What actually needs to be let go?

Today I felt like picking one of my gateway oracle cards again. There was so much racing through my mind that I had to stop it by asking what it is that wants to be shared. Here goes:

Why was I not surprised that this card appeared? The theme of “letting go” may never cease to be part of our development. It accompanies us throughout our lives because it goes hand in hand with change, which is the driving force in our progression. Only when we let go of something we have outgrown, do we create the space to invite something new to grow from again. Or, in other words: Only when I open my hand can I let go of the string that holds me down and instead catch the one that pulls me forward. Still, I’ve written a lot about this subject, so I thought it must be something else. As I was putting the rest of the stack back in the box, a card appeared on the top of the deck, giving me the hint about which direction I should go with this post.

As I said before, we can only start something new when we let go of what is holding us back from moving forward. BUT before we can let go of anything, something happens within us that first brings us to the realization that we must move on. It is this inner growth that has taken place. That only triggers the feeling of doubt that everything is still okay as it was. And as we struggle with the question of which direction to go, another attitude is born.

Attitudes are nothing more than habits of thought.

John C. Maxwell

It is not necessarily an object we need to let go of, but a previous attitude. Once we have changed that attitude, we have already grasped the new rope. For some time we may hold on to both ropes. It is a natural reflex and may be necessary. Tarzan would have broken his neck if he had let go of the vine before he had the next one in hand or at least within reach. The next step is to let go of the old rope and only hold on to the new one to swing to a new level. Thus, letting go of the object is only a consequence of altered consciousness. So when we struggle with letting go of an object, a person, a hobby, a job, or whatever we are struggling with, again we need to take a step back, look at everything from a distance, and become aware of the inner new self that wants to move on. The inner conflict is caused by a mind that has become accustomed to something and a self that is ready to embark on a new journey.

When you change the way you look at things,
the things you look at change.

Dr. Wayn W. Dyer

When you were able to change your attitude, your perception of that thing you wanted to get rid of changes too. That means you no longer need to let go of that. Sometimes you don’t outgrow something outside of you but actually always only a part in you. It seems so clear, doesn’t it? But in the midst of the process, we tend to overlook that fact because we are so focused on that object we struggle with.

The important journeys always happen in ourselves.

In Love and Light

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Yes, I believe we all struggle to let go of certain events in our lives, even if they are making us unhappy, Erika. Many times it’s the fear of change and the unknown that keeps our hands on the string we need to let go of. I can guarantee that we have all wasted so much time of our lives in not learning to let go sooner. If we could come back, relive our lives, and see how much time we have wasted, I wonder if we’d accept to let go much quicker? Maybe we have?

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I see it the same way, Hugh. Even when I am in a situation and I know I need to let go, insecurity or a feeling of guilt can keep me from opening my hand and dropping that string although it is strenous to hold on to… Repeating lessons need to teach to let the process happen quicker and naturally. Thank you, Hugh.

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Hi Amiga
The concept of letting go of one rope while grasping firm on the next – is a great one. I think that the young people would embrace this .

A young friend and I were talking about challenges and the ability to not get pulled into conflict – even an inward conflict with one’s ego. I have learned to first ask myself, ‘Is this about ego? If so, remove the ego, and the problem probably disappears.’ If not, ask, “Will this matter tomorrow? In a week? A month? A year?” – probably not, so why give it such power to ruin one’s mood? And last is to think of all of one’s blessings, and I’m so light that I can almost walk on air.

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I love that way of thinking because right in that moment you begin to ask your questions you already distance from the issue. The biggest problem is that we identify with the problem. We believe it is part of ourselves. In stepping back we see that it is not but only something in our lives. So, those questions are an excellent tool to realize that. Thank you so much for sharing. I will take this to heart too…. The worst things that dim the light of joy are our own thoughts. The good news is that we are free to choose them😊🌞💖

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