What actually needs to be let go?

Today I felt like picking one of my gateway oracle cards again. There was so much racing through my mind that I had to stop it by asking what it is that wants to be shared. Here goes:

Why was I not surprised that this card appeared? The theme of “letting go” may never cease to be part of our development. It accompanies us throughout our lives because it goes hand in hand with change, which is the driving force in our progression. Only when we let go of something we have outgrown do we create the space to invite something new to grow from again. Or, in other words: Only when I open my hand can I let go of the string that holds me down and instead catch the one that pulls me forward. Still, I’ve written a lot about this subject, so I thought it must be something else. As I was putting the rest of the stack back in the box, a card appeared on the top of the deck, giving me a hint about which direction I should go with this post.

As I said before, we can only start something new when we let go of what is holding us back from moving forward. BUT before we can let go of anything, something happens within us that first brings us to the realization that we must move on. It is this inner growth that has taken place. That only triggers the feeling of doubt that everything is still okay as it was. And as we struggle with the question of which direction to go, another attitude is born.

Attitudes are nothing more than habits of thought.

John C. Maxwell

It is not necessarily an object we need to let go of, but a previous attitude. Once we have changed that attitude, we have already grasped the new rope. For some time, we may hold on to both ropes. It is a natural reflex and may be necessary. Tarzan would have broken his neck if he had let go of the vine before he had the next one in hand, or at least within reach. The next step is to let go of the old rope and only hold on to the new one to swing to a new level. Thus, letting go of the object is only a consequence of altered consciousness. So when we struggle with letting go of an object, a person, a hobby, a job, or whatever we are struggling with, again, we need to take a step back, look at everything from a distance, and become aware of the inner new self that wants to move on. The inner conflict is caused by a mind that has become accustomed to something and a self that is ready to embark on a new journey.

When you change the way you look at things,
the things you look at change.

Dr. Wayn W. Dyer

When you were able to change your attitude, your perception of that thing you wanted to get rid of changes too. That means you no longer need to let go of that. Sometimes you don’t outgrow something outside of you but actually always only a part in you. It seems so clear, doesn’t it? But in the midst of the process, we tend to overlook that fact because we are so focused on that object we struggle with.

The important journeys always happen in ourselves.

In Love and Light


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Yes, I believe we all struggle to let go of certain events in our lives, even if they are making us unhappy, Erika. Many times it’s the fear of change and the unknown that keeps our hands on the string we need to let go of. I can guarantee that we have all wasted so much time of our lives in not learning to let go sooner. If we could come back, relive our lives, and see how much time we have wasted, I wonder if we’d accept to let go much quicker? Maybe we have?

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I see it the same way, Hugh. Even when I am in a situation and I know I need to let go, insecurity or a feeling of guilt can keep me from opening my hand and dropping that string although it is strenous to hold on to… Repeating lessons need to teach to let the process happen quicker and naturally. Thank you, Hugh.

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Hi Amiga
The concept of letting go of one rope while grasping firm on the next – is a great one. I think that the young people would embrace this .

A young friend and I were talking about challenges and the ability to not get pulled into conflict – even an inward conflict with one’s ego. I have learned to first ask myself, ‘Is this about ego? If so, remove the ego, and the problem probably disappears.’ If not, ask, “Will this matter tomorrow? In a week? A month? A year?” – probably not, so why give it such power to ruin one’s mood? And last is to think of all of one’s blessings, and I’m so light that I can almost walk on air.

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I love that way of thinking because right in that moment you begin to ask your questions you already distance from the issue. The biggest problem is that we identify with the problem. We believe it is part of ourselves. In stepping back we see that it is not but only something in our lives. So, those questions are an excellent tool to realize that. Thank you so much for sharing. I will take this to heart too…. The worst things that dim the light of joy are our own thoughts. The good news is that we are free to choose them😊🌞💖

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I think that is the biggest problem indeed with everything we want to fix in ourselves. Sometimes were are just too far away from ourselves to see and recognize what’s going on. But maybe we needed that trip “outwards” since once we are back the connection is stronger than ever before.

