How important, inspiring, insightful, and so valuable the conversations to a post are was proved again through my Monday post of last week. I wrote about The Fear to Succeed. The interaction which followed made me look even deeper into the subject and lead me to a sequel of that topic.

As I wrote, we don’t necessarily fear it most to fail but more when our dreams unexpectedly start to come true. We have been waiting, longing, and working for something that felt like a deep wish for us, and all of a sudden the first signs of development show up. Or perhaps suddenly things simply fall into place magically and you find yourself in front of a door that is already wide open and you only need to take that one last step over the threshold. But that one last step can become the hardest and most difficult one.

Why – after all that waiting and all that effort we invested – are we getting so insecure and even scared about taking that step? There can be many reasons:

• Very often, we need to leave something behind in order to start something new. It may be a matter of time. Sometimes in order to start a new life we need to leave people behind, and relationships. For example, a separation you are convinced would be the right thing can also mean that you have limited time with your children. When you are moving somewhere it can be hard to leave the place you spent all your life and you might leave family and friends behind too. Perhaps you need to leave a job behind you loved for a dream job that came your way. Leaving something behind can be a tough challenge.
• Another reason why we so often hesitate to grab an obvious chance is also that we don’t know how it will turn out. It is that unknown territory. There is no experience yet. Fear shows up that perhaps we have overestimated our abilities and we fear failing. But only because we have no experience doesn’t mean it won’t work. We simply need to learn it. And the best way to do so is to simply move on the same way we got to that point: by riding on the river of our passion, remaining in the shine of our goal, and following the light our soul sent out.
• But in my opinion, the biggest reason why we become fearful is that we have to take responsibility for the consequences which are known or unknown waiting behind that magic door. If we were not used to taking responsibility and all of a sudden we are in an exposed position (people listen to us, people are watching us, people trust us) that definitely scares us! But the good news is, that we did take responsibility before too. We were simply not aware of it. But the previous remaining in the unsatisfying comfort zone was our responsibility too.

After all the encouragement and motivation to go for your chances there is something very important I want to point out: Never take a chance only because you feel obliged to do so. Only because you started something doesn’t mean you have to stick with it. It definitely is not a sign of failure. When you don’t feel it anymore then stop. It can be that when you are standing at a crossroads you turn around and go back. Perhaps all of a sudden you see that what you would leave behind is not worth the adventure of the new. Or that you feel so uncomfortable with a new situation that it overwhelms you. Or you feel not ready to take the responsibility for all the consequences that might come along with your decision. And you know what? It is OK! There is a reason for everything that happens and everything that happens is OK! As I wrote in previous posts, however, you decide, it will be the right decision. It will definitely lead you to the place you are meant to be. Sometimes saying No to a chance that opens up was the actual purpose of the journey to that particular point. Perhaps you needed to find out how important it is what you have. And even if you say: “I am too scared.” It is OK! The insight you gained from it gives you exactly that boost of growth you needed. And it needs a lot more strength to stand tall for a No than to keep up the Yes path.

All that you learned on that journey was important and nothing is ever in vain. There is only one thing that doesn’t change: The responsibility for your decision! Because either way, the consequences are yours to deal with.

So, however, you decide, back yourself up and stand tall for your decision. Listen to yourself! Don’t let others tell you how to decide and don’t let anybody make you feel guilty however you decide. It is your responsibility and up to you to deal with the consequences. It is your life! You are the only one standing in your shoes! No matter why and how you decide, make it within the glow of your soul and all will be perfectly well. Perhaps you cannot see it now, but you might clearly feel it!

In Love and Light