Who Is The Thinker?

My Monday post “What means freedom” from three weeks ago triggered some very inspiring discussions. Still, freedom is a state of not feeling the need to escape a situation or a place. But how can we get there when the circumstances are so suffocating or when we are so afraid of what’s happening?

It is a clear insight that I am NOT my circumstances. I am NOT the problem I am dealing with. I am NOT my disease. I am NOT what others expect me to do or to achieve. I am NOT what others did to me. We identify quickly with what’s around us because our thought pattern reflexively leads to it. And here we go again: We are NOT even our thoughts.

Of course, it is not easy to detach from what we are used to thinking or what we were taught all life long. And it is even more difficult the more we feel threatened. A bad disease, for example, can become one of the biggest challenges to teach us. In her book “Dying To Be Me”, Anita Moorjani tells how she learned during a near-dead experience that who she really is, is not her dying body and not the fear that made her ill. Her late-stage cancer healed within only two weeks.

After all, fear is one of the most powerful creating energies. Through fear, we focus with an enormous dedication to what we want the least. Strong fear can take control of our lives completely. It keeps us from living and throws us into a prison we are busy making escape-proof – until we realize that fear is nothing but a construct of thoughts.

Love is our natural state of being. Fear is the opposite of love. Since love and fear are two ends of the same energy it makes sense why fear is so powerful AND has such a destructive effect on us while love heals and empowers. As soon as we turn toward who we are, love, and fear disappears. Both can impossibly exist at the same time. No matter what it is, fear makes a situation worse and puts me at the mercy of whatever will or will not happen. When we let love flow into that situation, we can feel the stable ground beneath our feet again, our heads become clear, and what we send out is the energy of what we want.

Once I understand that fear is only a way of thinking, I only need to ask the question “Who is the thinker?”. Eventually, we only need to adjust our thoughts to our natural state of being. The further our thoughts drift away from love the more polluted they become. I don’t say that all the bad things that happen to us are self-induced. There is so much more about this life and what we are meant to overcome for whatever reason. But fear does have a poisoning effect on our bodies and minds. The only way of healing and cleansing my system is to understand that I am NOTHING that is coming from this physical world. I came from love and I will go back to love. The time in between is my journey to learn that I will find freedom in adjusting my thoughts to who I really am.

In Love and Light


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The purpose of my blog is to inspire and shine a light on the beauty and power of the wonderful being inside your body. You came into this world to share what only you can give. Remember who you really are, conquer the world the way you always wanted to, and become the blessing to all of us that you were meant to be.

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I’m not so sure that I believe that fear is not a real thing, Erika. In his comments, Colinandray comes up with some good points, but if there is one thing I do fear, it is snakes. It doesn’t matter if they’re big, small, poisonous or not, I feel and experience fear whenever I see one. For me, fear is a real thing, especially given that I can create fear by merely watching a horror or paranormal movie.
You also mentioned in this post that ‘Fear’ is the opposite of love. I always thought that ‘hate’ is the opposite of love. If fear is not a real thing, how can it be the opposite of something real? Or is ‘Love’ not a real thing? I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts.
Your post got the cogs in my questioning mind whirling.

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Hmm, good points here Hugh! First of all I want to say that I differ between fear and instinct. Your fear of snakes may be a phobia or an instinctive way of saving yourself. It depends on what you want from life but if it is something where you have to overcome your fear of snakes then it is a different point of view and meant to be overcome. Because otherwise your fear would keep you from developing and realizing what is meant to be realized.

Now to the opposite of love. Yes, to me it absolutely is fear. I was fearful regarding spiders. And I wanted to get rid of that fear because with my head I knew that it was ridiculous. But that thought pattern was so deep. I hated spiders because I feared them. Then I replaced my fear consciously with love, with compassion, with acceptance, and respect. I got the chance to hold a tarantula in hands. I had tears in my eyes because of my gratitude that this little creature helped me to prove it. I don’t like touching spiders still but I am not afraid of them anymore. I believe that hate is only an aspect of fear. It is a negative energy which weakens, fear weakens, hate weakens, resentments weaken… love empowers.

Basically everything is real which we feel. But what means “real”. Let’s exchange real with persistence. Only the constructive power of love is persistence. And I don’t mean human romance here. Love is real since who we are is love. In some way love is the only real thing but our minds create a negative counterpart. Whatever happens to our bodies… the core of love who we are lives on. But all the negativity and distortion dies with the body.

I don’t know if this answers your question. Maybe I digressed but the words just flew out of my fingers. I don’t say it is THE truth, who am I to claim it, but to me it makes sense. However, thanks a lot for your thoughts, Hugh. That was very thought-provoking and it led me into the wonderful energy of love while writing this. Thank you for this 😊

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Thanks for your response, Erika.

