Who But I Is Entitled To Tell Me Who To Be?

waynedyer1-2x.jpgEverybody has their dark spots, their quirks, their challenges, their achievements, their successes, their joys, and their weak spots. Some people act in their quirks and with that can hit another person’s weak spot. Sometimes it is not even easy to say what exactly it was that brought inner turmoil to the other one. It may be a change in the energy of the counterpart which makes the said things feel differently. And maybe only those two persons feel it. Now, what to do?


Yes, it can be discussed but sometimes an invisible knife can take the ability to think clearly and to have the necessary strength to talk about it. It can make you voiceless and insecure. What is most important to know is that whatever knife was thrown deliberately or unconsciously has more to do with the person who threw it than with the target. We never know why other people throw knives. Perhaps it was triggered by a memory, a word, or any (innocent) behavior of someone around them. So much happens unconsciously and reflexively. All of a sudden the emotion appears and that person just goes along with it. Probably, they are not even aware of what happens to them. They don’t realize that their energy changed and that they develop an offensive and violative attitude, hurting others personally.


I am a person who lets others be the way they are. Everybody is unique and has their own stories. They are entitled to develop from the place they come from and don’t have to follow general rules to adjust their personality. To me, this is respect for the individual. And I demand the same respect for myself as I grant it to others. I can become deeply hurt when others go beyond that limit line and strike that certain chord inside of me which seems to disturb my most inner privacy to simply have the right to be who I want to be. And here we go again: Although, it is not easy in those moments I have to remind myself to let them be who they are. If they need to play with knives then so they shall do it. I need to remember that what they do has to do with them in the first place. In this awareness, I can distance myself from the energy which tries to suffocate me and makes me act against my own conviction:
Let them be the way they are because you cannot know what makes them do what they do. 
In fact, this makes compassionate and lifts above the situation.


In those moments, you are the one who changes the energy again instead of aligning with it. You are not obliged to accept what others throw at you neither are you obliged to share their emotions or defending yourself only because the other one has a problem with who you are. You are amazing and that is everything you need to know!

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The purpose of my blog is to inspire and shine a light on the beauty and power of the wonderful being inside your body. You came into this world to share what only you can give. Remember who you really are, conquer the world the way you always wanted to, and become the blessing to us all that you were meant to be.


Erika, great posts seasoned by wonderful quotes. A friend, who is a school counselor, shared with my wife a life lesson she tells the students. “Don’t give your power away.” She would add “If you do not take offense, then you are not offended.” Keith

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Great life messages Erika. So many people want to bring others down, and the reason is usually that they have a very low self-esteem. If they can bring you down to their level (or lower), it closes “the gap” between you which makes them feel relatively happier.

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That is such a good point, Colin. Yes, absolutely! When they are not open enough for more ways they try to tie you to your way which gives them a feeling of power… although it is an absolute illusion and that “happiness” dissolves soon again. Since they don’t see the misunderstanding (which would be a sign of opening up) they keep up their attitude and the frustration only grows,

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We are so quickly criticizing or judging others when they don’t fit our picture of life or of living. I think right because I made the experience how suffocating and respectless it feels I got aware of not acting the same way!

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Know this all to well. When people fail to understand you because your unique spirit and nature and how you go about living life, they tend to become judgemental and the invisible knives are thrown. We have to be who we are and let people be and definitely not adjust who we are to fit someone else’s perception of who we should be. Solid and very uplifting post!

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Absolutely! We have to be who we are and at the same time grant others the same in their attitude! I think we all get bothered from time to time with such situations 😉


I like what you said. Yes, not being who we were created to be or in progress to become is rather unappreciative towards the creator.


That why it is important to stay on course when people try to throw us off course. For sure the Creator will bring along the right people to help keep us on course.

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