We are unique beings, with a unique history, unique skills and abilities, unique in liking or disliking things, unique in the subjects, targets, and several destinations we have chosen for this lifetime – we are a sum of unique aspects which make us so individual. This individuality is the cause of our worldview. It is responsible for what we think of life, our surroundings, the people around us, and of course of ourselves. Whatever we heard, experienced, touched, or encountered made us the person we are today.

The sum of all of this makes us interpret everything in the way we look at it. Our perception is subjective all the time. What we call truth today is only an image of the current state of our mind. Therefore we can change it, and what we can change cannot be the truth. Truth is something irrevocable. As soon as we can change something it is not the truth.

Think back 30 years, think back 20 years, think back 5 weeks! Some attitudes you had there and then might be totally different than today. You changed your perception – which way ever – and have found something different within the same world. Isn’t that cool? We have it in our hands to change the way we look at things. It is a personal decision and no one can make us believe anything unless we agree. That way we find further perspectives and expand our horizons. The less you are focused on a specific subject the more you will find in the whole situation. It depends on how you look at it.

Life happens! Most occurrences are not in our hands but affect our life more or less. Nothing just happens in order to punish us. Nothing happens only out of a mood of a higher force to play around with our feelings. Everything that happens shows us something within us. The way and intensity we reflect on something or someone produces happiness, tensions, joy, anger, motivation, frustration… The same event can impact different people in totally different ways. A rainy day in summer can be annoying for one person, who wanted to make a barbecue but be a blessing for the farmer that had been waiting impatiently for it. The same event, but two different perceptions. It depends on our current situation, how we think about it, and what we expect or fear.

Everything we don’t like and is changeable we shall change. In changing something we go into our potential and activate or develop abilities. Sometimes they seem new to us, sometimes we improve them. When you don’t like your job, you can change it. Perhaps it is not easy and needs a lot of courage to quit, apply, and get used to new rules and people. But it gives you the opportunity to let you grow.

When we cannot change anything we need to accept it and integrate it into our lives. Also here we will be able to improve or discover aspects of our potential. When my father died unexpectedly at the age of 65 two years ago, (regardless of the loss itself) I had to face enormous changes. It was a big shock. I worried about my mother and tried to be as strong as possible for her. All of a sudden my mom was sitting in a big house, being by herself for the first time in her life. We had a company to take care of, which was not prepared at all for such a case. We had to get used to his financial connections and accounts, and insurance companies and find out about how things stuck together, find all the papers we needed and were always insecure to not overlook something important. It was horrible. But I could not change it.

I had to face the facts that appeared or I would have gotten lost. I was calm and went on step by step. I knew it wouldn’t help anyone to lose my mind and panic around. I organized the whole funeral by myself in no time. And my mom could deal with other things. I found out that I was able to keep a clear and cool mind when it was necessary and that I can make it through situations I imagined as the worst of the worst cases. But I did it. And I am stronger than before with a loving memory of my father.

As I said before: Life happens! It is not in our hands what life throws towards our feet, but it is always in our hands how we deal with it. It is your decision how you look at a situation and what you make out of it. You can always make something out of everything. Whatever rubs you in some way is a signal that there is something in it for you – or you wouldn’t care. So don’t turn away but look at it. Ask what’s in there for you and believe that you will walk out of it, stronger and wiser than before. The more open you move forward the softer and faster you will proceed.

Knowing that there is no punishment but only another opportunity for personal evolution will let you no longer turn around when challenges are showing up. Never forget: Life is for living!

In Love and Light!