Have you experienced that too? You carry something inside of you and more and more you notice hints around you that relate to what you are pondering. You never read the newspaper but for some reason, you get to see a specific headline when you see someone else reading it – and it speaks to you. You start your car and the first song the radio plays (perhaps just a part of the lyrics) speaks to you. You listen to a conversation between two people and a particular phrase or context speaks to you. You read the posts of the blogs you follow and more posts than ever seem to relate to what you are dealing with. 

All of these are signs to show you a path or actually to show you what you already know. We all know the decisions to make immediately by our inner feelings. But what keeps us from making that decision right away is the mind that goes in between, starts questioning the reason, and feeds us with doubts and considerations. We get insecure and confused. Perhaps we can push the issue aside for a while. But it will all catch up with us again. When we sweep something under the carpet it may be out of sight but it is still there. Perhaps more things regarding that issue come along and we keep sweeping it under the carpet until the pile becomes too big and we stumble over it all the time. That’s the moment when we know we have to face it.

So much can come along with decisions: Will it make things better or worse? What will my surroundings think about it? Mostly we are postponing them because we are more concerned about how they may affect others than how they may affect us. This is totally out of our control and that may bother us even more. But in the end, it is YOUR task to be approached because it is YOU standing at the crossroads. No one can do that for you. You may be scared about the known or unknown consequences, but it doesn’t change the fact that a decision has to be made. The longer you wait the more the pressure and frustration grow because you find yourself at a place where you don’t belong anymore. And this is also felt by everyone involved.

We all affect each other in everything we do every day. Sometimes that doesn’t have dramatic results and sometimes it is life-changing. But also the decisions others make which influence our lives are part of the individual life path because it pushes you to walk towards the direction you are meant to for the development you are meant to. In the end, you need to make the decision for you because you won’t ever get it done otherwise. It may sound hard but that way you give yourself and everybody else the opportunity to rearrange their lives.

See the signs and take them seriously. Whatever speaks to you, confirms your feelings, or fortifies your inner conviction, says: THIS IS THE WAY! Every added sign will encourage you more until you feel ready. Exclude everything and everyone around you and only think about what would YOU want. Only when you are clear about what you want you can stand behind your decision and walk on solid ground no matter what turmoil may be around you in the beginning until all changes have settled. Make the decision and dare to take the step. Once you do it don’t look back but go from the new place – or you will get stuck again.

Nobody said life was easy
but the most important decisions
have rarely been the easy ones.

In Love and Light