Have you ever wanted something so badly, only to see it not work out, despite your best efforts? That can bring us into a dilemma: Carry on or let go?
Often, we end up with the opposite of what we actually want. The more desperately we cling to something, the more we can even push it away, but the more we hold on to it again. It becomes a vicious circle. When we hold on in desperation, it is likely our mind that believes it has to. At one point, its only focus is to reach it, but it forgets to look at the circumstances and conditions that may have changed already, and the plan needs adjustment. But does the mind know why we tenaciously hold on to it?
At one point, we should take a step back and look at the whole picture as well as possible. The mind can become a driver of its own, and we follow blindly only because we started the journey one day. Is it still what we want? Can it be that we should lay that plan at rest for a while? Maybe that way we can clear our view, recognize options, alternatives, adjust our expectations, or realize what really can be done.
I don’t say we should give up on anything carelessly if it doesn’t work the way we want right away. But after a while, we need to take a look to understand what the reason could be. It is not helpful to waste time and effort if there is something else waiting that serves us so much better. Even though it may take courage or be painful, letting go can be the tool to understanding and the door to solutions and possibilities.
The bigger picture can only be seen when we step back, but not by pressing the nose against it.
Letting go and stopping to identify with what we programmed the mind makes it visible.
And maybe then we know how to carry on.
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I have found that patience, in the long run, is quite rewarding. 🤔💫
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Patience is such a valuable ability. It has nothing to do with weakness or fear – it is the clarity that watches something peacefully until it is possible to make a decision. Thank you, Gail!
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I like that perspective, Erika. 💯
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Congrats, Gail! I am just on the way. 😉 xx Michael
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Thanks for the “heads up”. I like to be a good hostess. 😜🍃
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Sometimes you have to let go in order to get a better point of view and the direction to go will open up.
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That’s another benefit of letting go! We can step back and see more of the picture with less attachment (as Jan said it below). And then we might decide anew whether to give it another try or to put it to sleep.
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The insight will definitely appear.
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Erika, this is very well said. It is not uncommon to pick the shiny new thing but one is better served by something tried and true. So, we should not hold onto that new thing if it does not serve us well. The best spouse is the one who makes you be the best version of yourself not necessarily the one who is the best looking. Keith
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Right, I was taught to end what I started. But I learned that only because I started it, does not mean that I have to end it when I realize that it is not my thing at all. It is important that I tried it but not that I am bothering myself to the very end. Thank you, Keith!
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This is sage advice. Many times we are faced with this dilemma. Do we let go of the dream and move on, or carry on and try to force it to manifest. It’s much more peaceful when we can step away and let go of our attachment to the outcome.
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I think so too. And I also think that coming to that realization AND that condition to step back, it is already a big progress. Thank you, Jan!
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There is very rarely only one road to get from A to B, so there are occasions when an alternative route should be considered. They may also be times when the question should be asked “Do I really want to get to B? What a fascinating journey life can be eh!!
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Oh, yes, absolutely, and I think that question can only arise when we walked the path toward B long enough. Maybe we go back or turn right to C…
A very fascinating jourey without a doubt, full of twists and surprises. Thank you, Colin.
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it came to me one day, that if you want to win the tug of war, let go of the rope
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Hmm, I never looked at it that way. That’s a fantastic comparison, Annette!
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Yes Annette, many the time I’m doing it for ‘others’ and would love to let go that rope…for me 🤗❤️🙏
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while it can be hard to do, when it is finally done and you look back, it was a necessary lesson
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Definitely, Beth! The experience itself plus the process of letting go have such a big potential for growth.
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They are difficult because of all the time and effort we put into something…like letting go relationships. And after all the struggle, in the end, we finally do. And so many people, me included, finally say…I wasted so much time. But is it wasted? Much is learned in those struggles, maybe not recognized in the first few relationships. But one day wisdom knocks on our door and we see that they all created us, exactly as we have now become. Great post Erika, and a great question 🤗❤️🙏
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Thanks for adding the point regarding wasted time. I like to always throw in the “experience”card. We learn from experience and sometimes it takes us quite a while to be ready to let go. If we let go before, we might not be ready yet and actually don’t really let go. No challenge is in vain because they teach us on our level.
Thanks a lot, Mark 💖
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Well said Erika, your “If we let go before, we might not be ready yet and actually don’t really let go”, is beautifully spoken kind lady 🤗❤️🙏
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Thank you for your inspiration, Mark 💖
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