It’s Not The Time, But The Feeling

When times get tough, we tend to think back to “better” times. Times when everything was more relaxed, less hectic, less strenuous. Images of moments come to mind that you begin to miss or miss even more. And maybe you wish you could go back to those times and lose yourself in a bubble of the past. Maybe, you only realize how blessed those times actually were.

It is strange how we hold on to the pieces of the past
while we wait for our futures.

Ally Condie

This happened to me because the last few years and especially the past months have become very stressful due to my two jobs. The one is what I love to do and is turning out wonderfully. The other one (my employed job) I started for creating a financial foundation and into which I’ve slipped deeper and deeper, even though it’s not my dream job anyway. Now I can’t just walk away because of my increased responsibilities, even though I desperately need the time for my own growing business. So emotional and physical stress is the result. Since then, certain moments have come to mind that I have thoroughly enjoyed, and it reminded me of the feeling of being grounded, centered, and totally on purpose. And there it was: The image in my head is just the trigger that connects to the feeling I loved to feel. It reminds me of the feeling that I miss. It’s not the moment or the time I’m missing, it’s the feeling itself.

Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling.

Margaret Lee Runbeck

We can’t turn back time. We evolve, we grow, we unfold, we expand. With every single step we take every day, we become a better version of ourselves. Also, part of the problem may be that we miss the feeling we experienced with certain people who are no longer with us. People come and go. Children grow up and leave the nest. So we can’t reconstruct the circumstances of the past to get that feeling back, which is not advisable anyway, even if we could. Because then we would turn away from life and live past reality. We have to revive this longed-for feeling by considering what we can do or change to get closer to this goal TODAY. It is possible but as individual as the person himself. It may need a leap of consciousness, like a clear inner decision based on the intention to do whatever it takes to enjoy this life and make it worth living. Although we cannot turn back time, we can create new happiness. Once we get there, the memories lose (a lot of) their melancholy and instead push life in a direction where more inner happiness can unfold as a result.

Ultimately, it is always about inner satisfaction.
And there are countless ways to achieve it
even if circumstances have changed.
Nothing in this physical world has been made to last forever,
but what arises in your inner world outlasts everything.

In Love and Light

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The purpose of my blog is to inspire and shine a light on the beauty and power of the wonderful being inside your body. You came into this world to share what only you can give. Remember who you really are, conquer the world the way you always wanted to, and become the blessing to us all that you were meant to be.


Strive for a constant state of joy, happiness is fleeting but in our times of stress and frustration those moments of feeling that overall happiness can make a huge difference.

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I think that is what tears us down. These days, it is difficult to remain in that inner and centered joy. And that is why we may miss it even more which can lead to a negative spiral. But since we can feel whatever we decide to, we can create a positive spiral as well. Thank you for the comment, Sylvester.


We are always being pulled from our center of gravity in one way or another. It is not always easy but we can reclaim our joy and positivity. You’re very welcome always, Erika.

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I think in the end, we only need that inner peace. No achievement, no possession, and no volatile and changeable emotion can be more precious than that. Once we have that inner peace, we are content. Once we are content… there is nothing we miss anymore. Thank you very much, Jan.

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Erika, I love Margaret Runbeck’s quote. It is akin to a team playing all season toward a common goal of winning the championship. And, once they win it, the satisfaction is less fulfilling than the chase together to win. Keith

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You are right, Keith. It confirms in some way the saying: The path is the goal. Once the goal is reached there is nothing to go for anymore. Something new needs to be chased and that with the amazingly powerful experience of having it reached as a team. There is nothing more connecting, I think.


It is interesting what you said here. Because I experience something similar about home. I still love exploring the world but there is no better place than home. I think it is a huge gift when we can say this. Thank you very much, Gail.

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Magic dear lady. Those words are from that place within, the wisdom that it all creates my friend. And it is being expressed beautifully. They are indeed the push and pull of our hearts, adjusting, letting pieces that no longer work go, and sometimes we don’t want to let go because we think they are our comfort zone, our safety. But beyond is something even greater, and when seen, as we now do towards our past, realize its beauty and finally appreciate what we had found and now a part of who we are. Our gift is hatching, that love increasing as each layer is shed to reveal another beautiful part of what we really are beneath it all. Great post Erika, that inner beauty is singing well. Shine on dear lady, shine on ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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You captured that so wonderfully again, Mark. Yes, indeed, all of those experiences and events trigger emotions in us and maybe emotions we already missed before we were reminded of them. I love what you said about that pull and push of the heart until we break it open and find what encompasses everything we ever wanted to feel.
Thank you so much, for your comment. I always appreciate it a lot that you take the time for reading and for commenting so detailed and inspiring, Mark 💖

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Thank you kind lady. But I am actually enjoying feeling a heart blossom (its actually better than chocolate, but don’t tell anyone I said that 😂), over these last few years. You are daring to step into life and ‘feel’ its truth, go through and beyond it to discover what love really means 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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It would be one single step but can become such a long journey since we tend to make u-turns over u-turns until we finally knock on our heart’s door. Thank you for the inspiration always, Mark 💖

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Thank you, Sis. When I looked at that moment in the past, I had that feeling again… and that was what I missed. I never thought about it this way before.


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