A few weeks ago, I saw this quote on Carol Anne’s blog. It came at just the right time. I was questioning my emotional reaction to other people’s actions. I thought I was more detached already due to the awareness regarding the quote above. But life showed me that I still have certain expectations I have not worked out yet.
I don’t know if there is anyone who is not attached to the opinion of at least one specific person, or whose mood or feelings are not influenced by the reactions or non-reactions of that person. Too easily it happens that we forget that no one can make us feel or think anything unless we permit them. In the end, it is a decision everyone makes. Yes, our feelings can be hurt as a reflex. But it is a personal perception. The other person may not even notice that they hurt you. However, I think it is important to mention it to the other person (because there are only a few people who can read thoughts). What they make do not make of it is their business. But it is even more important to raise yourself above the hurting.
The problem is that in blaming someone for how I feel, I only dig deeper into the wound and maybe even cause an infection that can be intoxicating my system. I don’t mean to hide anything under the carpet because I will stumble over it over time, and the pain only grows by crashing on the floor. It also makes the gap grow between the two people if both hold on to their attitude. But if I create harmony in my mind, I lift myself above the hurting and into higher energy. This way, the wound heals pretty soon because there is no identification anymore with the cause of the wound. I will rather see another person’s reaction as part of their personality instead of taking it personally. The higher awareness does help to either simply accept the other one as they are or to make new choices. But, however, decisions made from this higher energy are strong and clear. They are free from resentments, frustration, or any emotional motivation.
It is in taming the ego or at least, in realizing that it is its power over us that keeps us in the low energy that causes self-destructive thoughts and painful feelings. When you put the ego aside, you stop judging but only observe. You know that the reaction of another person is coming from their level of awareness, and it is not up to me to judge whether it is higher or lower than my awareness. By putting the ego aside, the soul speaks. The soul is not dependent on anyone’s approval or opinion. The soul knows about the individuality of every being and of its imperfection that leads to perfection. In the energy of the soul, I am standing on stable ground – rooted yet free from attachments. The soul knows about its identity and does not need any confirmation. The soul does not look down on others nor kneels in front of others, begging for understanding. The soul doesn’t ever feel the need to be right and make the other one feel wrong.
The ego is bound.
The soul is free.
In Love and Light