From early childhood on we are told what is right or wrong. We are punished or rewarded for our behavior. We observe how other people declare what they like or don’t like, what they think is beautiful or ugly, what they think is good or bad. As a little child we already learn to divide things in categories and we learn to judge. We learn it in a way that over the years we are convinced that everything has to be categorized and so we automatically judge whatever we see, hear and experience.
But when we judge we cut ourselves off from understanding the greater context. We stick to our opinion, which we are used to for years or even decades. When we judge, we lock ourselves out from a higher perspective and therefore from a wide range of possibilities lying in front of our feet. We keep ourselves from expanding.
We have come into this physical world to experience duality. We wanted to experience it, because we learn faster and more effective out of opposites. They are our tools to realize what we want and what we don’t want. Opposites make us feel what matches us, what supports us, what feels good or what hurts and causes struggle. We learn out of opposites if we want to keep up the path or change it. We learn what causes success and what we should not repeat. And every person experiences it differently. I love seafood. My husband doesn’t at all. My husband likes cooler temperatures, and I love the hottest summer days. Duality is wonderful. We learn how good a hot tub feels after a long walk on a cold winter day. It shows us the value of light, when the sun sets.
When we are out of a physical body we know, who we are and we are aware that we are surrounded by light, love and endless powerful creative energy. But it is not special because when you are surrounded by light, you cannot see your own light although you know about it. That’s why we come to earth with its physical laws. We want to experience darkness to rediscover our light. We want to experience sadness to rediscover that happiness already lies within us. We have to live in bondage to feel what freedom means. We want to experience hatred, indignity and ignorance in order to rediscover and cherish the love we are, we give and we get.
Nothing that happens, happens accidentally. Also we are not the born victims. But sometimes we don’t look at the challenge which is only sent to us for discovering the blessing behind – the opposite. And the more we turn away the harder the situation will be. That is not a bad thing, because the harder the situation the more impressive and sustainable the insight and the liberation. Whatever challenge is coming towards us, only rubs us because right this leads to the awareness of realizing the shining, divine being we actually are.
Try to stop judging, whoever wants to offend or annoy you. You never know what this person is going through or what is lying behind them. They don’t know it any better and they only act out of their current state of mind. Whatever breaks down in your life, try to look beyond it without judging. You will find out a lot sooner what new developments are growing out of it. Sometimes we have to (almost) lose it all, to realize what we have and never can lose.
When you stop judging you stop yourself from being stressed to always find an opinion. Try to see it more with the eyes of the soul. The soul doesn’t judge. It perceives and asks what’s in it for me. There is always something in everything for you – otherwise you would not have even noticed any discomfort.
In Love and Light!