We Overlook The Motive

It seems that the subject of “change” has become pretty central, lately. At least, I feel like this is what I need to write about when even from different perspectives. Even if someone does not like making changes, at some point, they do. Changes are necessary if we want to progress, learn and see more than before, start something we have never done before, reach for new shores, and expand ourselves. Changes are healthy to support our progress and keep us evolving, don’t you think?

Yes, it is healthy to follow an inner calling. It’s healthy to take better care of yourself for your own well-being. It’s all very healthy! But if we make changes only to be loved, that healthy aspect gets lost. Maybe too often, we have found that if we please others, we avoid problems. And if we don’t, we cause discussions and arguments. The ego loves to have such experiences to keep us small and controllable because everyone wants to be loved. But if we change only to gain recognition, respect, and love, we are no longer ourselves but a puppet on strings others play with.

Let’s think of a child. It is essential to be loved by their parents. As soon as a child believes it needs to be a particular way or do or achieve certain things, it will take this as a life rule: I have to please my parents and make them proud to be loved. That child will put its own ideas of how it wants to be aside and makes sure it only does what its parents think will be correct. And this is only the beginning. It will continue to please people in order to be loved. Everybody wants to be loved. Even those, who pull back from the world and pretend they don’t want to see anyone, want to be loved. That is the reason why they hide. They feel like being disappointed or abused too often and lose their belief in other people and that love exists at all- while they still want it so badly.

Whatever we want, whether it’s love, a better world, a particular job, or a spouse and family, we need to be clear about why we want it. Do we love ourselves so much that we want to share it with others? Do we trust in ourselves, our inner voice, and in life and walk towards it with a smile on our faces? Or do we want it out of fear so as not to be alone, disrespected, and unloved? Then we don’t run toward our goals but away from what we fear. The goal is not “feeling the love” but “avoiding losing love”. That makes a dramatic difference in our motive, our vibrations, and in the end, what those vibrations align with. Love has so much to do with trust. If there is too little love, there is a lack of trust. I already talked about it in this post what our physical issues tell us about how it really looks inside of us. So, often we think all is fine. We steadfastly stand on solid ground until our body puts us to rest or think. We are so good at repressing. After a while, we have even forgotten what we have oppressed, until our bodies often painfully remind us again. “Trust” seems to be a big part of my life currently. Lately, Amy replied to me on my comment to her post as follows:

From Amy’s post

This came out of the blue. At first, I did not understand why she said that. It was not in relation to my comment. It made me think. Because I am looking out for all the good and reaching out for all the good in this world to ignite as much light in everyone as possible to make this world a better place – TOGETHER. Love is the only tool that is of use in this. But, yes, we all fall off that love train from time to time and don’t even notice until we receive a loving message like Amy’s. And all of a sudden, it hit me: I don’t dare to think negative thoughts because I am so aware that they can become our reality.
My good intention was clear, to do my part to lead this world into a better future. But the motive was not unconditional as long as fear lingered in the background and disturbed progress. I know that this is not constantly the case. But lately, a lot came together that must have distorted my view. I could only recognize this through Amy’s words. The origin is a lack of trust. Here I am again with my body showing me this by currently dealing with a herniated disc. I am so glad, she simply wrote what wanted to be written and that I listened.

We need to learn to love again. We must remember that we ARE love and that alone can heal everything. A single thought of fear (it is always only a thought) or doubt blocks that love in ourselves and for others to flow to them. And it blocks or changes the outcome we so want. We need to trust again that who we are is the salvation this world needs.

In Love and Light


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The purpose of my blog is to inspire and shine a light on the beauty and power of the wonderful being inside your body. You came into this world to share what only you can give. Remember who you really are, conquer the world the way you always wanted to, and become the blessing to us all that you were meant to be.

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