You have several life sections which influence each other, a job (maybe more than one), a private life, perhaps you are a member of one or more associations, and more. Each part is meaningful to you and causes responsibilities and obligations. Also, you feel committed to the involved people. There can be those times when some of those parts need more room than usual or begin to expand. It can be a business that you are extending (which needs personal engagement), something in your private life that needs attention, and you may have had additional plans already. It is definitely not always easy to do justice to everyone and, at the same time, preserve your own needs.

That means that priorities have to be set. And it is definitely up to you to define them. Because you are the little grain of sand that is in danger of being crushed between the wheels. It is those situations where it’s impossible to meet everyone’s needs. And it is precisely because you see that you meet with little to no understanding, because everyone sees only their own interests in the foreground, that you must set boundaries for your well-being. Examine what really needs or must be done, what can be done in addition, and how far you are willing to stretch. Or go for “first come, first served”.

As I said, there may not be much sympathy for you anyway, no matter how much you push and pull. It’s also no use trying to satisfy everyone’s needs while you’re exhausted and frustrated, losing delight in everything, and perhaps even developing aggression. Whatever you do, someone will most likely be dissatisfied. So make sure that what you are doing is working for YOU. Only when it works for you can you maintain your enjoyment of what you are doing and thus the quality you want to find in the results of your actions.

Of course, you don’t want to disappoint anyone. It is hard to try to explain and not to find understanding. At some point, you need to make your decision and stand by it. It is absolutely fine when you decide to try to please everyone and put your own plans on the back burner, then stand by it. Then this is also a clear decision. The power behind it, which brings you through the situation, is always the conscious saying yes or no.

Set your priorities,
make your decision,
and grab the bull by the horns.
Only you truly know everything that led to your decision.

In Love and Light