In the past, I often talked about how sometimes we need to let go of something to make room for something else. I still believe this is when you must decide whether to go left or right. But I also talked about how not everything is only black or white. Our lives are vivid mixtures of shades which means EVERYTHING between black AND white. It is not always necessarily a “yes” or “no”. Mostly it is a “yes, but” or a “no, but”. That “but” is the actual challenge.

I’ve experienced this on so many levels in my life, whether in my business or personal life. I thought this was the way, and I went down it with conviction until I realized that I would miss so much that I definitely didn’t want to lose. But that’s what such detours are for, aren’t they? That we understand what we really want and where our actual path leads.

When I got my chance to move up into my job as a compliance officer I took it immediately. I believe that such opportunities don’t come to you by mistake. But to do so, I had to massively cut back on my work as a therapist. After some time, I realized that this was the wrong balance between these two areas. At first, I thought, either or, but I found a way to turn both into a healthy relationship for my inner balance. However, I had not realized how essential my self-employment was to me until there was hardly any room left for it. And that’s what happened to me in my private life as well.

Sometimes it’s not about letting go of something or someone. Sometimes you need to let go of an idea and thus create space again that was previously invisible. It is in accepting that conditions changed. But that only needs some readjustment. Everything and everyone that touches a heart has already taken its place in it. Throwing it out again is not the solution (admittedly, sometimes it is easy, but seriously, then the heart got not deeply touched anyway) because then the place remains empty and lonely. That is when you realize that your heart got touched deeper than you thought. Only by granting this space can one feel complete. Everything that has been, every person who has accompanied us for a part of our lives, is part of our histories and formed us into the persons we are today. All of this must have a place in our hearts, otherwise, we cheat ourselves out of our own life. Don’t worry, there is always enough room for what you let live in your heart. There is nothing as big as a heart.

Sometimes it is not in letting go that you find your inner peace and completion.
Sometimes it is in keeping it close with love.
At least, it is just a thought…

In Love and Light

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