Recently I said to a good friend of mine: “You cannot dig in the mud and expect yourself coming out clean!” His life has gotten more and more difficult and tough over the past 3 years in his private life but also in his job. Also his ex-wife is bothering him more than ever before regarding their children. Meanwhile he says: “How can I think positive when I only see problems eating me up?”

The real problem is that thinking positive is only the first part. Thinking positive but not believing what you think is of no use.  You can think what you want. As long as you don’t believe it, nothing will change. The real power comes from our feeling. Feelings of fear for example have an enormous power and keep us from believing what we actually wish for. In fear we are so weak that we are not able to trust in our own power. We can transform our lives but only if we believe that we can.

If you want to lose weight and you stand in front of the mirror and say: “I am thin, I am so very thin, oh my god do I look thin.”, only makes sense when you believe it. Which is hard, while you stand in front of the mirror and watch your whole body, the five pounds on your left side, the five on our right side. What you really think is: “Oh no, nothing will ever change!” Throw that bloody mirror out of the room. You cannot start convincing your system and your body that you are thin when you show them the opposite at the same time. You can reprogram your thinking pattern and your whole belief system. That is what I did and how I changed my whole life.

Trust that there are more options in life than what you see at the moment: We believe a lot easier what we see. If what we see is tragedy than we likely believe that this might be the only truth. But it is only one possible outcome of a countless number. Whatever you pay attention to will show up. It is up to you what you focus at.

Create conditions in order to believe what you want to have as a result in your life. If you want to write a book, simply start writing without knowing how to publish it. Just start writing and feel the joy of starting your adventure.

Break it down in little steps: Start doing things that make it easier to convince yourself that the change is already about to happen. Start doing things that give you a sense of achievement in order to motivate you to move on and to strengthen the belief in the result.

Don’t give up: Your system was trained for years with specific thinking pattern. So give it time to reprogram. Even if you can’t believe a certain thought right away, keep repeating it again and again. That’s the power of affirmation. Thinking a single thought often enough affects the thinking pattern. Following those patterns forms a belief. And hanging on to a belief long enough will become a part of your belief system. Right there lies the power of creation.

Very important! Don’t tell anybody: We are creatures of habit. And if someone does something he never did before it might be questioned or criticized. Whatever you are planning to do, don’t tell anybody before you completely are what you do.

If you want to change your life, your situation or do something new there is no choice but to break out of your old circle thinking.  You can choose those thoughts, which are in alignment with your result. But very important, you need to be one with those thoughts in order to fill yourself with conviction. The feelings you send out are your connector and you will always be connected in the outside world to what has been vibrating in your inside world in first place.

Even in the darkest coldest night it is possible to lighten a candle. I don’t say it was easy to change your point of view and your whole belief system when you are in the middle of turmoil. But only then you find out that you are in the wrong movie. You don’t feel the need to change anything when you are happy. It is always the challenging situations in life that show us what we want and where obviously our mind is not in alignment with our heart.

In Love and Light!