I realized I had a post in my drafts since October 2023. Ok, it was not a complete post, more a sentence to remind me of a topic to write about. Since I discovered it now, it may be time to go with it. So, I wrote this post without using my mind too much. I hope it is what one or the other needs to read today.

Have you ever witnessed that some people only care for their own needs, no matter the mess they leave for others? And even those needs are demanded to be fulfilled by others. Then there are those others who do care a lot. Those don’t only care for themselves and the consequences their behavior causes for others, but they even clean up the mess behind other people. I think there are countless examples of both types.

Irresponsible people lead a pretty relaxed life while the responsible ones even feel obliged to step in and take care of them. Group A (the responsible ones) is therefore threatened with being abused, while group B (the irresponsible ones) only becomes even more comfortable in letting others do the work they are supposed to do. That might turn into an unhealthy circle when the ones get more careless while the others feel like catching up more and more. Yes, we do need more people who support others in need. We need more people who feel responsible for adding their part to make this world better. But, there is a difference between helping or becoming a slave.

So, what’s the essence? There is a lesson in it for both of them. A must become less responsible because only then B is called to become more responsible. As long as A keeps doing the work, B won’t ever feel the need to change something. Over time A’s responsible personality has become the same out of balance as B’s, but in the opposite direction. Too good is not good at all. It destroys A and makes B even more helpless. From the beginning, A has had more strength, and that is why they can make that change for both. The sense of responsibility needs to come again from a place of love inside and not anymore from a feeling of obligation. Because then, stepping back and realizing what happens is an act of love and leads to balance in both of them.

But let’s go on pondering what irresponsibility means today. It is not only living obviously on other people’s costs. It is wasting money and food while others don’t have a home or something to eat. It is a system that is putting money into luxury projects and wars while the people cannot even afford a living, no matter what they try. It is polluting our planet by going on cruises (why aren’t they prohibited yet), ordering stuff delivered by ship, or traveling by plane across the planet several times a year, only because it is convenient, they can afford it and don’t want to change their lifestyle – only to mention a few thoughts. It is not the time anymore to act like this. We know too much, meanwhile. And ignoring it is irresponsible. We need to rethink what responsibility means these days. And I dare to claim it is more than we may expect. For too long, we acted recklessly and irresponsibly. When I think of the world my children have to deal with, I cannot help but do my best, at least from today on, to not make things worse but hopefully a bit better.

In Love and Light