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so good! And I agree, with this! ❤
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We all have our stories and are glad when others are considering this 💖
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Erika, we need to walk in their shoes. Someone who may have been abused are less trusting of people, eg. Also, culturally there are differences which you have likely observed. A US friend who lived in Germany told me when he was returning to Germany for a visit, he found that his German friends take longer to warm up to newcomers, but once they do are lifelong friends. In America, we befriend more quickly, but sometimes have more superficial friendships. These are generalizations, I know. Keith
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I can confirm that over here people are basically friendly but making friends needs more than only an encounter. We have companions and we have friends, which is a difference. So, we may only have a handful of close friends but they belong to our hearts (as you said) forever. In the US I noticed mostly the kindness and helpfulness of the people. When we lived in the suburbs of Buffalo we made friends with some people quite quickly. We still are in contact with most of them and we all love meeting once we are back over. Even our daughter’s pre-school teacher has become a dear friend. I noticed more of the superficial bondings at the west coast. But this might not be a general “law”.
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Thanks for your unique comparative experience. Keith
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My pleasure in many ways, Keith!
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So true, although one sometimes forget this. Thanks for the reminder, Erika! xx Michael
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Therefore the reminder 😉
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It’s all about taking the time and not rushing to be judgemental ❤️
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That reminds me of a book: The Three Questions. One statement in it says: The most important person is the person you are with and the most important time is NOW. So, we need to be conscisouly in the moment and focused on who we are with.
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** Mic Drop **
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The whole world should be reminded of this on a regular basis. Our individual history has created the person we are today, but we can change if we really want to. Sadly, the belief that “that’s just the way I am and so cannot change” is very prevalent in our society.
As an aside, it seems that every time I read about “self awareness”, “personal influences/childhood experiences” and, most importantly, “change”, My thoughts go back to our education system. They still appear to be totally focused on education in the context of “reading, writing, math” in preparation for a higher education and ultimately a “career” which is supposed to be productive and rewarding.
I have personally experienced an individual with very high academic qualifications who drives a city bus for his income. His perspective was that while the pay was quite good, the major benefit was that his working hours were scheduled/predictable. This allowed him to focus on his other interests which were mainly volunteering in public service areas.
As he noted to me, his academic qualifications may well have provided a route to a senior corporate position however, his life would likely have been dedicated to the subsequent responsibilities. His view of his future was not simply a high income! He felt a need to contribute to society in a way that provided tangible benefits to less fortunate individuals, and driving a city bus provided the means and the opportunity to do that.
It is sad that these perspectives are not covered in our education system.
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This is an exemplary story. You alwas share such fitting examples drawn from life. It’s unbelievable that we would never actually expect a highly educated person to be behind the wheel of a bus. I find it remarkable that this man has not allowed himself to be guided by the “general” aristocratic path, but has remained true to himself and leads a life with which he is satisfied. No stressful competitions to be more, to have more, to present more. A wonderful example! In principle, that’s exactly what education is, isn’t it? You create the conditions but shape your life in a way that suits you.
I completely agree with you on that. I’ve often thought that there should be a school subject like this, starting in elementary school, where respect and compassion are taught – away from selfishness and towards support when it’s needed, away from prejudice and towards unbiased values.
Thank you, Colin. Your comments are always highly appreciated!
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Well said Colin, to follow our hearts instead of a model ever based on money instead of worth…ours and others 🤗❤️🙏
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Very true. We really don’t know what someone is going through or has gone through. We can only do our best to be open and understanding to a certain degree. Have a great weekend, Erika ❄️ 🌞
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There is always a reason for people behaving or acting in a particular way. Although, we don’t have to accept how they treat us, understanding that it is not their real being speaking or acting makes it easier to not take it personally but provide some understanding. This can change a lot already. Maybe all they need is someone who does not add to their story but break that circle.
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I agree. They need someone who helps set them on the path to a breakthrough, healing or whatever is necessary for them to find peace within.
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They will find it when they are ready, until then we can only be our best to provide what we can.
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So beautiful and true, dear Erika!! Sending you love and light!💕💕❤️
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Love and light back at you, my friend 💖
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♥️🥰💕❤️🤗
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Great thought😘
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Thank you, Sis 🤗💖
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Well said kind lady. We are trying to open those curtains that blocks our light. And your daring us to open them a little wider 🤗❤️🙏
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I need to keep reminding myself that life is more than my mind and reflexive thoughts may tell me 😄💖
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Yes it is. And life will guide us to that wisdom Erika, as only love can…even if it is only ‘conditional’ to begin with 🤗❤️🙏
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True, at least a path to start walking!
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