Yes, I would agree that my fear of snakes is a phobia, but not all snakes are dangerous, and I don’t see them as putting myself in danger, yet I still fear them. It’s a little like my great-grandniece who has become frightened of the dark. She may be too young to know that nothing can hurt her in the dark, yet even I sometimes find myself fearful of not being able to see what’s in a room with me when it’s dark. It doesn’t last for long because I know there’s nothing in the room that is dangerous, so then I see the fear I am experiencing as real. Thus, fear to me is a real thing.

I fear lots of things (such as paranormal movies), but I would never class the experience I have of paranormal movies as the opposite of love. I suppose I could say that because I am choosing to watch the film (rather than not being in control of switching it off or not having the choice to view it), but I still see hate as the opposite of love. There are not a lot of things I hate, but to me, those things are what I see as the opposite of love.

Does that all make sense? Maybe, not, but it’s a fascinating subject you’ve touched on in this post.

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It does make sense to me absolutely, Hugh. I can see myself in everything you explained here, Hugh. Those anxieties (also of the darkness, of paranormal movies) are real! Everything we feel is real for the person feeling it. That’s why I take it serious when someone has psychosomatic problems. It is real for that person wherever it comes from. But the origine of them is in the head. Although you basically know that there is no reason to fear every kind of snake, there is a general reflex that causes anxiety. It was the same with spiders to me (no matter what size they were). I was paralized and could only scream while I was sweating my blood out of my body. I had panic attacks. But why? There was thought pattern insided of me, a file in my program which opened up as soon as a spider appeared on my radar. I even took this example in my book. But after a while I noticed that it was not fear which caused this all but a really deep disgust. That explained why I reacted to all spiders that way. I still have this disgust but I am not panicking anymore since I have an explanation for me.

Regarding the what is the opposite of love, I decided to write a post about it. I really appreciate that you brought this up because it is an interesting topic to write and talk about. There is a lot behind it which is too much to tell in a comment. I plan on bringing it up in about two weeks. Is that ok for you, Hugh?

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I’m glad you’re writing a new post about the opposite of love, Erika. It’s always good to know that comments left on our blog posts can generate more discussion that results in another blog post. To me, it’s part of the whole blogging process.
I look forward to reading it.

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You say it, Hugh! Blogging inspires and supports the development. I have learned so much by blogging (reading others bloggers’ posts and interacting). That’s what we love about it and what’s part of it, as you said!

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This is such a VERY important post right now Erkia especially at this time when Fear is being spread around resulting in panic..
And when we get stressed what do we get.. We get ill..
Loved your words within your closing paragraph when you said “The only way of healing and cleansing my system is to understand that I am NOTHING that is coming from this physical world. ”

So true… Only on Saturday I succumbed to a very bad heavy head cold.. It came out of the blue, thwarting my intentions to read and paint because I couldn’t see through streaming eyes and every other minute for two days I was blowing into tissues..

I took this as another cleansing of my system, letting go of more yuk. 🙂 As I was allowing myself to empathise perhaps too much with the world at large.. … We create what we think!!!…
And we also have to understand there are those who want to manipulate the way we think to create the Fear!…
When you understand the Bigger Picture there is NOTHING to Fear at all… and I had another good talking to myself, you see we are works in progress, learning, growing, evolving, and sometimes the world needs to ‘Re-think’ and see how we become the epidemic within society. When we begin to wake up and see what WE are doing to OURSELVES by the very actions of Our THOUGHTS maybe then we will learn to create a more balanced, healthy, peaceful approach to our way of being, and when we alter our internal thoughts, we then create a more healthy, balanced external world.. ❤

Much love my dear Erika.. Sorry I have not been around much on your blog, this last week… But I always try to backtrack and catch your beautiful thoughts that are so inspiring.. ❤
Hugs to you dear Erika… Love Sue ❤

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Sue, I can only second what you said here. Lately, Annette posted an angel message which was “When YOU REACH the BREAKING POINT, LET it BREAK!” I loved it and it goes so well along with what we are talking about here. As you said, we don’t need to fear anything because who we are is invincicle. The problem lies in what we are identifying us with. Why feeling resistance to a natural way of development by things breaking down in order to make room for something new which fits our developed being? Realzing this, seeing this bigger picuter (or at least, knowing that it is there and trusting it) makes exactly that happen: We understand that our thoughts are the stirring wheel through our journey.

Gosh, so much inspiration here and again it all comes down to the filter in our heads which is our greatest teacher!

