lament with them, and help them when asked, but we cannot do for them. That can be frustrating when you see the train wreck coming and they do not. Thanks, Keith

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Lots of inspirations around for writing it too, Bro! Sometimes we are hitting some walls in order to find a path without a dead end out of the maze. The important part is to keep moving…. and as you say, walking the line! 💖

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Thank you very much, Mihran! I always appreciate you heartfelt comments very much. 😊
Sure I will! I made a note and will check your new page. I think about including it in my review on Friday. What do you think?

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Not always easy to accept the decisions of others for their lives. But to understand what can be behind makes it a bit easier. I am glad it spoke to you, Irene, and thank you always for your thoughtful comments! 🙂

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