The Very Essence

Sometimes when I sit here to write my Monday post and have no clue what to write, I begin to think of the basics of life. What is essential for me? What is it that I don’t want to miss at all?

The first thing, of course, is the people in my life – my family and friends. But there is also not to worry about where to sleep at night, food, and financial safety. Yes, that is all important to me. But life happens, and you never know where you may end up tomorrow. Just think of the Ukrainian people who fled their homes head over heels in a matter of hours. Families got torn apart, and many still have no solid ground under their feet while living in foreign countries apart from their loved ones. At least then, you value the standard you lived by then and everyone involved. Now, one step further: When life can change so quickly and the world you were used to turns upside down in an instant, maybe there is something more important for our inner stability.

Yes, it is important to be thankful for and value what you have because it all is just lent for a while, and no one knows for how long. That is an important awareness to let sink deeper. But it is not meant to be frightened and worried but to appreciate and see what you are gifted with. Many feel cheated by life, God, the universe, or whatever when they lose a dear person, their financial stability, or their houses. They forget that these all were gifts to which they have no claim.

So, back again to that “one step further”: What we need to develop and remember is that we have come here with nothing, and we will leave with nothing. There is only one exception: our self. We come here as the essence of our being that we are, which cannot be taken away – never. We can never lose ourselves. That is what we can rely on in each moment. No matter how hard times may be, we have our self, and that self holds everything we need to make it in and through this life. But therefore, we need to accept it and stop making our worth and safety depend on anything we were gifted. When we have this awareness, we will be even more thankful for who and what we may have in our lives, but we will stand tall and look forward when things change. It doesn’t mean there are no emotions – we would not be human otherwise – but they don’t keep us from consciously building something new from the ruins we may find ourselves surrounded by. That again means that being gifted has a lot to do with what we add to our lives. And it all begins with what we see as the basics of our lives.

Sometimes it is not too bad not knowing what to write to get back to the essentials again…

Everything we find in this world are gifts – only temporary gifts.
Whether you receive or lose something, it does never define your being.
It only supports its experience in this world.
Not identifying with possessions is one of those experiences.

In Love and Light

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Another excellent post dear Erika…
We have so many gifts… Yet often many do not see these as gifts at all… For they can never put themselves in another persons shoes, whose life is not so blessed with the things many take for granted.. Like a roof over our head, food in our stomachs …
Your words here spoke….

"What we need to develop and remember is that we have come here with nothing, and we will leave with nothing. There is only one exception: our self. We come here as the essence of our being that we are, which cannot be taken away โ€“ never. We can never lose ourselves."

So true, we come to navigate and explore Self… and to re-discover who we are… We can never ‘lose’ Self… though often in life we come close to the edge of loosing one’s self, in order to find oneself.

Most are fearful of the Unknown…. Death and dying, for many is their greatest Fear…. Yet we both know, that this is but an Avatar a shell, in which our soul/light is housed to experience and grow..
Once you understand and you know the ‘Very Essence’ of yourself… Fear dissolves…
Trusting in the NOW of inspiration Erika.. as you do, knowing that the Gift of words will come.

And to also Know that to have arrived on Earth in the first instance is truly a gift… For only the strongest of the strong come here…. For the lessons while tough to navigate through.. The rewards of growth within our soul is huge…

Many thanks for all that you share Erika…
Much love your way โค

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Your first lines made me think. Yes, we take so much for granted, even our skills that many don’t value them but envy others who are skilled in something else. We don’t see that everyone is gifted and not that gift is better that which we don’t have, but the one we do have for it is a tool to create our personal life’s journey.
I like your comparison that our body is like an avatar. That’s exactly what it is. My sister-in-law has terrible problems with her getting older. She does not celebrate her birthdays and so on… She does not believe in anything that is not physical and so she identifies with her body… a terrible thought for me.
Yes, yes, even only arriving here, having the option to incarnate is such a rare gift. In unawareness, so many curse it and give away their chance to create something amazing of what they are gifted with. But again, as we know, that too is part of their journey and the process of becoming. The universe is such an amazing director…
Thank you for taking the time and leaving such a profound comment, Sue. As always, I don’t only appreciate it very much, but I also feel so much confirmation in the energy you are sharing with your words. Much love to you๐Ÿ’–


Wise words, my lovely. Thank you. ๐Ÿ’“ Choosing to take nothing personally, yet seeing the gifts contained within. Sometimes this takes time! xXx ๐Ÿ’“

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What a big development that is once we don’t take anything personally. Still, a long way to go… at least for me. But I think the more we are aware of the fact that whatever happens or does not happen is for our development, helps to shift our attitude step by step. Thank you very much, dear Jane. I hope you are doing good ๐Ÿ’–

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Wow, that is profound! I couldn’t agree more. But even then, maybe we make something happen that something happens. Maybe only that way, we learn that it is up to everyone how and that they can make things happen and don’t wait for life to happen. That’s a lot of food for thought, Gary!


