I thought this would make a fitting sequel to last week’s post: Stop Excusing – Start Changing!

When something we don’t like happens, it is a natural reflex to show resistance. But in showing resistance, we give power to what we resist. If we are against something, we concentrate on what we are against. So, we feed something that we actually want to dissolve. How shall this work out? If I am afraid of something, I cannot get it out of the way by saying “I don’t want this, I don’t want this” because “this” is the subject that gets stuck deeper and deeper and becomes more persistent. My fear only grows because it seems to completely surround me. Resistance makes the problem bigger.

If we are demonstrating against war, we are concentrating on war. The LGBTQ community has set such great examples through their demonstrations for equality and their rights. We can observe that engaging in a fight against someone only leads to aggression and revenge, creating a vicious circle. The fight will never end, unless we can envision the desired outcome and strive toward it. Otherwise, we will remain stuck at the current impasse.

Change “I don’t want…” to “I want…”. It may require a new set of thought patterns, but it is achievable. We must not be against climate change, air pollution, littering, and injustice. We need to be in favor of a healthy environment, clear air, clean landscapes, and respect. Try this experiment: Think of climate change – what images come to mind? Now think of a healthy environment – what images come to mind now? The second type of thought will lead you to a positive attitude toward what you truly desire. This will help you move away from complaining and instead focus on finding solutions. By recognizing what can be done, no matter how small, you will be motivated to keep it going with a strong and healthy fire burning in you. This approach encourages constructive thinking, rather than fixating on the chaos we aim to overcome.

Look for the positive opposite of what you don’t want in your life or yourself, and fill every fiber of your being with it. Feed that thought with all you are. If I am not happy with my current job, it is useless to complain about everything I cannot stand about it. I have to look at all the positive aspects first. And then see if they pay off. Because nothing is only roses. However, if it still burdens me, I must focus on what I want in this job. Maybe it is possible to change my occupation or function in that company. Maybe I am unhappy with my profession in general. Perhaps I need to look out for a different employer, or I am going for a new education.

However, only focusing on what I want makes me overcome the unwanted.
As long as I fight the unwanted – I only see the unwanted and won’t find a way out.
By lifting my gaze above it, I overcome it.

In Love and Light