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#JustAThought… How Far Have I Come?

February 10, 2025•Life, Motivation, Self-development

Lately, we had some discussions comparing what one achieved at the same age. First I said that it doesn’t matter what one achieves since someone else achieves other things. But what if you are wishing for certain things to achieve, but you simply can’t due to your current life situation?

You cannot force perfect relationships and have children if circumstances do not meet the appropriate conditions (yet). Here we go again to let go for the moment and see what else life has in store to be explored or initiated. That reminds me of a wonderful quote (I don’t know who said it originally): God has only three answers to our prayers: Yes, not yet, or I have something better for you. There is never a No but options that life continues to be colorful, adventurous, and fulfilling – if we let it happen.

But something even more important came to my mind. Why do we have expectations of what to achieve within a certain period? Does it really matter what we can present to the outside world how far my career has come, what degrees I made, if I have a house and children? Is it really about that to be content with my life? No, in my opinion, it’s about something completely different. It is about who I have become over the years.

We develop constantly through this or that happening, or through this or that decision. Some develop by raising children while others, at the same time, develop from a broken relationship. Some develop from earning enough money to build a house, and some from getting a different job because the one before was about to destroy them. On the outside, a house and children may show more of an accomplishment than a broken relationship and quitting a job which appears like going back to the beginning from zero. But it’s absolutely not! The circumstances are there to learn from them. Maybe I learn from raising a family and you from standing up for yourself. Having children is not an accomplishment (different from raising them) but it can even be an escape from quitting a job? Now, who grew stronger inside?

No, it is impossible to tell from the outside how much one achieved or not. There is nothing to be proved anyway. We only need to make sure that we find a way throughout life to feel good, to look ahead, to have plans and dreams, and to simply enjoy what we have.

No person can be compared with another person.
No life can be compared with another life.
If a comparison is absolutely necessary,
compare who you were and who you have become.
That is everything that matters … or so I think.

In Love and Light

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Agreed, Erika, when I witness what my granddaughter now has to achieve compared to my day. The pressure is intense. No wonder so many young minds feel out of sorts.
I do hold hope for the future, though. As I see more young minds begin to question the status- quo.
The wheel always turns full circle!!.

Much love, my friend 🧡 xx

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Everything accumulates more and more. There must come the point when people say: Stop! And yes, the young generation is the one to turn that rudder around. Let’s hope sooner than later.
Thank you very much, dear Sue, and much love to you and your brave granddaughter 💖

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I think Erika.. Society puts expectations upon us, as they set the goals, time lines and the bars we are expected to reach, right from our very first spelling lessons in school, as you were marked out of 10…
It goes on from there, as we live in this fast paced world by which we need to have attained this or that by a certain time frame… And it becomes competition…

Everything has to be given a label or mark.. Yet all the while we are working away to achieve these goals, they are not our goals… We are taught to reach higher as someone else sets the standard bar..

Learning to let go of conforming, and being comfortable with our own way of being instead of rising to meet someone elses…

I think We can all of us give ourselves a huge pat on our backs at how we have risen within, via our inner strengths, and for All the achievements we have uniquely conquered.
Be it raising a family while juggling work, or starting a business, or managing the family budget, To passing your driving test!.. Each are unique to the individual,

We put far too much emphasis upon the written certifications, which some may hold, but in essence they are not worth the paper written on.. Because nothing compares to actual Experiences. In what ever that may be..

May we all be proud of who we are, and how far we each have come… And how far we have still yet to travel… May we be granted strength and stamina to complete our own accomplished Missions…

Much love dear Erika xx ❤

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Yes, exactly, what we label as “achievement” is so individually. One has no problem to pass tests of whatever kinds, others have to dig deep into the matter and give all they can to reach the necessary results. I think it is up to a certain age that we cannot escape the wheel of the system. Only later when we have some distance we my realize it and have the mental independency to do so.

Still the competition has never been harder than today. What our kids have to accomplish to stay “competitive” is crazy compared to what we had to do. The pressure gets bigger and everything develops so much faster. It is not a bad thing since it also helps us to recognize what really matters, what we want and don’t want, and where the individual wants to develop themselves.

