#JustAThought… on Happiness

For this week’s Monday post, I want to share a quote from one of my favorite authors and spiritual teachers, Wayne Dyer. It is a quote from the book “Your Sacred Self”. That book found me and not the other way around. Reading it was the beginning of a big transformation process since it put so many fragments together into one piece.

When you seek something, it says that you don’t have it. So, as long as you seek happiness, you tell yourself that you are not happy or you make happiness dependent on anything or everything outside of you. Either way, happiness will be like a bird coming and going as it prefers. The more you want to hold it the less it will stay. Instead of being open and receptive, you become dogged and tense. In doing so, you lose the lightness it takes to feel happiness.

On the other hand, if you sincerely want someone else to be happy, you open up. Then you become humble. You begin to observe instead of holding on with all might to something that only radiates an aspect of that happiness you long for so much. If you want other people to be happy, then you already feel the happiness within you. Only in this way can you contribute to the happiness of others. Happiness can only be felt when we understand that it can only come from us but never to us.

Once I understood that happiness lies in our intention to see others happy,
I understood the healing power of unconditionality.

In Love and Light

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Yes, absolutly! It doesn’t take much, any sign of kindness suffices can cause a change in someone’s life. On a sidenote, even if you are not aware but the insights you shared here have left some important marks also in my life, Gary.


That sums it all up, Jan. The big misunderstanding and why so many don’t “find” happiness, is because they are seeking it instead of understanding that it is a choice to be happy. Thank you very much for reading and commenting, dear Jan πŸ’–


That is the most amazing thing about love, it will always attract wherever your heart is at, so that you can understand it truly…unconditionally. And yes, some of those paths rock our boats…but through them is always something profound, to us, in its understanding. Always the intent in what we attract. Seeking love in our fears of not being loved, and it will indeed give us what we needed, not what we asked for, to become that love. We just don’t understand it yet…but we will. Great post Erika πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

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The more you love you feel, the more love you give, the more love you get, the more love you feel, the more love you give,… It is breaking out of the negative spiral and love will never leave you anymore. As you said, there is still so much to understand about it, although, love cannot be understood but only perceived. Who can ever explain love? How can the creation define the creator?
Thank you so much for your comment, Mark. I love to exchange thoughts about love πŸ’–

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Well said Erika, who indeed can explain love. It’s on another dimension…in fact Spirit just nudged me…about ‘heaven on earth’…already. And thank you kind lady, that will give me something to ponder over a walk on the beach…for quite a while πŸ€£β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

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Haha, I keep forgetting that, our warmth on full summer (about 28C today) while you guys shivering a little πŸ˜€ And yes, you are with me on my walk on the beach…just look to your right as the dolphins jump in the waves, to your left is many beach goers, above is a few pelicans, many more seagulls and just to be different, where the coastal rain forest meets at the end of the beach a couple of bush turkeys are scratching away looking for food…do you wish to join me in a coffee too? πŸ€£β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

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I’ve always thought that happiness is something fleeting and momentary. Instead, I have something I think more important, more secure: contentedness. I am content, and that is a more consistent state of being, at least for me, than happiness as most people would define it. But then, I’m strange!

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In my opinion, you are right on target. Contentment like happiness is something you create in yourself. As long as you make both depending on outer circumstances, you can never be content or happy. If you are content, what are you missing? If you are not missing anything, you are not unhappy. We can be sad, due to particular circumstances but this is a temporary emotion that is part of life. But I define happiness as something we don’t receive but decide to be, a solid ground from which we nurture ourselves in challenging times which lets us look up and forward and gives us the strength and positive look we need to stay tall and make it through hardships – happiness as an inner concept and decision. Happiness doesn’t work without contentment and vice versa. So, they are closely connected. But as you said, it depends on how you define happiness. And so, regarding your definition, I am completely with you.
I am glad you shared your thoughts, Jill. You see how it inspired my response… hehe.

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Great message Erika. It reminded me of a quote in the context of volunteerism – “The giver always gets.” Just like your happiness quote where you have to want it for others if you are to experience it yourself, volunteering with no expectation of a reward will provide huge rewards. I have volunteered in many, and varied, circumstances over the years and they have all contributed to who I am today …. a fact which I am very happy about!

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Yes, exactly, it is this giving for the sake of giving. As the quote you mentioned says, you gain so much when you give. Sometimes giving something to someone and recognizing their genuine joy and deep gratitude touches me so deeply. More than anything I ever received (except my children, of course).

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