How The Well-Being of Others Becomes My Freedom – #60

In 2008 Dr. Wayne Dyer published the book “Living the Wisdom of the Tao”. It contains the 81 verses of the Tao Te Ching. Wayne Dyer wrote an affirmation to each verse to bring the meaning of it to better awareness. I was fortunate to buy that book the first time I experienced Wayne Dyer live at a lecture, and I even got the book signed by the author himself. Still, it is giving me goosebumps to think back to the moment when I was standing in front of him, handing him the book, and got it signed.

Lately, I held that book in my hands and thought: Why not picking a random verse from time to time and sharing the affirmation with you? I won’t go into the verse but only into the affirmation. For today, I picked the 60th verse, and this is Dyer’s affirmation that goes with it:

When I refrain from thoughts of harm directed toward others, I accumulate all the benefits of life.

It is a phenomenon. Bad thoughts can be sent out to other people for many reasons: to get rid of anger, to put one on a higher platform, to prove that one is right and the other one is wrong, because one feels offended, was subjectively or even objectively treated unfair or was hurt physically or mentally. It is the anger at others that is eating us up inside. It gets even worse when they are not able anymore to pass that anger on to them anymore. At least then, the insight comes closer that thoughts of harm forwarded to others can never take them away from me. They stick with me as long as I think them. It is the point where the understanding needs to form that it doesn’t change anything when blaming others for how I feel today. Do I know what I did to others in the past without even being aware of it? The responsibility for my happiness is mine, and wishing bad things on others to make me feel better will never lead to true satisfaction! Who is suffering more from hatred, the one hateful thoughts are meant for (and maybe doesn’t even know about it), or the one who sends them out?

It may be envyousness or a sign of inferiority complex, that others are blamed for what I don’t have, or don’t dare to approach. Some want others to be bad or subjectively worse off than themselves so they are not alone in their situation. They do not understand that this does not change their situation in any way, they only dig themselves deeper into it. The way out of this misery is only by “making oneself better” instead of making others bad.

When there are no thoughts of harm toward others in me, the only thoughts that fill me can be of wanting to see others in a state of well-being because I am filled with thoughts of well-being. There is no longer any need to wish ill on others. This fundamentally changes the energy in one’s entire system:

  • I don’t feel the need to offend, and therefore I don’t feel offended
  • I don’t feel pushed to control what they are doing wrong
  • I am not focused on thoughts of failure
  • Resentments dissolve
  • This all makes me feel unburdened and independent
  • I feel light
  • I am detached from any need to compete
  • I am enjoying what is
  • There is not the slightest feeling of enviousness
  • I feel motivated to share my unburdened being with others
  • I cannot help, but to let my happiness flow into others
  • In reverse, the happiness in others fuels my happiness
  • My life and my whole being feel enhanced

Try to put yourself in a state where you are free from all unwholesome thoughts toward others. How and what are you feeling? Let us know if you want! But what I want much more is that you feel this liberating joy in yourself.

In Love and Light

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Forgiveness and really letting go of residual resentment. Sending out harmful thoughts on others actually gets us caught up in the vibrations of those thoughts. As you said, as long as we have those thoughts we are carrying that person with us (in thought). We have to dwell in a love based center for our well-being and for others who’s well-being we cannot control. Thank you for a spirit nurturing post today. πŸ’–


Thats’ right. Instead of pulling us down to negative energies of others we should raise their energy with a love-filled heart! Thank you very much for this beautiful comment, Sylvester!


I’ll never forget one day many years ago, ranting and raving about how I hated my father…and my friend who had been listening to this tirade casually turned to me and said ‘he’s been dead for many years…who is hanging on to the problem?’. I was so angry at the time, and later on I realised she was right, it was only me reacting to something that was just me ‘hanging on to it’. It was only me that was in pain, anger, hurt from something I later realised was just that emotional wall I had built from my fear of rejection from my dad, that I had never forgiven him for…but later realised he could only treat me the way that he too was raised, taught by someone who was also raised by that fear also. There never was any intent behind it, raised by it like it was a normal part of life, just the unknown treatment of a fear passed on πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

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You left a complete explanation in wonderful and compact words. That’s it! The anger we are feeling is hanging on to something we hold tight in ourselves that only exists through us but not through the person or even that may have caused it. We all do what we do because we think we need to do it. Awareness helps to lift us above and become the observer of ourselves. This helps to break out of the viscious circle. I love how your friend nailed it! Thank you for sharing this, Mark.

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YES sisterπŸ’—πŸŒˆπŸŒ πŸŽ† What you have described here is true soul freedom! Where our attention goes, energy flows. I have often referred to negative and angry thoughts as eating poison. Why would we intentionally do that? That’s self harming. Becoming aware of one’s thoughts is key to self care and self love. Since we are all connected, what I think or do unto others I do unto myself. Keeping in a loving vibration does everyone a much better service of maintaining that love and wellness. Imagine if we all practiced this for one day, BAM, the healing that would rejuvenate the world. Harmony and balance restored. Wonderful post Erika and a great start to the new week. Happy Full Moon to you as well πŸ€—β€πŸ™Œ


It is as you said: Poison with which we feed our organism. It is eating us up. Love instead is nurturing, strengthening and has a thriving effect on everything it touches.
Thank you very much, dear Maria. I am happy that you feel that way about the post. Have a lovely Full Moon experience (over here it happens on Thursday). Much love to you, dear 😊

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