Move On

Aren’t we all disappointed in ourselves at times? We think we “have it in the bag”, or we are convinced about how something works out, but then it hits us unexpectedly that we are mistaken. It can make us lose confidence in ourselves.

A few weeks ago, I passed the exam for the first year of my phytotherapy education. It was a tough year, but I cannot blame Corona or any outer circumstances. I underestimated the amount of time and effort the many projects caused that I started. I did not have much time for learning, and in addition to it, the overload which peaked between August and October caused concentration problems. Yes, I passed but way below my potential and expectations. I was very disappointed in myself. Most of all because the part that went not good was going so well before. I was about to lose confidence in myself.

However, I needed to find a way to get out of that destructive mood to find my motivation back to continue and keep the joy for the subject. Telling yourself how bad you did doesn’t change anything for the better. I asked myself: “What would you tell your clients or your children?” I would tell them:

  • Nothing always goes perfect, and what is the definition of perfect?
  • Life is not a static process. What looks simple and under control today, can be challenged by changing situations tomorrow.
  • Your attitude to give the best of yourself is great, and you did your best. Although the conditions made it harder, you made it anyway.
  • You know that you have been doing well and estimated tasks well. You only messed up this one task which unfortunately was part of the exam.
  • You are not an expert yet, you are still a student, and you may (and shall) make mistakes. Because they provide the best ground for examples where the traps or stumble stones lie.
  • A healer is always in a learning process anyway. And one who takes it seriously knows that they never know everything and that there is always growth potential. That is what makes this occupation so exciting.

What is the meaning of failure? To show us how we can become better. And if we are willing to become better, failure is only a way to lead us. It doesn’t mean to discourage or keep us from continuing anything. It can simply give us direction to stay on a straight path to reach the goal. That’s why I don’t like to call it a failure but experience. We need to be open to see the meaning of the experience and the potential for our developments.

There will always be things in life that make us feel like we are thrown back in our developments, but this is not the case. We are shown how it may not work and/or how it could work better. Our ego pride is not much help in such moments. It challenges the humbleness it needs to accept what happened and to look beyond and beneath it. And yes, also that is a lesson we are learning. And maybe it is even that ego pride to be overcome by those lessons. Because, once that happened, our humbleness and openness will automatically widen the view, and limit disappointing experiences.

We tend to expect a lot more from ourselves than from others, and we can be so hard and judging to ourselves. But whatever makes you question your assessment of your world view, your decisions, your person, it only happens because you take something serious. And that is a beautiful virtue. In the end, there are only a few things to do:

Draw the quintessence, put issues at rest, look ahead, and move on!

In Love and Light

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Yeah. Agreed. Life works in strange and mysterious ways. I was initally at looking for ways to grow my own blog, but you really do come across a lot of work that hits you and that are really helpful. Its why i enjoy this blogging world. I look forward to reading more of your work. Take care

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I know what you mean! I was kind of “gifted” with starting a blog by my publisher and got training sessions. But only when I started blogging on my own, I found out what blogging really is about. A huge part is the interaction with other bloggers. That’s a lot of work and is time consuming but really worth it. And of course, finding out what all you can make of your blog is fantastic.
I am happy we met and I wish you a lot of joy exploring the blogosphere.

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An exam is an exam, only to proof, what we should have learned. When you are educating yourself inside the spiritual way, you will need to proof, that you really wish to learn and use this way. If this kind of exam are going like a game, you will not learn much by it.
You did your best that day, dear Erika, what more do you demand? While you know, that you should have been able to manage that exam in a better way, you are still learning, which is wonderful.

How are you, dear friend? Much has been going on, since we talked about meeting. I haven’t been in Denmark yet and I don’t know, when this will be possible either.

Wish you all the best, you deserve that ❤

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Oh, yes, absolutely, that is what is left from it all. But my ego pride was a bit puzzled because of the unexpected result. However, I know how difficult the year was for me and regarding that I did really well… haha.
I am good, Irene. Thank you so much for asking. It has snowed a lot and everything looks like a winter wonderland. Regarding the worldwide situation, I am very cautious because I don’t want to risk any infection before Christmas. Otherwise my mom would be alone for Christma.
Yes, so much happened. This year was as challenging as amazing. I could get my whole therapy practice re-organized, including a new website. If you have time, feel free to take a look:
I hope you are doing well and settled meanwhile. I am glad you are close to your daughter and grandkids now. What a wonderful Christmas this will be for all of you anyway this year!
Thank you for your wonderful wishes and I wish you the same. We will not forget about meeting… it is only postponed 😊Take care, dear friend 💖

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I just tried to visit your website, but they can’t find it or there are problems with it. Sorry.

I do stay cautious too and only stay together with the family indoor. We must hope for a better 2021.
Take care too, dear friend ❤

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Sorry, my fault. It is (no dot between the names). That should work now.
I believe it will be much better next year! Let’s hold this thought high and keep being cautious until then.
Lots of love and a wonderful holiday season, Irene 💖

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Awh, I am happy you think it looks good. Thank you so much for taking the time. That would be wonderful if I could do something good for you! Thank you, I will and you too, dear friend 💖

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