Life is for the Living

Today I am addressing a topic I recently discussed with a friend. Some people celebrate life, and some almost feel guilty for doing it. Feeling guilty about enjoying life can be for various reasons, such as having someone close taken from them, having caused unhappiness, pain, or loss to others (even if it wasn’t intentional), having failed, and feeling ashamed.

Grief weighs you down and can throw you into a dark corner with no ground under your feet. If you caused an accident that hurt people (or worse), you may feel so guilty that you deny yourself the right to be happy. Losing a competition, being laughed at, ruining a big business deal, missing an important opportunity, or being rejected by someone who means the world to you – yes, these can cause you to close the door and hide from the world. All these reactions are human and understandable. They even have the right to be experienced. But not to punish yourself for the rest of your life, but to learn and grow from them. Nothing in this universe happens by accident – neither for the victim nor the perpetrator. (Consider the perpetrator the most loving soul, making themselves the bad guy for the sake of your growth and loading karma on their shoulders.) Amid such a situation, of course, something like this sounds like mockery. But grief, self-reflection, admission of guilt must be felt to find something within oneself that is needed to develop a “better” self. And, yes, Karma has it! When bad things happen to you, consider that you may be experiencing what others once experienced through you. The same is true when you become a perpetrator. And it doesn’t have to have happened in this present life but in any life. It is what makes it so difficult to understand and accept the WHY. There will always be a balance – in each person and the greater understanding of collective existence.

In my book “I’m Free” I have explained this through a number ray. The zero point represents the perfect unity. The higher something is in the direction of the positive numbers, the opposite slips into the minus so that balance is assured. That means that the positive and the negative are perceived less drastically the closer they approach each other.

So, what happens to or through someone, has the purpose of taking them closer to their ultimate goal, which is enlightenment. It is never meant as punishment. It must be done for everyone’s personal growth and thus for collective development. No one achieves higher consciousness by making himself vibrate heavy and slow. Only when we vibrate light and fast, we ascend. The higher we vibrate, the more intensely we live. The more we live, the more we discover and experience. The more we experience, the more chances we get to expand our wisdom, and the higher we vibrate again.

People who punish themselves will not see the light by digging themselves deeper and deeper into the ground. Only when they stand up, breathe the fresh air, and fill their lungs with life and joy are they open to whatever lesson life has in store for them. In this way, it may not even feel like a lesson, but simply like life that wants to be lived. It is not permanent and intentional suffering that leads us to consciousness.
It is the knowledge that it is only a temporary process of self-reflection that automatically makes us grow to higher consciousness.

There is a difference between living and existing.
Existing is a state of never-ending waiting for the end of life.

In Love and Light

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Powerful statement, Hugh. Too many people have not realized that and lived to work. One of them was my father, who died with 65 from sudden heart death. Although he complained about the stress and overload of work to do, he defined himself and his worth through his work and achievements. I think it is in many of us that we want to fulfill our obligations and responsibilities but we need to be careful not to talk ourselves into something. We are always entitled to take care of ourselves, make our lives joyful including work, and end sometihng that doesn’t feel healthy anymore. What others think about needs to pass us by.
Thank you very much for your comment, Hugh.

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I’ve known quite a few people who have worked to live, Erika. Unfortunately, not only were their lives very stressful, but they were often ill and never seemed to be able to enjoy themselves when socialising.
I was lucky in that I was able to retire early. Now I wonder how on earth I did everything while I was working.

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I know what you mean, Hugh. I ask myself the same thing while I am still working two jobs (employed and self-employed).
I am glad for you that you made the decision to retire early and enjoy life the way you want it. That’s also a gift.

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An excellent thought-provoking post, Erika. I totally agree that life is for living, not just existing. We shouldn’t be afraid to experience emotions, even though we are taught as children showing emotions is bad. It’s not. It’s FEELING! And feeling is living!

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It appears that we went through similar experiences. Indeed, showing emotions counted as weakness. The crazy thing was that not showing emotions was counted as characterless. Then once emotions were shown anyway, they were used against me. Now, this is pretty confusing for a child or teenager… But that way, even more, I appreciate the freedom to enjoy life without restrictions.

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Enjoy life, celebrate life. We are not here to live miserably. We know bad things happen and hard times but you shouldn’t feel guilty about trying to live a fulfilling life. You have an awesome week and keep the fire burning inside ❀️

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Yes, exactly, being compassionate doesn’t mean that we must not enjoy our lives anyway. And regardless of what happens, only the joy in our hearts, the joy for life, keep us strong and make this life worth living. Thank you, Sylvester πŸ’–

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I had one of those and it lasted for many, many years. But on the day I saw its light everything changed. So much so that in a very short period I could not believe what had been ‘reborn’ within me. I suppose its like anything we build, the more time and effort, the more we appreciate the end product. And probably why at the end of our lives we will indeed appreciate what it has taken to find that love and wisdom within. Beautifully written dear lady, you seem to have appreciated much in your project of love…width, height and depth…especially the depth πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

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I don’t know the exact wording but there is a saying that goes like this: “Freedom lost and regained has stronger teeth than if you had never lost it.” That is so true! When we find back to that love, that joy, that life within ourselves, it is like coming home. It is like a big reminder. But we needed to forget before we could remember. So, I can totally relate to what you are saying here, Mark. And yes, what more fulfilling project than love can there be? When you feel joy in your heart, love already flows, and it flows stronger. Or because of the flow of love, joy can only happen. Which way ever, love is the answer. Thank you, Mark πŸ™πŸ’–

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Well said my friend, that path of wisdom to find our way home. And all that we do is trying to find that love and happiness, be it caring for others or ourselves. And a classic example is in seeing an accident or people hurt, we immediately go into a care mode. It is our nature to be that way. And this journey is fine tuning that care and love, and finally creating a map that redirects us to its true location within us πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

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Indeed, it in those situations it is a reflex that takes us into care mode automatically. There is where we reconnect with our true nature. Amazing insight again, Mark!

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Thank you, Sis, I am happy to hear that it spoke to you. We must not postpone anything but grab our chances, share what wants to be shared, and enjoy life in all its diversityπŸ’–

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