Today I am addressing a topic I recently discussed with a friend. Some people celebrate life, and some almost feel guilty for doing it. Feeling guilty about enjoying life can be for various reasons, such as having someone close taken from them, having caused unhappiness, pain, or loss to others (even if it wasn’t intentional), having failed, and feeling ashamed.

Grief weighs you down and can throw you into a dark corner with no ground under your feet. If you caused an accident that hurt people (or worse), you may feel so guilty that you deny yourself the right to be happy. Losing a competition, being laughed at, ruining a big business deal, missing an important opportunity, or being rejected by someone who means the world to you – yes, these can cause you to close the door and hide from the world. All these reactions are human and understandable. They even have the right to be experienced. But not to punish yourself for the rest of your life, but to learn and grow from them. Nothing in this universe happens by accident – neither for the victim nor the perpetrator. (Consider the perpetrator the most loving soul, making themselves the bad guy for the sake of your growth and loading karma on their shoulders.) Amid such a situation, of course, something like this sounds like mockery. But grief, self-reflection, admission of guilt must be felt to find something within oneself that is needed to develop a “better” self. And, yes, Karma has it! When bad things happen to you, consider that you may be experiencing what others once experienced through you. The same is true when you become a perpetrator. And it doesn’t have to have happened in this present life but in any life. It is what makes it so difficult to understand and accept the WHY. There will always be a balance – in each person and the greater understanding of collective existence.

In my book “I’m Free” I have explained this through a number ray. The zero point represents the perfect unity. The higher something is in the direction of the positive numbers, the opposite slips into the minus so that balance is assured. That means that the positive and the negative are perceived less drastically the closer they approach each other.

So, what happens to or through someone, has the purpose of taking them closer to their ultimate goal, which is enlightenment. It is never meant as punishment. It must be done for everyone’s personal growth and thus for collective development. No one achieves higher consciousness by making himself vibrate heavy and slow. Only when we vibrate light and fast, we ascend. The higher we vibrate, the more intensely we live. The more we live, the more we discover and experience. The more we experience, the more chances we get to expand our wisdom, and the higher we vibrate again.

People who punish themselves will not see the light by digging themselves deeper and deeper into the ground. Only when they stand up, breathe the fresh air, and fill their lungs with life and joy are they open to whatever lesson life has in store for them. In this way, it may not even feel like a lesson, but simply like life that wants to be lived. It is not permanent and intentional suffering that leads us to consciousness.
It is the knowledge that it is only a temporary process of self-reflection that automatically makes us grow to higher consciousness.

There is a difference between living and existing.
Existing is a state of never-ending waiting for the end of life.

In Love and Light