Lately, I read this quote on Instagram, and it hit home hard. It confirmed the insight I got after I was offered a job with similar tasks like my fomer job which I tried to avoid. I understood that I cannot find peace in avoiding them but in opening up to them and life led me again to that point again to understand and dissolve the issue eventually. You can read about it here.

It is easy to hide behind “I can’t” when we don’t feel like doing something or are even afraid. But that can throw us into a vicious circle. We talk ourselves into something we can’t, although we could. Maybe others told us we were not smart enough or not worthy. Maybe there was more expected from us than we could give, or we expected too much from ourselves. It can put immense pressure on one and lead to overwhelming situations. To avoid pressure, we hide behind “I can’t” – and resign. The more we resist and think “I can’t”, the more we begin to believe it. The more we believe it, the more we block ourselves from the motivation to try it. The less we try, the less we learn, and the more we lose contact with the matter. The insecurity and fear grow. And we are even more convinced that “I can’t”. That way, we deny and destroy a part of our potential – only because we decided to think so. What a misconception!

We only need to repeat a thought a few times, and it begins to sink deeper like a considerable truth. The next step is to find confirmations for that thought, which we will always find. After a while, we genuinely believe what started as a protective thought to escape the fear. But we forget that initial reason and live in our distorted truth. Do we know how many misunderstandings live within us? I don’t think we can. As long as we are unaware that we use excuses, we won’t recognize them. We could leave our prison but hold on tight to its bars. And the funny thing is that we are doing this from outside the prison cell. First, we build our prison. Later, we learn to break out of it again. We are our own teachers, and life provides the lessons.

Through the awareness that our convictions about our abilities are only thoughts but not given facts, we can look at them with a distanced view. Why do we think we can’t? Did others tell us? Did we tell ourselves? Since when do we believe we can’t? What did we believe before, and what happened that we changed our beliefs? In the end, it doesn’t matter what the origin was. What does matter is the insight we receive that this belief is only a destructive thought pattern. Don’t take them as something set and unchangeable. Every thought pattern is changeable. If someone says it isn’t, it is only another excuse.

We must not let anyone put us in a prison cell, even less should we put ourselves in it. Whenever we are automatically trying to find a way to avoid something, let us take a moment and think WHY this resistance makes us think “I can’t”. If we come to the conclusion that we are only running from our fears and expectations, the answer can only be:

I’ll learn!

In Love and Light