Your life is going well. You are not bothering too much with tasks of occasional challenges. You are easy-going which makes you face the task just as something that has to be done. You are not in need to keep yourself positive, you simply are.
All of a sudden something happens that turns that easy-going attitude upside down. Something that you thought you had control over like your health or an outcome you never questioned. Have you lived a misunderstanding by now? Is life more complicated? Now you start pondering in general… and only start making it complicated. You are finding things to worry about you never thought of before and after a while, life seems overwhelming. You want to be that easy-going person again who just moved forward step by step and did wonderfully in going with the flow.
One day a friend was sitting in a course together with other people and for no obvious reason he got dizzy and lost consciousness for a moment. It was embarrassing, of course, and also shocking because his body acted in an unusual way and caught him off guard. He got it checked and whatever it was, it was a one-time occurrence. All was well with him. But it shattered his former steadfastness and confidence. Since then, he experiences that physical feeling more often and in turns, he feels sick in his stomach. It happens more likely when he is in a closed room with a lot of people, in a bus, or anywhere he cannot just leave. He is afraid that it could happen right then again, although there is no obvious reason to think so. Those fearful thoughts already create a sense of weakness. And once he feels the slightest signs his focus and fear of “it starts again” intensify the “symptoms”. The more his body confirms his expectations the more concerned he is. Although he knows that it is all in his head, he is caught in a vicious circle. Now how to break that spell?
A thought becomes an emotion, an emotion leads to an action, and an action causes events. The experience we create from it is what we store in our mind. The next time in a similar situation, the mind will open that file again and sends the former experience which feeds our thoughts and emotions… Repeated thoughts and experiences feed our belief system. Whatever we believe is an imagination. Whatever we imagine as our truth is what we experience. We direct and control our body’s functions that way – in which way ever. We can heal it (please, read Chiara’s story) and we can also make it sick. The more we are convinced about that ability the more we are in control of the direction. It starts with a thought, continues in an emotion, and results in a reaction of the body. It is all connected. But still, that knowledge alone may not help. We need to detach from the grip of fear and look at the situation from a higher perspective. As soon as we experience detachment we understand something essential: When we can detach from something it can impossibly be part of ourselves. That means holding on to it is a choice.
How to detach is the more difficult question because it is so individual. Meditation can help. Also talking to someone can bring some relief and insights. A very good way to distance from those destructive reflexive thought pattern is sport. It helps to release inner tensions, concentrate on something completely different, fuel your body with oxygen, and simply dive in into a world next to your daily life. What supports the effect is making sport in a group. There you have people to talk about other subjects than you are used to. If not sports than also a new hobby is doing it too. It all fills your life with more content and makes that old issue appear much smaller. It simply loses priority. But there is more!
We need to get the false program out of the system and replace it with one we feel better about. It doesn’t help to tell yourself not to think of it and that you will be fine. Because right then, you focus on it even more. We need to ask ourselves the question how it would need to be that I don’t bother anymore. Then we can create an environment – a picture, a conviction – which makes us feel safe. Like our brain links the bad experience with something in our daily life, we need to find a link to something that gives us a good feeling. That way we are able to reprogram our subconsciousness. When we have to be in a small room every day and it feels oppressing feel the wideness coming through the window. If there is no window imagine a hole in the ceiling or in the wall next to you or even imagine the wall transparent. Just a spontaneous idea…. the possibilities of imagination are endless and are individual. For the beginning, you can also use talisman, take along a bottle of water, a snack, herbal essences, “emergency” medication, or whatever along. Not necessarily to take it but to feel safer by having it with you.
Perhaps we cannot control everything around us but for sure a lot about us! We are who we think we are and we are free to think what we want to think. We are not the victims of our thoughts but their creators. Once we are able to control our thoughts we have a life filled with unlimited opportunities.
In Love and Light
On a side note: I don’t say that when someone has health problems they only got them because they focused on getting them. But it is one of the factors that can influence the health condition big way. I know some people in my surrounding who were afraid of particular diseases or believed to get them one day… and after a while, their bodies replied.