We don’t know how other people feel about certain circumstances. Even if we do it for the best we can still be completely wrong. The way I experience something is unique and no matter how challenging it is for me can be handled even easier by others. Feeling sorry for someone who goes through a time that seems difficult for me can cause me to suppose it is difficult for the other one too. But is it really? And if it is, is it the same difficulty? If I believe so then I make that other person’s problem my problem and I may care in a way that can become uncomfortable for them. Perhaps that difficult situation that person is in was caused by a decision I made and feeling guilty about it makes me overcaring. I may try to make something up that is not even desired. 

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