Lately, we were driving somewhere, and our middle child was with us in the car. We talked about winter and the cold and my son said, “Since I decided to like November, there is no month anymore I don’t like.” I was surprised to hear it coming from him so naturally.

It bothered him to not like something that he could not avoid encountering every year. So, he simply made the decision to like it. And he does like it because, from that moment on, he only looked at the good things about this “matter”. When someone only sees the positive parts of something, what is there that is not to like?

This topic is nothing new to me. I keep saying we should find a way to accept what we can’t change: “Do what you love and love what you do.” But I had to (re)learn it step by step as an adult when I was in my late 30s. For my 25-year-old son, on the other hand, it seemed natural to just change his attitude so as not to make life artificially difficult for him. He has kept a straight, close, and centered connection to a solid source of trust and wisdom. Unlike me and many others, he has never lost this inner unity with himself when he grew up. Thinking back, he resisted letting anyone change this about him. This is why he is able to react flexibly to changing circumstances and naturally focuses on solutions to look and move ahead.

Let’s find that inner foundation again which we only need to access to get the confidence, self-esteem, stability, and power we need to dance through this life with a smile on our faces – regardless of what it has in store for us. I think it would be wonderful to “decide” our frustration away…

In Love and Light