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And often we think too long about the object than looking inside and discovering the person we have already grown into which rearranges everyting automatically. Thank you, Sis 💖

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The more I think about our environment problems the easier it has become to me to use public transport, not to buy continuously new cloths, to buy things, which do not need to be transported from far away and so on. So, as you say, Erica, as we become more and more aware of a problem the easier it is to change the our attitudes.
Thank you very much for this thought provoking post:)

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I hear you well, Martina. Same over here. A few years ago, I too began to buy regional products whenever possible, I try to buy as little wrapping as possible and if possible no plastic at all, we changed our heating system, are producing our own electricity and switched to an electric car (although I so loved my former car). However, as you said, once we begin to start thinking at one end, the more likely we get into it step by step… and that’s really cool! Thank you for your inspiring thoughts, Martina 😊

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Inner house cleaning is necessary to make room for growth, letting go is a process we all go through. Thanks for sharing a thoughtful post, Erika 🌞

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It is. Often we think we need to let go of a thing, a person, an option. But actually we need to let go of an old idea and everything else reorders.

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I found those cards many years ago in Pasadena when I had my book signing. I have quite a few card decks but I love these the most. I hope you get the copy soon, Annette. I am glad the cards spoke to you 💖

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This is such a beautiful and timely post, Erika. While we learn from our past, we can never move forward to what’s next until we let go of the lesson and forgive ourselves if we didn’t do as well as we thought we should. I love both Gateway cards, but the second one goes hand in hand with the rune I pulled for today’s post. 🙂 Gotta love the synchronicity of the Universe! Thank you for sharing.

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You know, I wasn’t sure about sharing this post today. But as I experienced in the past, it doesn’t matter whether it resonates personally and deep with me or not, it is meant to be shared. You telling me about the syncronicity with the rune you picked for today proves that again. That already gave me goosebumps and I cannot wait to read your post, Jan! Like you I love to witness the Universe speaking through us collectively. That’s amazing!

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Mmm, what attitude can I let go of today. Heal the world? No, I enjoy that. Ooh, maybe its healing me. Now that can be a fixed attitude, maybe I need to look a little deeper and realize I’m not sick. And in that spluttering I’m seeing myself one day as ill, the next all ok because I’ve let it go. So why am I being asked to see this. Must be that human trait of believing the worst until I’m strong enough to see it no longer matters. And the instant I say this Spirit says to me…’your not scared of death so why are you holding ‘just’ an illness?’. Ouch! I’ll have to get back to you on this one 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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Wow, Mark! That is like heading straight forward down to the core in highspeed. We believe to believe what we see and one day, we have grown out of that lower awareness only to understand that not what we see is to believe but what we believe we will see. And what we see is only a belief again. So, whatever we see is nothing to hang on to. It may not be real anyway since it is generated from a developing being…. wow! You made me continue to spin the thought when even in a slightly different direction. But how awesome!!

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We will ‘let it all go’ one day…but in the meantime an adventure to understand that very thing. Like all else in this world we must understand the opposites of it all…like experiencing sadness so that we will understand and appreciate happiness…and then let them both go. And on through ‘life’ in all of its experiences…so that when we ‘let go’ this world, another awaits us, so that we can appreciate it from what went before ‘down here’. Long journey, but hey, I haven’t got anything else on at the moment 😂 🤣 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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As a saying says: The climb is tough but the view is great (or similiar like this). The process of letting go, actually is the process of getting a little closer to awareness. The more we let go the more we find ourselves again. Who knows it better than you, Mark!

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Thank you kind lady dear lady, it’s like balance…some days we get it right and others not…but as we grow up it becomes second nature. And I just ‘saw’ something after writing this about balance…we then become older and lose that balance again, but only because it has served its purpose and we ‘let it go’ like many other things after we understand them. And as we let ‘life’ go eventually, simply because it has served its purpose and shown us ‘much’. I’ll have to look at my 94 year old mum a little bit differently after that one 😂 🤣 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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You are touching a profound point here that counts in general. Whatever we encounter, long for, or take along is only meant to stay with us as long as it fulfills its purpose. Once we are past the lesson, it will appear peculiar or even uncomfortable. That can be surprising since we may not have expected the feeling of something to change that once was so important. But that is, how we learn to let go and learn that our development goes along with such changes. The things around us may not change, but we change…

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Haha, sorry ‘kind lady dear lady’, I took a phone call from my mum in the middle of that and repeated myself. Glad it wasn’t the Doctors receptionist, they’ve lost my CT scan, I’d have probably called you…well, we won’t go there. If I get one more block for this CT scan I’ll scream. I think I haven’t been listening to something within and I’m ‘out of balance’ 😂 🤣

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And yes, we do constantly change as we ‘see and understand’ what was…preparing us for what is to come. Well said Erika, may all their wisdom stay and build your soul 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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