Erika, this is a stunningly honest and truthful post. You are so correct in that we have the choice in our every moment to allow circumstances to mold us into a hero or a victim. Yes to what we have are gifts, yes. Those as you say do not define us for WE define who we are. So many are caught in the trap that others and outside influences and things define who they are and when they begin to crumble they find themselves truly desperately lost. I ran into a woman just yesterday who has has allowed all around her to tell her who she is. I listened, and of course was at a loss for words at first but then my Guidance gently shared seeds with her. No one has the authority to tell anyone how to live his or her life yet by the grace of the Divine we can out of compassion and love, guide others on how to fix themselves. We can ONLY do this when we first have journeyed to fix ourselves and still in the process of doing so and ONLY when our Guidance gives the green light.

So many do not understand how fortunate they are that they have a warm house to live in, a car to drive, food on their table, hot running clean water, and so on. How you pointed out how people are being driven out of their homes and separated, well, put yourself in their shoes, and granted you will [hopefully] walk away a whole lot more grateful for what you do have.

Great post, great thoughts. and I really enjoyed reading from your “lens”. Thank you, Erika. xo

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Our thoughts, feelings, and views are on a very similar wire. What you wrote here is exactly how I feel about this and how I see this. Who are we to tell others how to live right or wrong? Even when we see how they hurt themselves when being ungrateful and unappreciative. But maybe it is precisely what they need to be, in order to learn in the long run what gratitude really means. As you said, we need to fix ourselves first. Only because we have our own issues that others already see through. We need the journey since it is tailored to our soul’s development.
You see, Amy, pure inspiration! And that always happens when I read your posts too.
Thank you for sharing your words here, dear friend ๐Ÿ’–

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Aw, Erika. You move to me tears sometimes and this is one of those times. Thank you. It brings such JOY to my heart when I connect with someone who understands, who respects others’ journeys yet are willing to reach out a helping hand in a healthy way. Bless you many times over, for this world is teeming with wounded souls!! (((HUGS)))! xoxo


This life does indeed gift us with many experiences so that we can create an awareness by which our love grows in that understanding. Of all the things I have touched, those three amigo’s of empathy, compassion and love are the things that ever increase in us from all those things we experience…and the only thing we take back with us. Earth is a filling station of that love.
Great post Erika, the soul of our journey indeed. Thank you for sharing the gift of this experience๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ

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Thankfully all of those experiences come along with us, become who we are. I’m taking my 93 year old mum for a birthday breakfast at a local Marina today. Time well spent in an experience to share and become more of who we are ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ

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It has been a long journey indeed Erika. We think it was the everyday exercise of living on a farm, of going down to milk the cow, drink its full natural milk and eating all those natural things out of their gardens and fruit tree’s of yesteryear. She still goes up and down her stairs doing the washing and cleaning her house…and in fact, I think that is the very thing that keeps her going. She only stopped playing tennis a couple of years ago but that was because of a knee replacement ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ

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Wow, I take a deep bow. So, she is the best example that you can live a long and happy life if you only keep it going. Sending your mom the biggest hug. Thank you for sharing this, it made my face and heart smile ๐Ÿ’–

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Absolutely! And the meaning of that gratitude changes when aware of the fact that it all comes and goes to support our own development. I am still fascinated by that insight.


Life is a gift to us and we are a gift to life. Gratitude and being in the moment can only make us richer inside. A great post to bring of back to the essence of being. Have a terrific week!

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Thank you. This is only the tip of the iceberg. Being or being alive is so much more thaa we may be able to comprehend. That spark of light that we are and that encompasses a whole universe is not explainable with a human mind.
Thank you and you have a fantastic week too!

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There are some things we will never be able to comprehend but we can grasp the fact of being alive and present on this earth. You’re very welcome and thank you always!

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