The Journey To Start A Journey

We all are always to discover our potentials, the limitations we set, our abilities, our higher and personal purposes. With everything we see and experience, that journey continues. We find inspiration, pass so many lessons, we feel the joy of life and encounter its challenges. Life can become a routine.

This routine begins in childhood. A child is taught principals, traditions, certain opinions, ways to live life. The more often and the more intensive a child is confronted with the same messages, the more it takes it over into its thinking pattern. Over time, it becomes a part of the belief system. When something is part of the belief system then we identify with it. Everything we think, do, and experience, is defined by that belief system. As long as we don’t realize that this belief system was programmed and can be reprogrammed, we are prisoners of a scheme we were put in.

Here we are with the actual challenge. Something inside of us may not feel right and uncomfortable. And due to being not aware, we resign and say: “That’s how I am. I am shy. I am anxious. I am not smart enough. I am unforgiving. I am insecure. I am clumsy. I am getting angry quickly. I will never beโ€ฆ”. Those are not excuses. It is a belief, and that is the actual problem. Because the difficulty is not to get the journey started, it is to realize that there is a journey to be started.

When I was a young mother with three children, I wanted to make it all perfect. I was taught to be perfect. I was told my whole life how to be a good and valuable person. If I did not follow those commandments, I was rebuked and told that something is wrong with me. So, as a child, you believe it because you don’t know it any better. As a teenager and young adult, you are to discover your own personality. But once those rules are overshadowing that process, you miss that chance, and you begin to identify with someone you have to be instead of being who you feel to be – the beginning of your personal inner war. I was a very strict mom. Everything was well planned, and there were daily schedules. I wanted to do this really well. Because of that pressure, I put on myself to fulfill those “expectations” I was a lot more overwhelmed than necessary. I was so sorry because I realized that the little ones could not even understand what I asked from them, and I said to myself that this had to change. But the next day, I was following those patterns again – until the moment when my feelings of guilt were about to eat me up. I could not identify with that attitude anymore. I realized that the pattern I was following uncompromisingly when even unhappily, were not part of me. And if they are not part of me, then I don’t need to hold on to them. It was the little beginning of a big journey. My little kids were leading me to my personal liberty.

Many of us experienced that for a long time it was not even considered that we are allowed to or are able to be whoever we want to be. We must not blame ourselves that we are using excuses for not changing. Very often it is simply the curse of the pattern itself that we cannot see it that there is a journey to be started. But the following openly the path will lead us to awareness.

Thank you, Anthony, of WrithtOfMight, for the inspiration to this post.

In Love and Light

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Step by step, Gary. Rushing anything doesnj’t help. You are a very sensitive person who goes with the flow and accepts/respects his individual way of working the past out. It will all be well.

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Great post. From the time we are born up to a certain young age we are being programmed as you wrote, to be a certain way. This programmed life can go on for years because we are unaware of and conditioned to it. We have the tools to reprogram ourselves or awaken to who we really are. Thank you for sharing some very good insights.

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Right, and I believe that this programming actually leads us to the point of realization that we need to follow our own program. Life is so perfectly organized in leading us to the places we are supposed to arrive. The journey is our personal way of development.
Thank you so much for your comment, Sylvester!


We get that inner nudge that something we need to change something on our journey. Rewire our programming. I totally agree, the journey is our personal way of development. You’re very welcome, Erika and your posts are appreciated.

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Exactly, the way we walk through life is the way we are and how we are will be reflected by life’s perfect reactions to push us on our way.
Thank you, I appreciate that a lot, Sylvester!


The beautiful part of getting older is deciding what I believe in, what makes sense in my bones. The spiritual path I’ve been on for the past few years has cracked me wide open and allowed many different perspectives to pour in. I too am a recovering perfectionist. Nowadays, I live a very intentional and mindful life, leading with my heart always. Thoughts come and go yet I know I don’t have to engage in the ones that no longer align with my own spirit and truthโค
You always share your beautiful heart Erika in your writing, it shines brilliantly through๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŽ† Love, light and enough shadow to balance is what I send from my part of the world to you๐Ÿฅฐ

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You said it, Maria! And it has to do with realizing that we change. We change through our experience and our experience changes us. A constant development. What we need to see is that we only need to go with that development and we will develop smoother!
Thank you so much, dear Maria! I am sending you lots of love back ๐Ÿ’–

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Exactly, well said! I say you gotta work with what ya got. No sense trying to wish away what already happened. Life keeps us constantly on the move. Staying in the moment is keyโค

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Erika, well laid out. Looking at your young mother reflection, the old saying is “perfect is enemy of the good.” Or, as famously successful General George Patton would say, “a good plan today, will beat a perfect plan tomorrow.” Too often, we wait for the “better thing” and miss the “good things” now.

I was thinking of a silly example. No one remembers washing the car. They remember the water fight while doing it. Keith

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Oh, what really good sayings you wrote here. They hit the nail on the head. And how I love the “silly” example. It comes down to one really important thing: Life is supposed to be fun!


We don’t need to push and stress ourselves out in gaining insights. We only need to follow the signs in our own life to reach those insights, regardless of when and how. We are always exactly where we are supposed to be in order to arrive in the perfect time where we are supposed to arrive. Thank you, sis ๐Ÿ’–


No doubt about that. If we don’t see it now, we are not ready and need more hints to eventually realize it. That’s everybody’s personal way of development.

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It is a challenge indeed Ericka, a lifetime of pattern to break free from. And as you have so perfectly put it…not realising in the beginning that we even have a pattern.
But in going through this very part of ‘us’ we will eventually see that we are indeed ‘not’ rigid in those ways of being and slowly build a courage to go beyond them…and be free.
Great post dear lady, the words of a pilot…a hearts pilot ๐Ÿ˜€ โค๏ธ ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ ๐Ÿฆ‹

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Exactly, everybody conquers themselves back in their own pace and in their own way. Everybody must be granted that unique path! Thank you, Marck, I appreciate your words a lot ๐Ÿ˜Š

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