#JustAThought… The Healing Power of Grief

When I asked what to write for today, this topic came to my mind. I am not an expert on grief at all, but just someone who got confronted with it in different ways. So whatever I write here is not psychological expertise but only my thoughts on it, plus what seems to come through while writing. Please keep this in mind while reading.

Every one of us has experienced the feeling of grief. It is not necessarily always about the death of a close person. One can also grieve when one separates from another person, when friendships change, when the children move out, or when one moves away from a place where they felt comfortable. Grief can mean realizing that life no longer has the same content that you were used to and loved – a change in the composition without loved ones or animals, circumstances, places, and even dreams.

What they all have in common is a tremendous emptiness that suddenly becomes palpable. And it is precisely when the pain is greatest that the process of healing begins. The journey through grief is as an individual, long and intense as the person themselves and their relationship with the missing part. It is one of the most intimate experiences that everyone has to face for themselves in their own time and in their own way. That is why it has such a deep healing effect once you get through it.

Grief goes through several stages, and each is a process in itself. There can be numbness, helplessness, anger and blame, despair, and resignation. But since the essence of our nature is well-being, at a certain point, something changes. We no longer want to feel that painful emptiness, that sadness. We see the life we could have but stop ourselves from living it because we are holding on to a life that can no longer be lived. We remind ourselves that life can be fun. We want to be joyful and excited again. We want to have things to look forward to. Then the process of getting up and looking for things to fill that void again begins. That’s the moment when life flows back into that person, and plans are made again.

This does not mean that the reason for the sorrow has been forgotten or has become meaningless. It only means that it has been given a new place in one’s system. It has become accepted as part of one’s life. This is when acceptance has taken place, and inner peace has got made with the situation. The experience of loss, on the one hand, and the experience of overcoming it without repressing anything, on the other, make the joy of experiencing life stronger than ever. Grief is painful but holds immense potential for healing and personal growth.

Why ever I should write about this topic, maybe to give someone an impulse to remember that life goes on and can be as beautiful as the person himself wants to make it. But this is also just a thought… What are yours?

In Love and Light

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You simply went your personal path through grief. You may have needed it to see everything the way you see it today. I think there is no wrong or right way, just the individual way. However, I am glad you are at the point you are today, Gary 💖

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I really relate when you wrote that grief holds us back from living a life that can be wonderful from living the life we use to have. I have caught myself doing that for some time including now. Day by day tho i see myself growing and learning about myself from dealing with loss. It’s inevitable, we all have to deal with that pain at some point in our lives. Very well written Erika

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It is inevitable indeed and the process the individual goes through is as individual as the person. This is definitely ond of the hihgest grades of a challenge we experience to grow from but also probably the most transforming.
To tell from your words, you must have already come a very long way. I think we will be dealing with it for the rest of our lives in one or the other way when even the energy and our attitude about it keeps changing and keeps shaping us.
Thank you very much for sharing your experience. Much love your way 💖

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It is completely individual. But, as Jan said, “You just never know what contracts you’ve signed before taking this human body.” So, it happens for the reason to develop and probably to teach us that whatever we may think we lose, we are still there. That again, makes us stronger in ourselves. My mom is amazing proof of this. I have barely seen a person with so much joy and zest for life. And she developed it while going through grief after my dad died.

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Whatever is scripted before we are formed will be played out. Everything leads to our development either positive or negative. Your mom sounds like a great source of inspiration.

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When my husband passed away, the grief I felt is indescribable. But a part of me realized that I needed to take everything good I’d accumulated from him and recreate a new life alone. It took a few years, but I totally reinvented myself and wound up with an entirely new direction in life as an author. You just never know what contracts you’ve signed before taking this human body. After 13 years, the deep pain is no longer my companion and what replaced it is beautiful and expansive. I am living proof that you can survive grief and still thrive.

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I hope that many read your words and are just about to cross this valley. Your story proves that the journey through grief is important to walk and that you transform along the way, exiting at the other side renewed in many ways. Thank you so much for sharing this, dear Jan 💖

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In going through it and the changes it makes within us, one thing seems to stand out strongly. A much greater appreciation of life, to touch love much easier simply because we see that much we hold really doesn’t mean so much anymore. And when we reach this place a much more open heart can receive so much better without having to sift through it by what we had been holding before.
A beautiful post Erika, wise words and an open heart that they came from. Thank you ❤️🙏🏽

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Maybe what we do learn from such an experience is that whatever we seem to lose we still ARE. We cannot lose ourselves, the essence, the essence of life, of our life, the life we are. That’s maybe why life feels so much more intensely when we (have to) let go of what is not part of us. A dear school friend of mine, who died last year, one day after his 51st birthday from cancer, said: “I have never felt more alive since I have been sick.” I would say, that proves it completely.
Thank you, for your wonderful and (as well) heartfelt comment, Mark 💖

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