May everone find their personal mission sooner than later. Because that means that the majority will break out of that wheel and we get back to the person – with our without degree.

Thank you very much, Sue, and much lov to you too 💖

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There’s an immense amount of wisdom in this post, Erika. I might have to read it again. One of the many key pints I got here was the point of how both “good” and “bad” things help us grow… this reminds me of (polarity and correspondence) in the hermetic principles.

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I agree, Sanjo. And both “good” and “bad” will be perceived so individually to fit the personal development. From how we perceive things, we create our truth and experience, and the next step we take – an endless potential of discoveries that expand our beings constantly. Thank you very much for your comment, Sanjo, I am happy it spoke to you.

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Hi, Emmah, thank you very much for stopping by. I am happy to hear, you found something that lifted you up. Be you and find your personal path of growth in whatever this life has in store for you. Make it yours 💖

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Exactly kind lady. And I discovered something lately and hadn’t put two and two together. Why is it that our countries are run by people we don’t trust. In fact political life draws a certain type of individual, someone who wants to ‘get in the money’ or a manipulator (and even if they come in all pure and honest, the system is a corrupter anyway).

So this is a constant impression, and quite a large one as their decisions put that pressure on everyone, and on our immediate environment as I grew up. There would be very few families that don’t discuss these events from our politicians and have a ‘reaction’ from those constant views. It affects us all. So much so that my dad would constantly talk about what they are doing to us, thieving, stealing, ripping us off. And because of that ‘my’ growing up was loaded with distrust, especially from the ‘system’. Even now I talk of those events, and pass those on.

What I’m getting at is…before I have even gone out into the world my view has been set quite strongly…so what is my views, my dreams, my expectations of what I want to achieve if I am ‘on guard’ before I walk out the door…and…have the pressure of all that (as well as my more immediate family pressure), to have a family, build a house, care for them etc.

This would also include the usual ‘people’ pressure from our current socio-economic climate as well. Back in my earlier days to do ‘spiritual counseling’ branded you a teapot where now it is becoming the norm. And that is just in 40 years (where did it go 🤣). So much ‘pressure’ all around.

Gee, I’m pounding the keys with this today kind lady. Anyway, a great post, we are all ‘pressured’ in so many ways to do what is true, correct, right…or left, in this world. But in the end, I think it is in slowly finding that love inside us, that belief of who we are regardless of what the ‘world’ wants and build that trust of ourselves.

Among all that, I found ‘me’. And in that I am at peace. Thank you for an interesting share my friend 🤗❤️🙏

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Mark, I wonder what your book will be like. The way you introduce something and then come to the point is fascinating.

I agree, we are already “brain-washed” before we begin to explore the world. That’s why we keep up particular pattern until we realize they are not coming from us but from something we were programmed by others. That is the beginning to find the way back to ourselves and the love we are.

Thank you for your time and for sharing another insight from a different angle. I am always thankful and appreciate it a lot, Mark 💖

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Book? Is that the thing with lots of words in it? 🤣 I had 2 goes at it and wasn’t impressed so it is currently sitting in a think tank until I find what it needs to speak 🤗
It was a great post Erika, and it poked at something that I keep seeing in life. That immediate family environment is the basis of our foundation and it can indeed come from so many directions. And it happens in every life so I can see that we are all on the back burner so to speak to allow us to keep testing the waters of life to find that true ‘us’ inside, past those walls we hold. This very life is such a profound structure in its fluidity. Now if I can just pour the fluid into that book 🤣❤️🙏

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Oh, it will come, Mark. It is not a matter of if but only of when. There is something more you might need to experience before you have the frame and the message ready. But it will come, I have no doubt. The way your write and explain is so guiding and loving that it has to happen 😉💖

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This is so true, Erika. We are programmed from a young age to be ‘normal’ when indeed there is no such thing. Comparing yourself to another is a complete waste of time and energy. We are all on our paths.

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It is, Jan! The copy will never be successful. It will remain a copy. It does not even matter when we realize it, as long as we realize it at one point in life to make it ours! Thank you, Jan!

