When do we have the most power? When are we the most productive? When do we feel the most motivation to hang in, to start something new, to finally get projects done? It is always when we feel good.

No doubt, there are times in life when things are coming to an end, when plans don’t work out the way we hoped for and when all our effort seems not coming to fruition. Times when we are confused and when things around us fall apart or simply change in ways we have no control over….. times of change!

Sometimes we understand what happens. But often the world presents itself differently or we have changed in a way we don’t understand the world anymore. But whatever it is, if we give in we let the world spin us around like debris in a tornado. We are feeling bad and that makes us weak. The weaker we are the more we get spun around and the worse we feel.

YES, life is shit at times. YES, it forces us so often to do things we actually don’t want to do. YES, we would like to escape onto a lonely island, be by ourselves, and leave everything behind… just take ourselves out of the picture. But NO… that is not possible. It can be a good idea to take time out and get thoughts and feelings sorted. But over the long run that is no solution. So what to do to get our power back, our motivation, and become what everybody wants to be namely happy?

Feel good! That sounds sooooooooo naive, right? Most of all when we almost get drowned in the mud. But at some point, we are so tired of this all, of feeling punished, oppressed, frustrated, and out of control that we all of a sudden stop. We are questioning if it is really about us? Who has the right to make us feel like that? And why to hell did we accept to feel like that? Yes, life definitely can appear shitty at times. But you know what? That is normal! I don’t know anyone (me included) who never stumbles, who always soars smoothly resting in themselves without interruption. But the meaning of stumbling is to get up again. Stumbling doesn’t mean that we are wrong, it means that we might need to stop for a moment and check where to make our next step. It means not only having our heads in the sky but also getting aware of what happens around us. We change, and life changes but that is not meant as a punishment. It is a development that comes along with development.

As much as frustration, desperation, resignation, anger, and hatred, weakens as much positive feelings strengthen. That mostly comes along with denying the current situation, feeling like the victim, and waiting until the world changes in order to feel better………. that will never happen! Acceptance of what is now and understanding that things change because we are meant for more is the bottom line of self-development. It makes us see that we are not victims but creators of our lives. We perceive our lives the way how we direct ourselves through it. We are all strong, we are all successful, and we are all fantastic, beautiful, and incredible. It only depends on what we believe about ourselves. What we believe about ourselves is our choice and it has nothing to do with what others believe about us. Whatever happens in life is not meant to weaken us but to make us stronger through its lessons.

Look back in your life. How many times did you already grow out of yourself? Think about how far you have come through what you went through. When you made it up to here you make it everywhere. Stand up, look to your sides, draw a mischievous smile onto your face and say to yourself: “Here I am life, watch out! I am still standing and I am still moving. Whatever is now, is not meant to last, but it helps me to create something new. And when one thing is for sure then I am here to blossom. The mud I am standing in is my breeding ground and the rain from above feeds my growth.”

As soon as this all starts to explode inside of you, you detach yourself from the problem and open up to varieties of solutions. You will see that all of a sudden you are receptive to ideas and ways you couldn’t see before because you did not look in that direction. In taking the next step in this new direction, new encounters happen. When you smile the world smiles back! When you are strong, you will find strength around you. The funny thing is that it has always been there. You simply did not see it. Aligning your thoughts with who and where you want to be, creates powerful feelings. That power makes you spin your world and not the other way around.

Only when you feel good, do you feel strong and ready to face life, step up for yourself, and to turn the rudder around. Feeling good has nothing to do with being selfish. It is the art of realizing where your power lies. When you are feeling good are yourself again. You are complete. That is why it feels so powerful and why negative feelings weaken you – that is not who you are.

The power of all development, the art of being happy as a state of being is the knowledge that life and you are partners who shape each other!

In Love and Light