Once again, I pulled a card from my Gateway Oracle Cards to let me know what I am meant to write about. The card I picked is the one above: Mending Bridges.

Often, our pain and our wounds are caused by the actions—or inactions—of other people. It’s an understandable reaction to distance ourselves from them in an attempt to push them out of our lives. Yet these very people may be among those who were actually very close to us. They may have been close friends, siblings, or even parents. Of course, not everything is excusable. But perhaps it’s worth taking another look at the situation with an open mind after many years. Perhaps the root of the problem no longer exists or is simply no longer important, since both sides have already moved on with their lives and may have gained valuable experiences precisely because of that earlier drama. It may also be that what happened was, in whole or in part, actually a misunderstanding that could not be resolved because no one talked about it; instead, everyone clung to their own perspective.

It can be a healing step to completely cut ties with someone and free yourself from their negative energy. But if distancing yourself from that person doesn’t actually make you feel better (be honest with yourself), it can also intensify the pain you’re already carrying inside. As I’ve said many times before: The person who holds a grudge suffers the most. That’s why, at some point, we should stand up, take a look at what happened, and reach a hand out — not out of resignation, not as a sign of weakness, but as a conscious decision. Perhaps this outreach can clear up a lot of things. Your paths may remain separate, but at least you can put this matter behind you. Do you know how the other person will react? No, you don’t, and you don’t need to. The only important thing is that you’re willing to let go of what has held you in its grip for far too long. Only then can you make peace with yourselves—and perhaps even make peace with the other person, regardless of their reaction. Because:

In Love and Light