My Monday post “What means freedom” from three weeks ago triggered some very inspiring discussions. Still, freedom is a state of not feeling the need to escape a situation or a place. But how can we get there when the circumstances are so suffocating or when we are so afraid of what’s happening?
It is a clear insight that I am NOT my circumstances. I am NOT the problem I am dealing with. I am NOT my disease. I am NOT what others expect me to do or to achieve. I am NOT what others did to me. We identify so quickly with what’s around us because our thought pattern reflexively leads to it. And here we go again: We are NOT even our thoughts.
Of course, it is not easy to detach from what we are used to thinking or what we were taught all life long. And it is even more difficult the more we feel threatened. A bad disease, for example, can become one of the biggest challenges to teach us in this matter. In her book “Dying To Be Me”, Anita Moorjani tells how she learned during a near-dead experience that who she really is, is not her dying body and not the fear that made her ill. Her late-stage cancer healed within only two weeks.
After all, fear is one of the most powerful creating energies. Through fear, we focus with an enormous dedication to what we want the least. Strong fear can take control of our lives completely. It keeps us from living and throws us into a prison we are busy making escape-proof – until we realize that fear is nothing but a construct of thoughts.
Love is our natural state of being. Fear is the opposite of love. Since love and fear are two ends of the same energy it makes sense why fear is so powerful AND has such a destructive effect on us while love heals and empowers. As soon as we turn towards who we are, love, fear disappears. Both can impossibly exist at the same time. No matter what it is, fear makes a situation worse and puts me at the mercy of whatever will or will not happen. When we let love flow into that situation, we can feel the stable ground beneath our feet again, our heads become clear, and what we send out is the energy of what we want.
Once I understand that fear is only a way of thinking, I only need to ask the question “Who is the thinker?”. Eventually, we only need to adjust our thoughts to our natural state of being. The further our thoughts drift away from love the more polluted they become. I don’t say that all the bad things that happen to us are self-induced. There is so much more about this life and what we are meant to overcome for whatever reason. But fear does have a poisoning effect on our bodies and minds. The only way of healing and cleansing my system is to understand that I am NOTHING that is coming from this physical world. I came from love and I will go back to love. The time in between is my journey to learn that I will find freedom in adjusting my thoughts to who I really am.
In Love and Light
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I’m not so sure that I believe that fear is not a real thing, Erika. In his comments, Colinandray comes up with some good points, but if there is one thing I do fear, it is snakes. It doesn’t matter if they’re big, small, poisonous or not, I feel and experience fear whenever I see one. For me, fear is a real thing, especially given that I can create fear by merely watching a horror or paranormal movie.
You also mentioned in this post that ‘Fear’ is the opposite of love. I always thought that ‘hate’ is the opposite of love. If fear is not a real thing, how can it be the opposite of something real? Or is ‘Love’ not a real thing? I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts.
Your post got the cogs in my questioning mind whirling.
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Hmm, good points here Hugh! First of all I want to say that I differ between fear and instinct. Your fear of snakes may be a phobia or an instinctive way of saving yourself. It depends on what you want from life but if it is something where you have to overcome your fear of snakes then it is a different point of view and meant to be overcome. Because otherwise your fear would keep you from developing and realizing what is meant to be realized.
Now to the opposite of love. Yes, to me it absolutely is fear. I was fearful regarding spiders. And I wanted to get rid of that fear because with my head I knew that it was ridiculous. But that thought pattern was so deep. I hated spiders because I feared them. Then I replaced my fear consciously with love, with compassion, with acceptance, and respect. I got the chance to hold a tarantula in hands. I had tears in my eyes because of my gratitude that this little creature helped me to prove it. I don’t like touching spiders still but I am not afraid of them anymore. I believe that hate is only an aspect of fear. It is a negative energy which weakens, fear weakens, hate weakens, resentments weaken… love empowers.
Basically everything is real which we feel. But what means “real”. Let’s exchange real with persistence. Only the constructive power of love is persistence. And I don’t mean human romance here. Love is real since who we are is love. In some way love is the only real thing but our minds create a negative counterpart. Whatever happens to our bodies… the core of love who we are lives on. But all the negativity and distortion dies with the body.
I don’t know if this answers your question. Maybe I digressed but the words just flew out of my fingers. I don’t say it is THE truth, who am I to claim it, but to me it makes sense. However, thanks a lot for your thoughts, Hugh. That was very thought-provoking and it led me into the wonderful energy of love while writing this. Thank you for this 😊
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Thanks for your response, Erika.
Yes, I would agree that my fear of snakes is a phobia, but not all snakes are dangerous, and I don’t see them as putting myself in danger, yet I still fear them. It’s a little like my great-grandniece who has become frightened of the dark. She may be too young to know that nothing can hurt her in the dark, yet even I sometimes find myself fearful of not being able to see what’s in a room with me when it’s dark. It doesn’t last for long because I know there’s nothing in the room that is dangerous, so then I see the fear I am experiencing as real. Thus, fear to me is a real thing.
I fear lots of things (such as paranormal movies), but I would never class the experience I have of paranormal movies as the opposite of love. I suppose I could say that because I am choosing to watch the film (rather than not being in control of switching it off or not having the choice to view it), but I still see hate as the opposite of love. There are not a lot of things I hate, but to me, those things are what I see as the opposite of love.
Does that all make sense? Maybe, not, but it’s a fascinating subject you’ve touched on in this post.
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It does make sense to me absolutely, Hugh. I can see myself in everything you explained here, Hugh. Those anxieties (also of the darkness, of paranormal movies) are real! Everything we feel is real for the person feeling it. That’s why I take it serious when someone has psychosomatic problems. It is real for that person wherever it comes from. But the origine of them is in the head. Although you basically know that there is no reason to fear every kind of snake, there is a general reflex that causes anxiety. It was the same with spiders to me (no matter what size they were). I was paralized and could only scream while I was sweating my blood out of my body. I had panic attacks. But why? There was thought pattern insided of me, a file in my program which opened up as soon as a spider appeared on my radar. I even took this example in my book. But after a while I noticed that it was not fear which caused this all but a really deep disgust. That explained why I reacted to all spiders that way. I still have this disgust but I am not panicking anymore since I have an explanation for me.
Regarding the what is the opposite of love, I decided to write a post about it. I really appreciate that you brought this up because it is an interesting topic to write and talk about. There is a lot behind it which is too much to tell in a comment. I plan on bringing it up in about two weeks. Is that ok for you, Hugh?
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I’m glad you’re writing a new post about the opposite of love, Erika. It’s always good to know that comments left on our blog posts can generate more discussion that results in another blog post. To me, it’s part of the whole blogging process.
I look forward to reading it.
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You say it, Hugh! Blogging inspires and supports the development. I have learned so much by blogging (reading others bloggers’ posts and interacting). That’s what we love about it and what’s part of it, as you said!
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