Thank you for another beautiful comment and I hope you are doing much better meanhwile. No worries and no need to appologize, Sue. I was only able to reply to comments to my reduced posts last week. And that might happen more often this year due to the education I started. We do what we can without crumbling, right?
Lots of love to you, dear Sue 💖

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Love that Erika, yes its the filter in our heads.. And how we each perceive, get drawn in and bleat away.. LOL 🙂
Glad you so understand about Time management… I am trying to spend less time on the net… Yet I am also so drawn to speak my truth… And I have projects that I want to complete, books I started that I want to read.. And all the while Nature calls for me to just ‘blend and Be…’ And while I write those words Blend and Be a poem now wants to be written LOL…
So Yes I Soooooo, soooo, know what you mean dearest Erika… LOL 🙂
We do what we can, visit when we can, and that is the beauty of our friendship and that of others here I link with in WP, is that we accept each other when we arrive… No obligation, just Gratitude for our conversations and our TIME…
For giving of our Time to each other is often the greatest gift.. That and to listen with one’s heart…
So remember Erika, to take a deep breath or three….. Those of us who are your friends are always here, .. Follow your heart, your plans, and your studies, along with your projects… NO CRUMBLING is allowed!!!! Right!!! ?
Step by step… We will achieve all we need to..

Love and Special Hugs dearest Erika… And thank YOU for being YOU.. ❤ ❤ ❤

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You found such beautiful words to describe that there is no need to tear ourselves apart since those we call our friends and feel connected with will be there no matter how often or how frequently we show up. I totally feel the same about it.
Yes, there is only gratitude for the blessing, support, and inspiration we find here in our community.

So, thank you very much for being here, for your open ear, and most of all for your open heart, Sue! You are such a gift 💖

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Fear can be defined in so many ways. Regardless of how we individually define fear, we can override its programming and use it to our advantage or we can simply ignore it and do what we set out to do. If we immerse ourselves in love we begin to discover who we are and our capabilities, then fear doesn’t even show up on the radar. A good post to take to heart, Erika.

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You are right on target with that. That’s exactly the point. It depends on the basic energy we dwell in which defines whether we align with the destructive or the constructive end of the fear-love energy. Thanks a lot for summing it up so “constructively”… hehe.

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My initial response Erika, is to suggest that fear is not always a negative influence/thought. I have not thought this through carefully (time restraints), but a fear of drowning can keep us away from the water. A fear of drowning may just give us enough motivation to stay afloat long enough to survive the ordeal. A fear of failure might just give us the motivation to put in the extra effort needed to succeed. So while fear can be a huge demotivator and stop us from realizing our potential … it can also be a motivator. Just a thought.

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Absolutely, Colin, I know what you mean and I agree. But I tend to not use the word “fear” when it comes to such life-saving and intuitive reactions or to reactions out of learned lessons. I think the word “fear” is used for too easily but of course, this may be totally subjective. In order to differ between restricing thoughts which hold us down and keep us in control in order to not try something new, follow the crowd, excuses not taking steps out of the comfort zone AND instincts, intuitivity, gut feeling which, and simply learning from experience which keep us from being harmed, I use the word “fear” for the first one. Sorry for the long horror sentence… lol.

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Just understand why we hold onto fear so tightly. Once we see the ‘why’ it loses its power over us. It’s like a new relationship or new job or first time climbing a tree or a million other things we do for the first time. We are nervous, unsure and our beliefs of ourselves shaky. But once you do those things you have experienced them, understood what they really are in doing them, and in doing that we realise that they aren’t some monster but things that are within our ability to do…or not…and that is ok. Yes, I would love to be able to do a triple backward somersault diving off a 65 foot cliff, and that would make me feel great. But I chose to do something much harder, as we all do. I opened myself to love so that I could challenge my heart and its fears to find a happiness beyond words. And that gives us great courage, it gives us confidence until at last those fears lose their power over us in understanding them and we will let them go. It all becomes second nature to us and we are finally free, those things no longer holding us back. For we have challenged ourselves to see an inner truth, our truth, the one that calls out to us to find. That search for a love and happiness that is gently waiting inside for a light to come its way. Your light, the one that grows stronger each step you take, each adventure you face.
Got a bit excited Erika, your post was amazing and it brought a big smile inside. Thank you for sharing dear lady, your light is shining brightly 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🦘 🐬 🐳 🌺

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I like a lot what you said here, Mark (like I always do like your comments). Yes, it is interesting that we reflexively feel fear when facing something we have no experience with yet. We feel fear because we are not in control of what can happen. But still there is the choice between fear and no fear… it is interesting how we mostly reflexively react because we could also feel curiosity and excitement because of gaining a new experience.
Isn’t it just so amazing that once we turn to the love end we feel this enormous inner power rising up and filling us. And like you said, it brings this big smile to our faces. A smile I am wearing too right now. So much excitement for life when we open our hearts for love.
I am very happy about the positive energy it brought up in you, Mark, and thank you that I am feeling it too by reading your wonderful comment. Have a bright shining day, dear friend ☀️😃💖

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