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Erika, many thanks. I love your final counsel at the end starting with “No person….” We should aspire to be the best version of ourselves, but we should listen to life partners who can help us recognize our untapped and unknown talents. Our life partners can help nudge us out of our comfort zone rather than settling for less. Keith

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Oh, yes, for sure! Inspriation and motivation or simply making aware of something we would not have seen otherwise is always welcome. It is only sad, when people think the failed only because the did not meet certain measures. We have dreams and plans. Some we can realize and then life my take a turn and priorities change. But that is life – not failing!

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Life is not about comparison but about trying to live the best quality of life possible. We have been spoonfed this notion of what needs to be accomplished by a certain age or timeframe since birth. Live life, find your place and your since of achievement.
Great food for thought post today 🌞

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There may be journeys we would love to live however, we have our own path and that is to be walked to bring our time here to fulfillment. Thank you very much and I wish you a great week 🌞

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What a wonderful Post Erika. If one’s life is simply based upon presenting some image (I am in fashion; look at my big house; admire my car), then it becomes very shallow and while one can adopt the perspective of “I like being shallow because look what I’ve got!”, there are likely to be regrets later in life.

A shallow person will naturally attract like individuals. This may well be an issue when close friends are desired …. but there aren’t any there.

Having a big house and a fancy car may look very nice, and one may feel successful because of them, but being alone later in life when your possessions do not attract the same attention is not a circumstance that generates warmth … and reflective moments may not be particularly positive.

So many elderly people do not want to reflect back because they know that their earlier times were totally image based. Others do reflect with obvious regret that they lead a life which benefited nobody except themselves. They question that when they die, will they be missed?

There was a survey done many years ago in which terminally ill patients in a care facility were asked to reflect on their lives. The most common phrases used were “I wish I had ……………..”, or “If only I had…………”, or “I could have ……….. but I didn’t”, “I often wonder if …………………” All those comments would indicate a wish that they had made different choices earlier in their lives.

I am no role model to live by, but (at 78 years old) I happily accept that my future is rather limited. I reflect back on so many happy moments that involved other people. I reflect back on the various ways that I have made others happy by simply “being there” for them, or by helping them through a challenging set of circumstances. Are there negative events in my history? Yes of course there are, but those events became a life lesson. After all, isn’t the concept of “growing” based upon life experiences and learning from them?

I believe that my life experiences generated so much change in my perspective of life. My parents role modelled the concept of helping people who were in difficult situations. My life at one point made me totally understand how desperation feels, and the value of a total stranger who offered to “walk with me” until it was no longer necessary. My decision “to give and not to count the cost; to toil and not to ask for any reward” (I believe a biblical quote) had a huge impact on my life.

There are so many ways to give and, contrary to what so many people believe, the giver always gets! It may not be a reward in the context of money or an equivalent but, deep down, one feels a warmth knowing that they helped a fellow human; or they feel the satisfaction of knowing that they helped a charity meet its goals; or perhaps they shared their life experiences so that others could realise that they were not alone, and that there was a happy future for them.

Perhaps I have rambled a little here, but no apologies. I’ll just blame Erika for writing such an inspiring Post. 🙂

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Colin, keep rambling as long as you feel like. That’s always of value! I am glad, I could inspire you to inspire us again.

I completely agree with what you said and shared here. About 15 years ago, I made a promise to myself: “I will never let a chance pass or a dream die only because I am too afraid or someone told me to. I never want to look back and say, I wanted, I could have, but did not and now it’s too late.” I don’t know who said it, but what you wrote here reminded me of something I read a while ago: “It is not what we did, that we regret the most, but what we did not.”

Suppose I live to be 75 or 80 years old, will I have no regrets because I gave me that promise? I don’t know, but for sure less than I would have otherwise. In general, with the knowledge we have today, who would not act or decide the one or the other thing differently? However, right this recognition is part or our development and we should look at it that way, instead of falling into desperation. Nobody can turn back time, but we can make it differently from now on. That’s all we can do but that is what we can do.

To tell from all the experiences you shared with me, you grabbed the bull by the horns, stood up for yourself and others rather than backing off – a great role model! And thank you for taking the time to leave your thoughts so freely, Colin 😊

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