Basically, when asked, everybody knows for themselves what really matters in their lives (most of all those who were already reminded through life). Taking a serious look at our lives we distance pretty soon from luxury problems which cause us to complain reflexively. Who cares about a closed gate or standing at a red light, a rainy day or a missed bus when you consciously think about the meaning. Those things are temporary “problems” which mostly don’t have a deeper impact on the future.
Probably when thinking of what really matters in a person’s life it comes down to some few things: health, food, home, family (no particular order). Yes, we all think of financial security too but for some reasons often we feel almost guilty mentioning it. But in fact, depending on where someone lives this may be a basic need for sure. However, we are pretty much aware of how little it needs to be content.
Humbleness means, being content with what you already have and grateful for everything you receive.
I used to make lists of gratitude once a week and it was amazing to realize how much I found and how deep I went in seeing the seemingly smallest thing appear as the most meaningful. What means possession if we cannot share it? What means success if we are out of dreams? The inspiration for writing this post comes from a diagnosis one of my relatives received about 4 weeks ago – a young family member. You can be aware of what really matters in life but when you have the issue thrown into your own four walls then you really know! The gratitude for every single good news within the shocking diagnoses shows how humble we actually are.
Yes, I have my “needs” if even they may be luxury. It only comes from the way I am used to living. But it is not really something which killed me if I didn’t have it anymore. So, I enjoy and treasure this life but I am in the awareness that it is not a given right but a gift. However I am feeling at this very moment, or wherever I am going through there might always be someone in a worse place than I am. The humbleness of the concerned person in my family is beyond comparison. That person shows us what it means to accept what is combined with grounded confidence that this is only a temporary issue. What a role model!
When receiving disturbing news many feel like paralyzed in their shocks. They feel helpless and are desperate. But even though not being a doctor or not there in person, everybody can do something actively. It is important to understand the role we should take at that moment. If we are not directly involved we need to give our support by simply being there, by either listening or radiating the strength those directly involved need, and for taking action if we can do something actively. That means that I have to be strong in the first place in order to be strong for those who need it.
By all means, however sad that situation may be, it is not about me. It is about the concerned person(s). It cannot be that I call myself a victim. I have to step out of the self-pity mode and tune in the support mode. Being fearful only weakens. It would make constantly think of what I don’t want to happen AND it only pulls those even more down who need my help. Perhaps we don’t know how things are going to turn out but since we cannot control them we need to build up that confidence in us to radiate it and transmit it to those who need it. They need to feel that they are not alone in their struggle. They need to have a pillar to hold on to when their knees are shaking, a hand that pulls them up again or someone who walks for them if they need a break. Most of all confidence needs to be radiated to that particular person.
We never know how much time we are given on this planet. And we don’t know for how long we can live our lives in the way we want it to live. It doesn’t need to be a disease, an accident, or the death of someone that can turn life upside down. The loss of a job, a natural disaster, a separation, or a deep personal disappointment can cause this too. If it happens then it may not only be realized what really matters but also the gifts which are still there. Even in the most challenging situation, we don’t lose everything at once. It is in looking at what we still have and in finding the strength, the life force, the will power, and the look ahead from those gifts and from all the other things which really matter.
If the circumstances don’t push us to be strong for ourselves
then let’s be one of those gifts
or one of those things which really matter
in the lives of others.
In Love and Light