It is hard when we are in a place of frustration or desperation. When life turns into a rollercoaster ride and you don’t know anymore if you are up or down. And even if you know it changes constantly. Somehow you back off but at the same time hope that someone sees it – feels it, because you don’t want to say anything – and is just there.
But there is also the other side. When you see that someone you care about is going through a rough time and you have no idea what you could do to help. You don’t know whether to say something or to leave the person alone because they don’t show clear signs they want help. The less you know about the person the more difficult. Not easy as well to watch someone suffering and almost physically feel the pain of that person. This is what I experienced several times in my life. We cannot force someone to pour out their hearts. Sometimes they can’t for reasons we may not know. And it is ok then.
Listen to your heart, offer a hand, an ear… or a hug. At times a hug or even only the offer for a talk suffices. It shows them that they are noticed and not alone, and it can give them the necessary power. Perhaps you know that person well enough and know that he or she only needs an impulse to open up. But if this person doesn’t want help or any talk then we need to respect it. It is not our life, it is not our path, it is not our history and it is not our way of dealing with challenges. That is the hardest part for the one that wants to help. That way the helper is forced to work on him-/herself as well.
Then we can only open our arms, send love, and be there in case…
In Love and Light!